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Now What?
Your Post-Caregiving Grief Guide
“Now
what?” You may be asking yourself this question if you served as
your late loved one’s primary caregiver. You dedicated your time and talents,
lovingly and sacrificially giving yourself, having offered your heart, soul,
mind, and strength. You put your own needs and interests on hold.
Now that your loved one or friend has
died, you may feel sadness, loneliness, and an enormous void left by the loved
one. But you may also feel a measure of relief. You’re not only grieving the
loved one or friend that was lost, but you are also at a loss. You’re likely
grappling with two basic post-caregiving questions: Who am I after having been a caregiver? What shall I do now?
But how do you do this? You can begin
to identify who you are apart from your loved one by asking yourself three
questions: Who were you before your
loved one came into your life? Who were you when he/she was in your life? Who are you now without that person in your life? Asking yourself
these questions to help determine who you are as an independent person is an
essential part of making it through your journey of grief.
Borrowing a principle from career
counseling may also be helpful in your grief recovery. This principle asserts
that you can find your new calling or new identity at the intersection of your
strengths, your interests, and what most benefits others. Work on finding this
intersection, as you drive the detour of grief, and you may very well discover
ways to reinvest your life.
Others may come alongside you to give care, comfort, and support for a time. But your grief journey will continue until you define and redefine yourself after their death. Death changes the roles we play, and these roles help to define us.
Another factor in identifying who you
are independent of your loved one involves reviewing the various interests and
activities you may have participated in because of, or with, your loved one.
Will you continue to do these things without your loved one?
As you work on your grief recovery—and
as you work on finding a new sense of purpose post-caregiving—let me close with
a word of encouragement. You may still be feeling mad, sad, or bad about your
loved one’s death; or, you may feel as if you died with them; or, you may still
feel that you’ll never adjust to a “new normal” without them. While
feeling adrift or at a loss, “Now what?” is
a perfectly natural and, sometimes necessary, response.
Be assured, you’ll always remember
your loved one. You’ll also remember your grief and pain, but as you work
through your grief on this long journey, the pain will decrease and not be as
intense. In time, you will heal. In time, you will move into
a new normal, enjoying a revitalized life.
While there are many evidences which
suggest that your grief journey is drawing to a close, here are four major
evidences you’ll want to look for:
You are able to talk about your deceased loved one and recall
special memories without strong emotional reactions like breaking down crying
or feeling significant pain.
You have dealt with all the feelings (such as anger, guilt, or
sadness) that you may have felt about your relationship with the
deceased. You can be by yourself and not feel intense loneliness or
yearning for your deceased loved one.
You made decisions about the disposition of their things and have
chosen few keepsakes, having sorted and stored special memories to be retrieved
and reviewed.
You feel confident as a complete and whole person in
yourself. You are able to smile again, and you feel you have positive
things to contribute to others.
—Gary Bruland, Bereavement Counselor, Grane Hospice Harrisburg
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As individuals age, it is natural for them to experience changes in their physical, cognitive, and emotional well-being. These changes can lead to a loss of independence, which can be a source of frustration and anxiety for many seniors. Maintaining independence is critical for seniors to lead a fulfilling and happy life, and it is especially important for those who are living in a senior living community. One of the primary reasons why maintaining independence is important for seniors living in a senior living community is that it helps them maintain a sense of purpose and identity. Many seniors have spent their entire lives working, raising families, and pursuing hobbies and interests. When they move into a senior living community, they may feel like they have lost some of these important aspects of their lives. By maintaining their independence, seniors can continue to pursue their passions and interests, whether it's playing bridge with friends, gardening, or volunteering in the local community. This sense of purpose and identity can be a significant factor in improving their quality of life. Another important reason why maintaining independence is important in senior living is that it helps seniors maintain their physical and cognitive abilities. When seniors rely too heavily on others for assistance, they may become less active and more sedentary. This, in turn, can lead to a decline in physical health and cognitive function. By maintaining their independence, seniors can continue to engage in activities that keep them physically and mentally active, such as walking, dancing, or playing games. These activities can help improve their overall health and well-being, reducing their risk of chronic conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, and dementia. Maintaining independence can also help seniors maintain their social connections. Many seniors move into senior living communities to be closer to friends and family members. However, if they become too dependent on others for assistance, they may start to feel like a burden on their loved ones. By maintaining their independence, seniors can continue to engage in social activities and maintain their relationships with others. This can help reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation, which can have negative impacts on their mental health. So, how can seniors maintain their independence while living in a senior living community? One way is to take advantage of the services and amenities offered by the community. For example, our senior living community offers transportation services, which can help seniors maintain their independence by allowing them to continue to go out and do the things they enjoy. Additionally, our community offers exercise classes, social activities, and other programs that can help seniors stay active and engaged. Another way seniors can maintain their independence is by being proactive about their health and well-being. This can include eating a healthy diet, getting enough exercise, and staying on top of their medical appointments and medications. By taking care of their physical and mental health, seniors can reduce their reliance on others for assistance and maintain their independence for as long as possible. Senior living communities can provide the support and resources necessary to help seniors maintain their independence, and ultimately, it is up to the individual to determine how much assistance they would like.
In the realm of healthcare, continuity of care stands as a cornerstone of effective treatment and patient satisfaction. At Granny NANNIES, weve consistently heard from clients about the invaluable benefits of having a regular caregiver. Beyond just providing comfort and familiarity, continuity of care plays a crucial role in early problem recognition and optimal chronic disease management.Recognizing Small Problems Before They Become Big IssuesOne of the most significant advantages of continuity of care is the ability to detect subtle changes in a patients health or behavior early on. Unlike sporadic visits from different caregivers, a consistent caregiver develops a deep understanding of their patients baseline health. This familiarity allows them to notice deviations that might indicate the onset of a health issue. For instance, a caregiver who notices slight changes in an elderly patients energy levels or appetite can prompt earlier intervention, potentially preventing more serious complications down the road.Optimizing Chronic Disease ManagementFor individuals managing chronic conditions, continuity of care is particularly beneficial. Patients with conditions like diabetes or hypertension often require ongoing monitoring and adjustment of treatment plans. A regular caregiver who understands the nuances of a patients condition and history can make more informed decisions about their care. This includes recognizing trends in health metrics, adhering to prescribed medications, and providing timely lifestyle adviceall of which contribute to better disease management outcomes.Building Trust and ConfidenceBeyond the clinical benefits, continuity of care fosters a trusting relationship between caregivers and patients. Over time, patients develop confidence in their caregivers ability to provide personalized care that considers their unique needs and preferences. This trust is crucial in encouraging patients to communicate openly about their health concerns, leading to more effective care delivery and improved patient satisfaction.