What I Learned about Loneliness

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Jun 01, 2021

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One year ago this month, my partner Thomas undertook a five-month journey to hike the Pacific Crest Trail. The PCT is one of Americas long-distance trails, and runs 2,650 miles through California, Oregon, and Washington. PCT hikers start at the US/Mexico border, and carrying their food, water, tents, and sleeping bags on their backs, they hike until they reach the Canadian border. Its a physically and mentally demanding journey through deserts, mountains, and forests; requiring planning and discipline and the courage to survive in the wilderness for nearly half a year.
I knew it would be a difficult experience for Thomas. What I didnt know was how difficult it would be for me at home. There are very few blogs or articles written by the partners of PCT hikers on what the experience was like for them. I think I know why, and its related to something that our company sees and thinks about a lot loneliness. More people are talking about the negative health consequences of loneliness youve probably spotted at least a few articles or news segments about it in the last few years. Because I have a job where I need to think about, spot, and try to help alleviate loneliness, I thought I knew a lot about the topic. Experience, as it has a way of doing, was a much better teacher. Heres what I learned about loneliness in the five months Thomas was on the PCT.
Loneliness can make you feel ashamed
Like many people our age, Thomas and I moved away from our families for work. Most of our friends from childhood and college also live far away. I learned that you can be lonely and still have a lot of loving, supportive people in your life. There were a lot of people I could have turned to for help and support, but because of the distance, it would require me to speak up and ask for it. I knew objectively that there was nothing shameful about feeling lonely in a busy and disconnected world and asking for more support.
I found, to my surprise, however, that I was reluctant to ask. It felt embarrassing to admit that I was lonely. When friends and family called I was thrilled and would chat happily with them, basking in the feeling of connectedness. I wanted to share that I was feeling lonely and isolated. But when they asked, I found I couldnt make the words come out. I felt ashamed of being lonely, and also afraid that if I felt told them, it would be putting an awkward demand on them to help alleviate my loneliness. So instead, I said nothing.
Loneliness can be consuming
Like everyone, I had times of feeling lonely before Thomas hiked the PCT. But those experiences were brief and fleeting and easily resolved by spending time with someone and then going on my way. Being lonely is different. I learned that loneliness can be pervasive and consuming. I came to dread weekends, previously a beloved time of relaxation and solitude, because I knew that I wouldnt have anyone to connect with. Three-day holiday weekends were my enemy. My thoughts would turn to how long it had been since Id seen another person, how long it had been since I had used my voice to talk aloud. Many Sunday nights Id collapse exhausted into bed, crushed under how alone I felt. I would rush into work on Mondays, eager for the chance to see and talk and connect with fellow humans. I learned that chronic loneliness isnt a passing feeling. Chronic loneliness colors your entire world, removing some of the vibrancy and joy even from pleasant and joyful things.
Loneliness can rebound quickly
My experience of loneliness gave me enormous empathy for the Elders I meet who are also experiencing isolation and loneliness. It also gave me insight into the fight against it. One of the most critical things I learned from my experience is that there is no quick fix to loneliness. My parents came to spend a week with me last year when Thomas was on the trail, and for that week I was not lonely. We had a wonderful time, and I was so happy to have other people in my apartment, to eat dinner with and spend the weekend with and to see when I came back from work.
When they left, I thought I would start over emotionally from the place I was when my boyfriend first left for the trail not lonely, gradually becoming more lonely. It wasnt like that. The loneliness returned immediately with full force. I suspect that being lonely might actually have impacts that are much longer, a phenomenon Im still exploring. Thomas completed the PCT and returned home in October, so he has now been back home for longer than he was gone. I have not been lonely during that time. Recently, however, he went out of state for a few days and I found myself reverting shockingly fast back to the patterns and mindset I experienced when he was gone. Loneliness, Im learning, has really strong muscle memory. You cant fix it with weekly phone calls or occasional visits. The only way to beat it is through strong, sustained social connection.
After the Trail
Despite how difficult my experience with loneliness was, I was lucky. For me, loneliness had an end date. I knew that Thomas would reach the end of the trail and then come back home, and that knowledge made a difference in my ability to push through and live my life. I am humbled thinking about how different it must be for people who have lost their partners, or who never had one, who are isolated and lonely and dont know if there will an end to that lonely.
Ive always known, academically, that one of the strongest benefits of communities like ours is the increased socialization that our Elders experience and enjoy. Now I know first-hand how consuming loneliness can be, how it can make you feel ashamed, and how quickly it can come back. Now, when I meet with family members who worry that their loved one is experiencing loneliness and are considering Assisted Living as an option, I know what a profound and serious problem that is. I take extra care to point out the many ways that Dayspring Villa is set up to alleviate loneliness by creating strong and lasting social connections between Elders, their neighbors, and our warm, caring team.
The PCT gave my boyfriend the adventure of a lifetime. The PCT gave me powerful empathy, a renewed passion for my work, and lifelong motivation to alleviate loneliness and the suffering that it brings. We all have more work to do to understanding and eliminating loneliness.

