Finding New Joy: Overcoming Challenges in Senior Romance

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Mar 18, 2024

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We live longer, healthier lives than ever before, which has upended many stereotypes about what it means to be over 60. More seniors are engaged and active well into their 80s and beyond. With so many more years ahead of us, it’s no surprise that dating among the senior set has also increased. Whether you have already dipped a toe into the senior dating scene or are curious about getting started, here are some helpful tips to keep in mind on your journey. 

Be Confident

Social norms are always changing. Today, it’s perfectly acceptable for you to make the first move and ask someone on a date, regardless of your background or gender. Whether you are using a smartphone dating app or website- LinkOpens in New Tab or chatting up a neighbor, having confidence in yourself is key. 

Keep an Open Mind

Don’t be too quick to judge, keep an open mind, and be an attentive listener. Ask questions. Be present in each conversation. This will make your date more engaging and enjoyable. Remember that those you are dating, like you, will have lived full lives of love, loss, hard work, and joy. This can all seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be truly thrilling to discover more about another person with a rich, full life.   

Be Upfront With Your Expectations

What are you looking to get out of a new relationship? Are there certain things that are absolutely off the table? Maybe you are seeking long-term commitment over a more casual situation. While you don’t want to rule out a potential partner right away, it can be helpful to have these conversations early on to avoid hurt feelings.

Don’t Dwell on the Past

While it can be fun to reminisce about certain moments in time, try not to dwell too much on the past- LinkOpens in New Tab on your first couple of dates. This should be time spent getting to know each other and your likes and interests. While your past informs who you are today, it’s not all that there is to enjoy. Don’t fail to mention your current hobbies and interests. Sharing them can be a lot of fun!

Be Respectful and Kind

Most first dates can be pleasant if you approach someone with kindness and respect. You’ll no doubt be nervous, but don’t forget the power of a positive attitude and a cheerful smile. Pay attention to your date and how they react to the way a conversation is going. Don’t take offense if they don’t respond how you might expect them to. A little bit of kindness can go a long way, whether you are seeking friendship or romance.

Explore New Connections at Friendship Village

Friendship Village of South Hills, a senior living community in Upper St. Clair, Pennsylvania (near Pittsburgh), is an exceptional place to pursue your passions and make new connections. Join a club, sign up for a group exercise class, or socialize over a nice meal or glass of wine. Here, every day is full of opportunity and the excitement of new adventure awaits around every corner.

Contact us to learn more! 

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Assisted Living 1296 Boyce Road, Upper Saint Clair, Pennsylvania, 15241

If you're looking for senior living in Pittsburgh, PA, or Allegheny County, Friendship Village of South Hills should be at the top of your list. Friendship Village seamlessly combines the advantages of Pittsburgh retirement communities with the security of exceptional care, the relaxed ease of small-town living, and the serene natural environment Upper St. Clair is known for. Here you'll find like-minded individuals who share your down-to-earth attitude as well as your curiosity, creativity and desire for growth. And you'll find a senior living community that is grounded, strong and adaptable. Just like you.Everyone needs a little help from time to time. When difficulty with activities such as bathing, dressing or remembering to take medications threatens your independence, the experienced senior care team members at Friendship Village Assisted Living in Pittsburgh provide the personalized assistance you need to continue living the life you desire.Unlike many other Pittsburgh assisted living facilities, Friendship Villages comfortable, all-new alcove, one- and two-bedroom apartments are specially designed to support and enhance your independence and quality of life. Our new assisted living community also offers an array of wellness programs, social activities, cultural events and other opportunities for engagement. And, of course, our care team is with you whenever you need us. Because life is better with friends by your side.

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