Caregiving for the Caregiver

If you have an aging loved one, its natural that you want their later years to be happy, fulfilling and comfortable. You also understand its not just their physical needs that need tending to their mental and emotional health is equally important. However, issues like cognitive degeneration, social isolation and poor sleep in later years can all negatively impact mood and wellbeing, leading to issues including anxiety, depression and paranoia. Although paranoia in elderly people is relatively common and generally isnt dangerous, it can certainly be upsetting no one wants to imagine their parent, spouse or family member in distress, especially if you cant always be there to soothe them. Thats why having a professional in-home caregiver can provide a stable and reassuring presence not just for your loved one, but for you as well. What Signs of Paranoia Should I Look Out For? Research shows us that there is indeed a link between aging and mental health conditions like paranoia, which falls under the category of psychosis, which is when an individual is separated from reality and therefore sees, hears or believes things that arent real. Common symptoms include thinking they are being followed, believing theyve been robbed when an item has been misplaced, being convinced people are talking about them behind their back, hearing strange noises, or an unfounded conviction that they are being mistreated. These feelings are often accompanied by strong negative emotions such as anger, fear and jealousy. What Triggers Paranoia in Older People? There are a number of conditions and situations that can lead to paranoia in elderly loved ones. While some of these conditions can be easily identified and treated, others may be more difficult to diagnose and remedy. These include:         Degenerative conditions like Alzheimers and dementia, which affect memory and cognitive function         Certain medications which can cause irritability or hallucinations         Brain tumors and vascular conditions, such as a stroke or blood clots         Urinary tract infections, which can trigger sudden confusion and delirium if left untreated         Social isolation, particularly in seniors living alone As with any health concern, if you are worried paranoia is impacting your loved ones daily life, then you should speak to their physician as soon as you can. How to Help a Loved One Experiencing Paranoia  Seeing your loved one getting anxious or upset can be difficult, but its important not to react with anger or frustration or to let things escalate into an argument. Instead, some easy steps you can take to help include: Investigate their concerns. Sadly, unscrupulous people do often take advantage of vulnerable older people, so always double check to ensure this is not the case. Check assistance devices. Make sure hearing aids are working properly and glasses prescriptions are up to date. Maintain a routine. Avoid changing schedules, moving furniture or even rearranging cupboards. Consider professional assistance. Regular visits from a private home caregiver, particularly one trained in dementia care or mental health in older adults, can help provide stability, routine and sense of calm. Other Benefits of Professional Senior Care While we know that you want to do everything possible to keep your loved one safe and happy, there are times when coping with their paranoia can be tough and even overwhelming especially if you are dealing with accusations of theft or mistreatment or have other responsibilities to worry about. This is when a professional caregiver can provide expert assistance, as they are trained in dealing with distressed or angry individuals and understand how to navigate these difficult situations. On the other hand, introducing a new person into the home is a change, and paranoid individuals can often be suspicious or mistrusting of a new caregiver, so it needs to be handled sensitively and sympathetically. At FirstLight, we understand how important trust is and will take the time to get to know your loved one and build a relationship they can rely on. For those at risk of social isolation, regular visits also provide company, conversation and valuable human connection. Share the Burden of Care With FirstLight  Its true that no one can understand your loved one as well as you do, and nothing can replace the bond you have with them. But that doesnt mean there wont be times when you could use a little extra support. At FirstLight Home Care, our compassionate, professional team of in-home caregivers is specially trained to manage symptoms of paranoia in elderly patients so if youd like help from someone wholl take the time to get to know your loved one and do more to help them live their fullest life, reach out to the team at FirstLight about a personalized care plan today.  Call us today at 612-473-3227 for further information.  

When looking for senior care, many people search for an individual home caregiver because they dont know what their options are. However, they are often unprepared for the risks of hiring a private caregiver and find some unexpected downsides, including caregiver availability and backup care for when a regular caregiver isnt accessible. Instead of directly hiring a caregiver on their own, many families looking for private caregivers find they prefer the flexibility and reliability of a home care agency. With high-quality caregivers and consistent service built to suit your loved ones needs, a home care agency can give you complete peace of mind. Get Caregivers Backed by a Team When you work with a home care agency, you dont just get an individual caregiver; you get an entire team. Your caregiver or caregivers are supported by a group of other caregivers and expert staff who provide additional resources and backup. If your regular caregiver is unavailable for any reason, the agency will send a substitute caregiver to cover for them. You can rest assured knowing that even if the caregiver calls in sick or changes jobs, your loved one will still receive the best care available. Get an Agency-Crafted Care Plan Home care agencies dont just handle the basics. Theyll also customize your loved ones care to meet to ensure their unique needs are met. Independent seniors living alone might need simple personal care services, while those with serious health issues may need more intensive assistance, and a home care agency knows exactly how to handle each level of care needed. Before care begins, a good home care agency will send an expert staff member to consult with you and your loved one about the level of care needed. Theyll listen with kindness and empathy, and work to understand your unique needs. By asking insightful questions based on their experience, theyre often able to identify needs that seniors werent even aware of. Once theyve taken stock of the needs, challenges and situation at hand, your agency will work with you to build a care plan. This plan will guide caregivers from day one, showing them the best ways to aid and comfort your loved one. From shifting schedules to evolving medical needs, your loved one might not always need the same kind of care. Thats why your agency will check with you periodically to see how the plan is working. You can also reach out to them and modify the plan at any time. Get Proven Caregivers Home care agencies like FirstLight Home Care hire caregivers carefully. They perform interviews, assessments and detailed background checks to ensure every caregiver is empathetic, trustworthy and able to perform all in-home caregiver job duties. Many agencies also give their caregivers professional training, so you can rest assured that your caregiver has the right skills to help your loved one. Many of them also have caregivers specifically trained to help with conditions like dementia and ALS. Performance Management Home care agencies know how important it is that your loved one receives top-quality care that specifically meets their needs, and hold themselves and their caregivers to high standards. You always know your loved one is in the hands of a well-trained, accountable caregiver who genuinely looks out for them. Get Peace of Mind with FirstLight Home Care Excellent home care, like the care given by FirstLight Home Care providers, doesnt just provide support for your loved one, it also gives you peace of mind. Avoid the stress, complications and risks of hiring a private caregiver with FirstLight on your side, youll always know that your loved one is in the ands of a capable team that puts their well-being first. If youre ready to get have an expert in-home caregiver team on your side, wed love to learn about their needs. Contact us and well connect you with a FirstLight team in your area!   

