What happens when the roles are flipped? One day your parents are independent, seemingly healthy, on their own, and enjoying life. They come for a visit, take the grandkids to the park, and treat everyone to a nice night out for dinner. It’s a wonderful time and everyone has fun. Sure, they have a few annoying quirks, and you feel like you’re constantly repeating yourself to your mom, but you look past that during the week. After all, it’s only for a short time and then everything will be back to normal.
A month later your dad has an accident while cleaning out the garage and ends up in the hospital. While in the hospital they see something suspicious in his lab work and immediately call Oncology for a consult. Your Dad has been diagnosed with cancer and treatment is recommended immediately. Your mom is home alone, and you don’t worry too much about that, because you just saw her a month ago and she’ll be ok on her own. The most important thing is getting dad taken care of.
Mom doesn’t drive any longer, so she has a friend taking her to the hospital to visit a few times a week. A week goes by, and you get a call that your mom seems very different since the accident. You ask a few questions and after the friend digs a little deeper, you learn Mom hasn’t been taking her medications properly. It also looks like she hasn’t been eating much and you discover she’s been living on tea and toast for over a week, and you become concerned for her safety at home.
You quickly take some time off work to go visit dad, and stay at the house with your mom. This is the moment everything in your life changes. The house is a disaster, your mom has been wearing the same clothes and washing her undergarments out in the sink if she remembers. You keep asking yourself, “how could mom change so quickly?” You talk to your dad about mom at the hospital, he finally tells you what he’s been hiding for years. If he’s by your mom’s side most people have no idea how much care and oversight she needs (including her own children). You discover dad has been protecting his wife and doing everything from shopping, cleaning, cooking, and managing mom’s meds. Suddenly you realize it’s been years since you’ve ever spent any time with either of them alone. They are ALWAYS together and out of nowhere; you realize mom can’t be alone and you’ll need to do something fast to help the situation.
Just like that, your life is completely different. Instead of worrying about taking care of your own children, you now must figure out how you’re going to take care of your parents. You take mom back home with you, dad stays in the hospital for another month and transfers to Skilled Nursing for rehab. When he’s finally discharged there is no way he can manage the house safely on his own, so he moves into your home too. In 3 months, your parents went from what you thought was completely independent to virtually dependent on you for everything.
These things happen all the time, and life’s pendulum can swing from one end to the other in an instant. You are now the primary caregiver for both of your elderly parents, and your own children and you still have a spouse. What you saw three months ago during their visit is an eternity away from what you see now.
What do you do? Where do you start? Who can help? You are NOT alone and there are people whose full-time job is to help those that find themselves in this type of situation.
There are many wonderful resources and options available to people who find themselves in this situation. AARP, the Alzheimer’s Association, Townsquare, Caring Connections, Department of Veterans Affairs, Medicare.gov, and Senior Blue Book just to name a few.
Once you learn the options available that best suit your needs and the needs of your loved one, you can evaluate what’s going to be right for you (and for them). Is it in-home care assistance, adult day care, assisted living, downsizing of a home, an elder law attorney, or financial services? You may need help selling a home, conducting an estate sale, moving to a new location, and generally changing everything you knew as “normal” as recently as a few months ago. Many of these things you’ll be learning about for the first time and there are many people ready to help you. You are not alone and the most important thing you remember is to also take care of yourself through it all. An exhausted and overwhelmed caregiver is no good to anyone and is at risk of getting sick, burnt out, or depressed. If you find yourself in this type of situation, never be afraid to ask for help! Town Square is quick to offer resources, please reach out to our center for more information about the resources available.
