7 Tips to Avoid Power Struggles With People Living With Dementia
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Jan 06, 2024
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When you find yourself caring for a
loved-one living with dementia, the best strategies for positive interactions
may not come easily. But you can learn! Here are some easy tips to make
your visits or caregiving smoother.
- Prove to them that they are
right. All the time. This is hard, especially when your loved
one who is living with dementia is telling the vacation story all wrong….
Again! Rather than correcting the story, agree with them, say pleasantly
“is that right?”, or “tell me more”. If you try to correct their
version, you are setting them up to be embarrassed, hurt or angry, none of
which are going to make your next task easier! Just give a side wink
to other listeners and respect your loved one. Allow them to tell the
story their way. Remember, they want to be social, and you can
encourage that.
- Check your expressions! If
your loved-one living with dementia can’t find the right words, or you
can’t understand what they’re saying, do you furrow your eyebrows?
Have you look at them over the top of your eyeglasses at them like your
elementary school librarian did? Have you ever tossed back your head
or rolled your eyes once you understood what they’re saying? Sorry
to be blunt, but your expressions just accused them of being stupid.
Making someone feel inferior isn’t a way to set up positive interactions.
Keep you hands off your hips and your expression neutral or positive.
- Limit their choices. When you put
a 9-page menu in front of them they will be overwhelmed. Rather, suggest
two items that they’ve had before and liked, then ask which one sounds
good today. Either choice is a winner, and you are the hero for
setting them up to succeed in a difficult situation!
- If your loved-one living with
dementia refuses to do something you ask, for example getting up to use
the bathroom, try asking them to do something different instead. “I
just make some coffee. Let’s go get a cup.” Then on the way, say
something light-hearted, like “oh look, a bathroom. My mother said I
should never pass up an opportunity to pee!” You can also try singing a
song they like and ask them to dance, do a march together, go water the
flowers or empty the dishwasher – anything to get them up and moving.
- Don’t ask them to remember! You
are not their doctor and don’t need to conduct a memory test.
Remember that word retrieval is hard and kindly provide them with the
information they need to succeed. “Hi mom, it’s your favorite
daughter Deb.” When said with a wink and a smile, she may get the
joke, know who you are, and not have to struggle.
- Tell them things you remember
doing together. “I remember how happy I was every time we would cook
together.” They may or may not be able to add to your thoughts, but
you are still visiting pleasantly.
- Forgive yourself when you make a mistake. Apologize, ask for forgiveness, try another approach, and learn from your mistakes. Every tool we learn may work at some point in the dementia journey, just not today.
For more helpful tips, visit our Insights from Arthur’s page, which
provides more information to empower families experiencing dementia to have
positive relationships.
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