The Grieving Process

The loss of a spouse is one of lifes most profound challenges. The person you shared your life with, relied on, and loved deeply is suddenly gone, leaving a void that can feel impossible to fill. Grief is a natural response to such a significant loss, but it can be overwhelming and isolating. However, with time, support, and the right coping strategies, its possible to find healing and rebuild your life.Understanding the Grieving ProcessGrief is a deeply personal experience that varies from person to person. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and the process often unfolds in stages, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You may experience these stages in a different order or find yourself revisiting them multiple times. Its important to recognize that grief is not linear, and healing takes time.Allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment. Whether youre feeling sadness, anger, guilt, or even relief, these emotions are a natural part of the grieving process. Suppressing your feelings can prolong your grief and make it harder to heal.Lean on Your Support SystemIsolation can intensify feelings of grief, so stay connected with family, friends, and community members who can offer comfort and companionship. Dont hesitate to share your feelings with those you trust; talking about your loss can be a powerful way to process your emotions. Support groups specifically for those who have lost a spouse can also be incredibly helpful.Take Care of Your Physical HealthGrief can affect physical health, leading to fatigue, sleep disturbances, changes in appetite, and weakened immune function. Try to maintain a regular sleep schedule, eat nutritious meals, and incorporate physical activity into your routine. Even gentle exercise like walking or yoga can boost your mood and help you feel more grounded. If youre struggling with your physical health, consider seeking support from a healthcare provider who can offer guidance and resources.Find Meaning and PurposeAfter the loss of a spouse, it can be difficult to find meaning in life. Many people find that activities honoring their loved ones memory can provide a sense of purpose and help heal. This might include volunteering, creating a memorial, or participating in causes that were important to your spouse. Exploring new hobbies or interests can also be helpful. Remember that its okay to experience happiness and pleasure, even as you grieve.Seek Professional Help if NeededFor some, the grief of losing a spouse can be particularly intense and may not subside with time. If youre struggling with prolonged depression, anxiety, or feelings of hopelessness, it may be helpful to seek support from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your emotions, develop coping strategies, and healthily work through your grief.At The Oberon House in Arvada, CO, we understand the unique challenges that come with aging and loss. If you or a loved one is seeking a supportive community during this time, contact us to learn how we can help provide comfort and companionship in a caring environment.

Storing, Securing, Saving Lives: Firearm Safety and Suicide PreventionFirearms are used in nearly 50% of all suicides in the United States.Many suicide attempts are made with little planning during a short-term crisis period, and evidence has shown that putting time and distance between a person feeling suicidal and a firearm can significantly impact the survival rate.Lethal means restriction (practicing safe firearm storage) is an evidence-based practice shown to reduce death by suicide. Even if someone attempts suicide in another manner, they have an increased chance of survival because other means are less lethal. By keeping secure firearm storage in mind, we can all help reduce the number of suicides involving firearms.No one takes their life for a single reason. We all have mental health, just as we all have physical health, and conditions such as depression, anxiety, and substance use problems especially when unaddressed increase the risk of suicide. That risk is greater when a firearm is present and accessible in the home.  American Foundation for Suicide PreventionWe can all prevent firearm deaths by following the universal rules of gun safety:- Treat all guns as if they are always loaded.- Always point the gun in a safe direction.- Always keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to shoot.- Always keep the gun unloaded until ready to use.- Be sure of your target and whats beyond.- Never use alcohol, over-the-counter drugs, or prescription drugs before or while shooting.- Use only the correct ammunition for your gun.- Wear eye and ear protection as appropriate.- Seek proper instruction, such as a firearm safety class.- Be sure the gun is safe to operate.- Store your guns safely and securely when not in use.- Consider temporarily off-site storage if a family member may be suicidal.When an emotional crisis (like a break-up, job loss, or legal trouble) or a major change in someones behavior (like depression, violence, or heavy drinking) causes concern, storing guns outside the home for a while may save a life. Family, friends, as well as some shooting clubs, police departments, or gun shops may be able to store guns for you temporarily. *If you are worried about a friend or a family member:Trust your gut and dont wait for them to reach out. Let them know you care.Ask them directly about suicide and encourage them to seek help. Talking about suicidal thoughts and showing concern will not put someone at greater risk.Talk about gun safety and options for temporary off-site firearm storage.If you are going through a difficult time:North Range Behavioral Health is a provider of Colorado Crisis Services. This no-cost resource connects people with free, immediate, and confidential help all day, every day.Call: 844.493.TALK (8255)Text TALK to 38255Walk-in: 928 12th Street in GreeleyFind other Colorado walk-in centers at ColoradoCrisisServices.orgSafe storage of firearms can protect you and those you love. It's okay to give firearms and gun lock keys to trusted family members or friends when life gets tough.*To become fully informed about making a temporary gun transfer, review Colorado gun laws, including C.R.S 18-12-112, or consult an attorney.Resources:Gun Safety and Your Health: A Proactive Guide to Protect You and Those around You by the American College of SurgeonsFirearm Suicide Prevention & Lethal Means Safety for VeteransFirearms and Suicide Prevention American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