Town Square University Parkway is a 1950s-themed senior center and adult day program serving Sarasota and Bradenton. Designed to look like a mid-century town, it features storefronts like a diner, theater, art studio, garage, and library that support reminiscence therapyhelping seniors, especially those with dementia, stay engaged and connected.Families consistently give FIVE-STAR reviews, praising the compassionate staff, fun environment, and the noticeable difference it makes in their loved ones lives. One caregiver shared, This program has been a godsend to our entire family.More than just a day center, Town Square offers on-site medical care, including primary care, psychiatric care, therapy services and lab workcreating a one-stop solution for families.Weekly caregiver support groups and educational events include FREE respite care. This gives caregivers a much-needed break while helping them gain the tools and resources they need to successfully support a loved one living with a cognitive impairment.With its unique setting and whole-person approach, Town Square University Parkway is transforming the way we care for seniors in our community, from $18-$21 an hour. FREE for qualifying Veterans. Visit us at 8450 Lockwood Ridge Rd, Sarasota, FL 34243, or call (941) 277-5048 to learn more.
From Hospital Discharge to Safe Recovery: Western PA Resources Every Family Should KnowLeaving the hospital is just the first step in recovery. In Western Pennsylvaniawhere seniors often live independently in suburban and rural communitiescareful planning and the right support can dramatically reduce readmissions and help loved ones regain strength at home. Heres a roadmap of essential resources every family should know.Key Transitional Support ServicesTransitioning home safely involves coordinating medical care, home supports, and community resources. Below are five cornerstone programs and agencies that work together to smooth that transition.How These Resources Work TogetherDischarge Planning (UPMC & Other Hospitals)Beginning 12 days before discharge, your hospitals discharge planner will draft a personalized plan covering medications, follow-up appointments, home-safety needs, and recommended home-health services upmc.comupmc.com.Transition Coaching (WPA CCTP)Within 30 days of referral, a coach from the Community Care Transitions Program meets with youeither in-hospital or at hometo ensure youve connected with home-health agencies, durable medical equipment suppliers, and your Area Agency on Aging cms.gov.Home Health & Nursing SupportAgencies like the Visiting Nurses Association provide skilled nursing visits, physical or occupational therapy, and remote monitoring to catch complications earlyreducing emergency calls and readmissions.Medical Advocacy & Ongoing CoordinationIf multiple providers are involved or care plans shift, IKORs RN Patient Advocates help coordinate across specialists, clarify orders, and adjust support levelsso nothing falls through the cracks.Long-Term Supports & Caregiver ResourcesCounty Area Agencies on Aging and organizations like Family Caregiver Alliance offer workshops, respite care grants, home-modification assistance, and peer coachinghelping families sustain safe, dignified care over weeks and months.Tips for a Smooth TransitionBe Proactive: Meet your discharge planner early. Prepare questions about home adaptations, medication side effects, and warning signs.Engage Multiple Resources: Dont rely on a single agencycombine nursing visits, transition coaching, and caregiver education for comprehensive support.Secure Home-Safety Improvements: Ask your Area Agency on Aging about minor repair programs (grab bars, ramps) before discharge.Use 24/7 Support Lines: Keep IKOR or your home-health agency on-call number handy for any urgent medication or care-coordination issues.Plan Follow-Up Appointments Immediately: Schedule primary care and specialist visits within 710 days of discharge to catch early complications.A coordinated, multi-agency approach transforms a potentially risky homecoming into a confident, well-supported recovery journey. If youre planning a hospital discharge for a loved one in Western Pennsylvania, reach out to CarePatrol of Western Pennsylvania for a free consultation. Well help you navigate these programs, arrange tours of post-acute care providers, and ensure a safe, smooth recovery at home.
