The Dementia Diagnosis

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Nov 18, 2020

Hearing a loved one receive a dementia diagnosis is among the hardest news a person could hear. My grandmas diagnosis left a defining impact on my family. Fortunately,adequate preparation can lead to less stress on you and a better quality of life for your loved one. At Oasis Senior Advisors, we love to help families solve these problems before they happen.
First, understand that some cognitive decline is completely normal. Signs of normal cognitive decline include:

More thinking time
Multitasking becomes more difficult
Some new information, like technology, can be difficult to learn
Common, everyday tasks take longer

If youre worried your loved one may be suffering from dementia, see a physician. We encourage our families to see a neurologist or other clinic that specializes in dementia.
If your loved one receives a diagnosis, get your team of support ready. Your children, close friends, and extended family need to be made aware of the diagnosis, and you, the family, need support! Some people are keenly aware and understand their diagnosis, while others cannot grasp what is happening and may be certain nothing is wrong. Your loved one may even blame you. Do not take this personally; its frequently outside of your control.
As a family member or caregiver, it can be frustrating when your loved one can no longer understand you. If they dont understand, they no longer can, so please dont expect them to. It robs them of their dignity, causes frustration, and accomplishes nothing. They cannot change, so we must. Join them in their reality. If they believe theyre in a different time and place, as is common, join them there.
There are many ways to care for a loved one. If you care for your loved one for a period of time, deep into disease, or not at all, you are wonderful! Admitting that caregiving is not for you may actually be the best way for you to care for him or her. Assisted Living, Memory Care, and Home Care are all valid and correct options. Were here to help, regardless of what your correct decision may be.
Editors Note: Written by Steven Moses, CSA CDP CPRS, with Oasis Senior Advisors of Orlando. He can be reached at 407 250 8100 or visit www.OasisSeniorAdvisors.com/Orlando

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