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Your therapist helps you identify what truly matters in your life, then teaches you skills to pursue those values even when depression tells you to withdraw. Instead of arguing with negative thoughts, you learn to observe them without getting hooked.What sessions look likeSessions combine experiential exercises, metaphors, and mindfulness practices to teach ACT skills. Your therapist guides you through activities that illustrate how struggling against thoughts creates suffering, then helps you clarify your personal values and set concrete goals aligned with them. Youll practice noticing thoughts without believing them and taking action based on values rather than feelings.ACT proves you dont need to feel better before you can live better, which breaks the waiting game that keeps many people stuck in depression.Who it helps mostThis method works well for people whove spent years trying to control or suppress their thoughts without success. 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Community living wont just make older adults feel betterthere are real psychological and physical benefits to seeking the right senior living community.  A network of family, friends, and neighbors contributes greatly to happiness and overall contentment. With a proven link between daily social interactions and maintaining strong cognitive health, families will be glad to know that senior living communities go the extra mile. Depending on the community, there are programs designed to bring people together based on shared interests, hobbies, or even health conditions for wellness support. Blending engagement and interpersonal bonds is how communities maximize joy while fulfilling the emotional and physical needs of every resident. Take The First Step TogetherThe right community can work wonders for an adult feeling the effects of senior isolation or loneliness. A caring community environment actively transforms life into a bright, fun chapter filled with strong bonds and emotional security. In many ways, the cognitive and physical health of an older adult depends on moving into a senior living community. The transition feels much easier when families approach this period with positivity and view it as a collaborative journey. This is a time when tours come in handy, especially because they allow adults and their families to observe the atmosphere and find the perfect fit. At Heritage Senior Living, our mission is to create a culture of support and compassion, while still encouraging independence for all residents. We understand this time is one of transformation, and we invite all families and potential residents to visit and see for themselves how beautiful life can be in one of our communities. The decision to transition into a community isnt one families make lightly, and we use the trust given to us as fuel to create an environment where residents truly become family. If youre ready for you or your family member to take the next step, we invite you to find the right Heritage community today, so we can schedule a tour!Key Takeaways: Living in a senior community with peers creates natural, effortless opportunities to build deep, lasting friendships.  A supportive, active environment significantly reduces anxiety and brings a renewed sense of purpose to everyday life.  Older adults who are socially isolated or lonely have a higher risk of experiencing conditions such as high blood pressure, anxiety, depression, and cognitive decline, but senior living communities significantly lower these risks.

Feeling SAD? Here's What You Need to Know

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is serious but can be treated(RxWiki News) When the temperature and the time change, a type of depression called seasonal affective disorder (SAD) sets in for many people. But you don't have to wait for the summer to stop feeling SAD.Read on to learn more about SAD and what you can do about it.What Is SAD?Seasonal affective disorder is a type of depression. It recurs with a seasonal pattern that typically begins when the fall and winter months set in. By the time the warmer months of spring and summer roll around, symptoms of SAD tend to subside.This disorder tends to affect people who live farther away from the equator and those who have a family or personal history of depression.SAD is not simply the "winter blues." It is a mental health condition that can have serious effects on people who have it.How Do I Know if I Have SAD?If you typically feel depressed when the temperatures drop and the days get shorter, you may have SAD. Here are some SAD symptoms to watch for, according to the Mayo Clinic: Feeling worthless, guilty or hopeless Feeling depressed for most of the day on most days Having trouble concentrating Losing interest in things and activities you once enjoyed Feeling agitated or sluggish Having trouble sleeping Having changes in your weight or appetite Thinking about suicide or death frequently (Seek immediate medical care if you are experiencing this symptom.) If you are having any of the above symptoms, reach out to your health care provider to discuss your condition and possible treatments.What Are the Treatments for SAD?SAD affects countless people around the world every year. Fortunately, there are effective treatments for this disorder.Possible treatments for SAD include the following, according to the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health: Medications Medications that are used to treat general depression may be used to treat SAD. These include antidepressants like bupropion and selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Psychotherapy A type of cognitive behavioral therapy adapted for SAD treatment is sometimes used. This therapy seeks to change and challenge unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. Light therapy In light therapy, bright artificial light is used in sessions in order to replace the sunlight exposure lost when the winter months set in. Dietary supplements Vitamin D supplementation is sometimes used in SAD treatment, although dietary supplements have not been thoroughly studied as treatments for this condition. Many people with SAD also have low levels of vitamin D, which is produced through exposure to sunlight. Talk to your health care provider about which SAD treatment will work best for you or your loved one.

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Assisted Living 3777 West 26th Avenue, Denver, Colorado, 80211

Dayspring Villa is an affordable, spirit-filled assisted living community nestled between two historic North Denver neighborhoods - Sloans Lake and the Highlands. Our lovely private apartments which are individually climate controlled, feature large windows, kitchenettes and spacious bathrooms with step in showers. Our residents enjoy three chef-prepared meals per day and a plethora of life enriching activities. Care partners assist residents with medications, personal care, laundry and housekeeping. Financial options include private pay, VA Aid and Attendance, and Medicaid. Call for more information and to schedule your personalized tour.