How to Stay Safe When Living Alone: Practical Tips for SeniorsLiving alone offers independence, freedom, and comfortbut it also comes with unique safety concerns, especially for older adults. Whether you're aging in place by choice or circumstance, taking steps to stay safe can bring peace of mind to you and your loved ones.From fall prevention to emergency planning, here are practical tips for staying safe, secure, and confident while living on your own. 1. Prevent Falls at HomeFalls are one of the most common safety risks for seniors. The good news is that many are preventable with a few simple changes: Remove tripping hazards like throw rugs, loose cords, and clutter. Install grab bars in bathrooms near the toilet and inside the shower or tub. Use non-slip mats in wet areas like the kitchen and bathroom. Ensure good lighting in all rooms, especially hallways and staircases. Wear supportive, non-slip shoes indoors instead of socks or slippers. Keep frequently used items within easy reach to avoid climbing or bending. 2. Invest in a Medical Alert SystemIn an emergency, a medical alert device can be a lifesaver. These systems allow you to call for help with the press of a buttonsome even offer fall detection and GPS tracking. Choose a system that suits your needs (wristband, necklace, or wall-mounted). Look for 24/7 monitoring and an easy-to-use interface. Let family members know how the system works. 3. Stay Connected with Family and FriendsRegular communication not only combats lonelinessit also keeps others aware of your well-being. Set up daily or weekly check-ins with loved ones. Join phone trees or neighborhood watch groups. Use video calls or text messaging to stay in touch more frequently. If you're ever unable to reach out, those regular check-ins could alert someone quickly if somethings wrong. 4. Secure Your HomeHome security helps deter intruders and gives you confidence when living alone. Always lock doors and windows, even when youre home. Install a peephole or video doorbell so you can see whos at the door without opening it. Use motion-sensor lights around entryways. Avoid sharing personal information or travel plans on social media. 5. Create an Emergency PlanBeing prepared gives you control and helps you act quickly if needed. Keep a list of emergency contacts, including family, neighbors, and healthcare providers, in a visible place. Store important medical information (medications, allergies, health conditions) in an accessible location. Plan and practice how to exit your home in case of fire or other emergencies. Keep a flashlight, batteries, and a charged cell phone nearby at all times. 6. Be Cautious with StrangersUnfortunately, seniors living alone can be targets for scams or fraud. Protect yourself by: Never giving personal or financial information over the phone or internet unless you initiated the contact. Being cautious about unsolicited offers, especially for home repairs or investments. Reporting suspicious activity to local authorities or a trusted family member. 7. Manage Medications SafelyMedication mistakes can be serious. Stay organized with: A weekly pill organizer to track doses. Medication reminders via phone alarms or apps. Reviewing medications regularly with your doctor or pharmacist. 8. Consider a Home Safety Assessment Some organizations or healthcare providers offer in-home safety assessments to help you identify potential hazards. They may recommend simple upgrades like handrails, better lighting, or rearranging furniture.At Avondale Care Group of Pennsylvania our services are fully customizable, allowing us to create a care plan that perfectly matches your personal routines and preferences.
Specialized Care for Seniors with Alzheimers, Dementia, and ParkinsonsAt Town Square University Parkway, we specialize in creating a vibrant, interactive 1950s-themed environment designed to support seniors with Alzheimer's, various forms of dementia, and Parkinson's disease. Our adult day program is an ideal solution for seniors who experience mobility or cognitive impairments, offering them a safe and engaging space to thrive.Engaging EnvironmentOur center operates Monday to Friday, from 8:30 AM to 4:30 PM, providing a full town center with 15 different storefronts for our members to explore. This unique setup promotes independence and engagement in a secure setting, ensuring that each day is filled with opportunities for interaction and stimulation.Comprehensive Medical Model-Town Square University Parkway stands out for its true medical model, providing a range of healthcare services on-site, including:Primary Care Services, , Psychiatric Services, Lab Services, Quarterly Podiatry, Dermatology, and Audiology ServicesThis integrated approach ensures that our members receive comprehensive care without the need to travel to multiple locations.Support for Families and Caregivers- In addition to our medical services, we offer various weekly groups and activities aimed at supporting both our members and their families. These include:Support Groups, , Educational Classes, Special Events, Our goal is to enhance the quality of life for our members while providing essential support to their families and caregivers, helping everyone involved enjoy a better quality of life and enabling seniors to stay at home as long as possible.Our PhilosophyAt Town Square, we understand that cognitive and functional abilities can change over time. Our programming is designed to adapt to these changes, providing a caring and supportive environment tailored to each members needs. We believe in the importance of improving quality of life as we age, and we are passionate about serving each member as a unique individual.ToursExperience our midcentury-themed environment firsthand by scheduling a tour. We are eager to show you around our engaging adult day center. Visit our website or call us today for more information.