The Rules of Writing Thank You Cards After a Funeral
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May 17, 2021
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While it may be difficult to find the energy to write a thank you card after a funeral, doing so is an important way of acknowledging the love and kindness that friends and family members have shown you during this challenging period in your life. If you do not have the energy to complete this task, a friend or relative can write the notes for you as you sign them. There is no set deadline when it comes to sending out thank you cards, though getting them out within two to three weeks after the funeral is ideal.
Who should receive a thank you card?
There is no need to send a formal thank you note to every single person who came to the funeral or sent you a card acknowledging the passing of your loved one. However, you should make it a point to formally acknowledge people who have done the following:
- Sent or brought flowers
- Made a donation to a charity in honor of your loved one
- Provided tangible help like bringing food, watching children, or running errands
- Pallbearers at the funeral
- Musicians who performed at the funeral
- Someone who did a reading at the service
- The clergy member who presided over the service
- Someone who went out of their way to share a memory or story about your loved one that was especially meaningful
Even if it takes some time for you to feel ready to tackle the task of writing thank you notes, it is never too late to send them out. The notes do not need to be long; they simply need to express your gratitude and appreciation.
The passing of a loved one creates a hectic and grief-filled situation, and you may find it difficult to keep track of who has done what in the days and weeks following the death of your relative. To make sure that you do not forget anyone during this chaotic time, you should keep a notepad and pen handy at all times. Do not rely on your memory to keep track of what people have done for you. If need be, you can assign a friend or family member to keep a record for you, thus making the task more manageable.
You should also consider making it a point to acknowledge those who were especially kind and helpful in the days before your loved one passed, if their death was not sudden. This may include neighbors who brought meals over or hospice nurses who went above and beyond to keep your loved one comfortable.
To make the job easier, you can purchase pre-printed sympathy cards and just jot down a sentence or two. No one expects a three-page letter from you during this time, but some sort of acknowledgment is important and necessary.
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