When is it Time for a Change?

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Sep 09, 2018

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My mom had a stroke, she lives in an apartment with stairs. She calls me at all hours of the day and night to come help her, I am frazzled trying to make sure her needs are getting met. Help.
My dad passed a year ago, he was our moms primary caregiver, us girls have been taking care of her full time since he passed. We have families, we have jobs, we just cant do it anymore.

When the needs of an older adult become greater than the families ability to care for them, then most likely it is time for a change.

Change is difficult for both the older adult and the family members who are caregiving. It is common for older adults to want to stay in their home, which can leave the family feeling guilty about no longer being able to honor their wishes.

Moving an older adult into a senior community can ultimately bring relief to all concerned. The family transitions out of the role of full-time caregivers and back into the role of being supportive loved ones. The older adult now has a 24/7 support system in place to ensure all their needs are being met. Easy access to meals and socializing are often the icing on the cake for older adults who move into a senior community.

The process of finding the right senior community can be extremely stressful and time consuming. Every community is different, and your loved ones needs are unique. One way to make the search less stressful is to work with a free, local, Senior Living Advisor.

A Senior Living Advisor assists with narrowing down the communities, checking availability, confirming pricing, scheduling tours, attending the tours with the family, and providing guidance in making an informed decision.

When it is time for a change, enlist the support of a local Senior Living Advisor; you dont have to navigate this difficult journey alone.

Editors Note: This article was submitted by Danita Nixon (CSA), Certified Senior Advisor, Owner of Senior Living Advisors of Colorado, she may be reached at970-541-4592 or by email danita@slacolo.com

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