In a world increasingly defined by digital interaction, the image of older adults eagerly embracing technology might seem like a recent development. Yet, as we delve deeper into this digital age, it becomes increasingly apparent that seniors are not only adapting to technology but are finding profound ways to leverage it for their social and emotional well-being. Email, text messaging, video conferencing, social mediathese are not just tools of the younger generation. They are lifelines that connect older adults to the people and communities they cherish. While the idea of navigating these digital channels may seem daunting to some seniors, the rewards of staying connected through technology far outweigh the initial fears. One of the most accessible and widely used forms of digital communication for seniors is email. With its simplicity and ubiquity, email has become a staple for staying in touch with loved ones near and far. According to a study by the Pew Research Center, 86% of seniors aged 65 and older use email regularly, with many citing it as their preferred method of communication for keeping in touch with family and friends. These statistics are not just impressive; they are a testament to the adaptability and eagerness of seniors to embrace the digital age. And with projections indicating that the number of older adults using email is set to increase by 15% over the next decade, the trend towards digital communication among seniors shows no signs of slowing down. Text messaging, with its brevity and immediacy, has also emerged as a favored mode of communication among seniors. While some may initially balk at the idea of typing on a small screen, the convenience and intimacy of text messaging quickly win them over. According to the same Pew study, 67% of seniors now use text messaging on a regular basis, with usage steadily increasing over the past decade. These figures are not just remarkable; they represent a seismic shift in how seniors are embracing technology to stay connected with their loved ones. And with projections indicating that text messaging among older adults is expected to grow by 20% over the next 10 years, it's clear that seniors are not just catching up with technologythey're leading the way. Video conferencing takes digital communication to a whole new level, offering seniors the opportunity to see and hear their loved ones in real-time. Whether it's a weekly family gathering or a virtual birthday celebration, video calls bring people together in ways that were once unimaginable. A report by AARP found that 42% of adults aged 50 and older use video calling platforms like Zoom or FaceTime to stay connected with family and friends, with usage spiking during the COVID-19 pandemic. These statistics are not just impressive; they are a testament to the transformative power of technology in bridging the gap between generations. And with projections indicating that the number of older adults using video conferencing is set to double over the next 20 years, it's clear that virtual communication is here to stay. And then there's social media, the virtual town square where people of all ages come together to share stories, memories, and moments. While some seniors may initially approach social media with skepticism, many quickly discover its potential to reconnect with old friends, discover new interests, and stay informed about the lives of their loved ones. According to the Pew Research Center, 73% of adults aged 65 and older use social media regularly, with Facebook being the most popular platform among this demographic. These figures are not just notable; they represent a paradigm shift in how seniors are engaging with technology to stay connected with the world around them. And with projections indicating that social media usage among older adults is expected to increase by 25% over the next decade, it's clear that seniors are embracing digital communication with open arms. Of course, it's natural for seniors to have concerns about using technology, especially when it comes to online safety and privacy. Just as in the physical world, there are risks and precautions to consider in the digital realm. Seniors must be vigilant about protecting their personal information, avoiding scams, and navigating the ever-changing landscape of online security. But with proper guidance and support, these concerns can be addressed, allowing seniors to reap the benefits of technology without undue worry. Educational resources, community programs, tech-savvy family members, and companies that specifically help older adults and seniors understand and use technology can all play a role in empowering seniors to navigate the digital world with confidence and competence. Ultimately, the benefits of staying connected through technology far outweigh the risks. For seniors, the ability to maintain meaningful relationships, stay informed, and engage with the world around them is worth the effort of learning new skills and adapting to new technologies. Whether it's sending an email, sharing a text message, or joining a video call, every digital interaction is an opportunity to strengthen bonds, foster connection, and enrich the lives of seniors and their loved ones. In an age where technology often dominates the conversation, it's heartening to see older adults not only embracing digital communication but thriving in it. With each virtual hug and digital dialogue, seniors are rewriting the narrative of aging, proving that connection knows no age limits and that the bonds of love and friendship are as strong as ever in the digital age. And with the continued growth and adoption of technology among older adults, the future of senior connectivity has never looked brighter.