Lets Talk About It!

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Mar 09, 2020

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Theres one thing that is certain in this world, yet its the one thing no one wants to think about, let alone talk about. Dying and death.

Death is the only thing in life that is guaranteed. Death is the only absolute. We dont know how it will happen or when it will happen, but we all acknowledge and understand that it will happen. So why dont we want to think about it? Why is it so challenging to talk about? The answer is that it is both a difficult and emotional concept. Perhaps our brains think that if we dont think about it, it wont happen, but we all know that is not true.
Lets reframe the discussion. Rather than thinking about death and dying, lets think about life and living. It may be more palatable to talk about how we want to live at the end of our life. It can be empowering to share our wishes for end of life care with our loved ones. If your loved ones dont know what you want, and they have to make your end of life decisions for you, its quite probable that they will have feelings of guilt wondering if they made the same decisions that you would have made.

Conversation Ready NTX is a local, grassroots organization focused on getting people to think about and share their end of life wishes. We want to help people answer the question what matters most to you at the end of your life. These are not discussions about funeral arrangements or medical interventions but rather discussions about the time period before we die. During our interactive discussions, people have mentioned things such as not being alone at the end, being near nature, having a beloved pet nearby, making sure their glasses are on, praying with family and much more.
Having the conversation about your end of life wishes is a gift to your loved ones. It provides a roadmap for those who will be making these tough and emotional decisions based on what you want and what youve shared with your loved ones.
It wont make death any less sad, but it will help guide your loved ones to make decisions about you knowing what you want.
Have the conversation today!








Editors Note: This article was submitted by Laurie Miller, founder of Conversation Ready NTX. She may be reached at 469-619-547. See article on page 146.

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