It Takes a Village

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Harmony Senior Referrals

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May 17, 2023

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Colorado - Denver Metro

We’ve all heard this statement for years.  The first time I heard it the reference was raising children. As the father of 12 children, I had to pause and think about that for a minute. While I didn’t really like the idea of a “village” raising my children, upon reflection, I came to an obvious conclusion that it took not just my wife and I to raise our “tribe” but also grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, a church, teachers, friends, doctors, lawyers, siblings, etc.  That just might be considered a “village” alright!

Now that the children are “mostly” grown, I have been given the opportunity to experience the next phase of my life: caring for aging parents. Just as I didn’t realize how much help would be needed to raise my children, it previously never entered my mind that I would need so much help caring for my mother and father as they aged. 

Mom has dementia at age 92 and Dad, also 92, fell and broke his hip in their living room.  Off to the hospital for Dad.  My brother who lived in another state had to drive home to care for Mom (she couldn’t function alone).  My sister had to go to the hospital for Dad several times a week although she lived 2 hours away.  Then we had to find an assisted living arrangement for the both of them.  Doctors, nurses, caregivers, family, church, neighbors and my siblings all got involved in the process of caring for my parents.  IT TOOK A VILLAGE!!!

Fortunately, we knew about senior placement companies. Not the kind you find online that just sends out emails.  I’m talking about local companies; the kind that gives you “hands on” personal service to find the right fit for your loved one. They help you unravel the complex issues of health care, geography and finances to give your loved one the best quality of life possible in their “golden” years.  These companies are a free service!  Be sure you include them in your “village” caring for your loved one.

 

Editor’s Note: This article was submitted by Walt and Britt Roberson, owners of Harmony Senior Referrals. They may be reached at 303-667-2420 or by email at harmonyseniorreferrals@gmail.com

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