Marita Ellers* was lucky. Her parents lived three blocks away in Greater Detroit. She enjoyed a close relationship with them and could tend to their needs as they continued to age, which was well into their 90s. They both passed away when Marita entered her 60s as she helped with their hospice care needs. But having never married, and with only a chronically ill brother and sister-in-law living in Seattle, reality set in when Marita needed major surgery which would incapacitate her for weeks or possibly months.Unlike her parents who had her to depend on, Marita had no one. Of course there was her circle of friends, but as it turned out most were married. Shed never thought about cultivating relationships with single people; it had just never occurred to her. Her married friends had busy lives of their own with spouses, adult children, and grandchildren, and the last thing Marita wanted to do was impose on them during a long recuperation.Ellers is part of a growing trend of elder orphans and solo agers: individuals ages 55-plus who live alone without a spouse, partner, children, or other family around at all, or if they are around, they cannot be relied upon sometimes due to family dynamics. In short, these individuals have no real support networkno safety net. In a survey of 500 elder orphans, nearly 70 percent hadnt identified someone to help them with health problems, while 35 percent had no friends or family to begin with who could help.Studies show the demographics numbers are on the rise and the group is so ubiquitous, it even has its own Facebook page with nearly 10,000 members to provide support through shared experiences. If you fall into this category, what are some of the steps you can take to prepare for successful aging?Planning to Live as a Solo AgerThe best kind of plan for almost anything is, naturally, to plan. If we dont do that, we may leave critical decisions to disconnected relatives, acquaintances, or ultimately overburdened, court-appointed strangers who have no idea what we need and want. Considering herself staunchly independent, Maritas lack of planning was twofold: she was in denial about her own aging process, and at the same time she figured the experience of seeing her parents through lifes end stages would enable her to apply all that knowledge to herself if the time came.While in some respects her experience puts her a step ahead of many of her contemporaries, her reasoning does not allow for what can happen when her mobility is compromised, cognitive capacity is diminished, or myriad other conditions where she may need more help than she can give to herself. Maritas upcoming surgery was a wake-up call, making her acutely aware of what steps she should have taken and scrambling to put as many as possible in place.Understand the Levels Between Senior Independence and Assisted LivingYesface things and research them, laying them out as early and comprehensively as you can. Avoidance will only get you so far. The antidote for anxiety, feeling isolated, and depressionthree issues elder orphans and solo agers have expressed are problems for themis action. Goethe said, Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid. Keren Brown Wilson, known as the pioneer of assisted living, says there are many steps and levels between independence and dependence. She recommends interdependence: a mutual reliance on one another on the path to better aging.Think about trained caregivers for when you may need help with activities of daily living (ADLs) and a fiduciary or senior care advisor for your financial needs including Long-Term Care insurance. Go out and cultivate friendships if you dont already have them with other elder orphans or solo agers. People in similar situations may have more time to give you if the need arises, as you can give to them.Build a Senior Support Network That WorksIf you dont know how to go about something, network with people in your community. This may include professionals and others you know at work, where you volunteer, doctors, dentists, lawyers, librarians, teachers, salon and store owners, as well as neighbors. We all age and ahead of that most of us have aging parents or had parents who got up in years. That kind of personal experience is invaluable in terms of recommending others they trust who can help you put things in order now and down the line.Communities for Successful AgingGet Involved!With the rising tide of graying Baby Boomers, city and business leaders and policymakers need to embrace the task of developing solutions for better aging. This needs to be done on a nationwide basis. Elder orphans and solo agers are affected at even deeper levels than their counterparts who are surrounded by family and friends in a position to help. In some locations, there are more resources already in place in the realm of affordable transportation, technology training, respite care, senior advocacy, nutrition oversight, and home health care. But we have a long way to go.If you are an elder orphan or solo ager looking for involvement in your own community, turning your attention to the cause can bring awareness and even expedite results from which everyone can benefit.(* Name has been changed for purposes of anonymity.)