End-of-Life Care – Start the Conversation Today

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Oct 09, 2018

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The final chapter of our lives can be filled with difficult and emotional decisions. A rapid decline in health or an emergency can prompt family members and health care professionals to have to make critical end-of-life care choices. Our personal intentions can get lost during these often-hurried situations.
According to a survey conducted by The Conversation Project, 90 percent of Americans believe talking about end-of-life care with loved ones is important, yet 27 percent of individuals have actually done so.

Starting a conversation about end-of-life care in advance can help ensure that your intentions are respected and carried out, says Barbara Goll, B.S., Community Education Liaison at Homeland at Home. Beginning the conversation may not be easy, but it can bring you and your family peace of mind.

When you are ready to start the conversation, consider these ten tips:

1. Plan a good time to speak with your family. Potential opportunities include:

o A family gathering like a holiday.
o Before you or your family members take a trip or will be separated for a period of time.
o Prior to a serious medical procedure.

2. Decide who you want to be part of the conversation. This might include close friends, a spiritual leader and/or health care professionals, including hospice support.

3. Choose a setting that ensures you and your family members are comfortable.

4. Think about ice breakers or ways to start the conversation, such as:

o My health is good right now, but I want to be prepared for whatever may happen in the future.
o Ive been thinking about how _______ died and it has me thinking about what I want.

5. Start the conversation slowly and allow time for feedback from your family. You dont need to cover every detail at one time.

6. None of your decisions are final at this stage. The start of the conversation is a springboard for future communication.

7. Discuss hospice services to support you and your loved ones with difficult decisions, challenges and frustrations that may arise.

8. Set a date in the future to revisit this conversation as your life circumstances may change.

9. Encourage your loved ones to document their end-of-life wishes.

10. Dont get frustrated if some family members arent receptive. Keep up the effort until you feel your personal intensions will be met.

Think of hospice as a resource for you and your family, Goll says. At Homeland Hospice, we work to bring you peace of mind for your end-of-life journey.
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Editors Note: This article was contributed by Wendy Shumaker, Asst. Director of Marketing for Homeland Hospice, HomeHealth and HomeCare. Content for this article was sourced from The Conversation Project National Survey 2013.

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