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The loss of a spouse is one of lifes most profound challenges. The person you shared your life with, relied on, and loved deeply is suddenly gone, leaving a void that can feel impossible to fill. Grief is a natural response to such a significant loss, but it can be overwhelming and isolating. However, with time, support, and the right coping strategies, its possible to find healing and rebuild your life.Understanding the Grieving ProcessGrief is a deeply personal experience that varies from person to person. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and the process often unfolds in stages, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You may experience these stages in a different order or find yourself revisiting them multiple times. Its important to recognize that grief is not linear, and healing takes time.Allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment. Whether youre feeling sadness, anger, guilt, or even relief, these emotions are a natural part of the grieving process. Suppressing your feelings can prolong your grief and make it harder to heal.Lean on Your Support SystemIsolation can intensify feelings of grief, so stay connected with family, friends, and community members who can offer comfort and companionship. Dont hesitate to share your feelings with those you trust; talking about your loss can be a powerful way to process your emotions. Support groups specifically for those who have lost a spouse can also be incredibly helpful.Take Care of Your Physical HealthGrief can affect physical health, leading to fatigue, sleep disturbances, changes in appetite, and weakened immune function. Try to maintain a regular sleep schedule, eat nutritious meals, and incorporate physical activity into your routine. Even gentle exercise like walking or yoga can boost your mood and help you feel more grounded. If youre struggling with your physical health, consider seeking support from a healthcare provider who can offer guidance and resources.Find Meaning and PurposeAfter the loss of a spouse, it can be difficult to find meaning in life. Many people find that activities honoring their loved ones memory can provide a sense of purpose and help heal. This might include volunteering, creating a memorial, or participating in causes that were important to your spouse. Exploring new hobbies or interests can also be helpful. Remember that its okay to experience happiness and pleasure, even as you grieve.Seek Professional Help if NeededFor some, the grief of losing a spouse can be particularly intense and may not subside with time. If youre struggling with prolonged depression, anxiety, or feelings of hopelessness, it may be helpful to seek support from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your emotions, develop coping strategies, and healthily work through your grief.At The Oberon House in Arvada, CO, we understand the unique challenges that come with aging and loss. If you or a loved one is seeking a supportive community during this time, contact us to learn how we can help provide comfort and companionship in a caring environment.

Storing, Securing, Saving Lives: Firearm Safety and Suicide PreventionFirearms are used in nearly 50% of all suicides in the United States.Many suicide attempts are made with little planning during a short-term crisis period, and evidence has shown that putting time and distance between a person feeling suicidal and a firearm can significantly impact the survival rate.Lethal means restriction (practicing safe firearm storage) is an evidence-based practice shown to reduce death by suicide. Even if someone attempts suicide in another manner, they have an increased chance of survival because other means are less lethal. By keeping secure firearm storage in mind, we can all help reduce the number of suicides involving firearms.No one takes their life for a single reason. We all have mental health, just as we all have physical health, and conditions such as depression, anxiety, and substance use problems especially when unaddressed increase the risk of suicide. That risk is greater when a firearm is present and accessible in the home.  American Foundation for Suicide PreventionWe can all prevent firearm deaths by following the universal rules of gun safety:- Treat all guns as if they are always loaded.- Always point the gun in a safe direction.- Always keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to shoot.- Always keep the gun unloaded until ready to use.- Be sure of your target and whats beyond.- Never use alcohol, over-the-counter drugs, or prescription drugs before or while shooting.- Use only the correct ammunition for your gun.- Wear eye and ear protection as appropriate.- Seek proper instruction, such as a firearm safety class.- Be sure the gun is safe to operate.- Store your guns safely and securely when not in use.- Consider temporarily off-site storage if a family member may be suicidal.When an emotional crisis (like a break-up, job loss, or legal trouble) or a major change in someones behavior (like depression, violence, or heavy drinking) causes concern, storing guns outside the home for a while may save a life. Family, friends, as well as some shooting clubs, police departments, or gun shops may be able to store guns for you temporarily. *If you are worried about a friend or a family member:Trust your gut and dont wait for them to reach out. Let them know you care.Ask them directly about suicide and encourage them to seek help. Talking about suicidal thoughts and showing concern will not put someone at greater risk.Talk about gun safety and options for temporary off-site firearm storage.If you are going through a difficult time:North Range Behavioral Health is a provider of Colorado Crisis Services. This no-cost resource connects people with free, immediate, and confidential help all day, every day.Call: 844.493.TALK (8255)Text TALK to 38255Walk-in: 928 12th Street in GreeleyFind other Colorado walk-in centers at ColoradoCrisisServices.orgSafe storage of firearms can protect you and those you love. It's okay to give firearms and gun lock keys to trusted family members or friends when life gets tough.*To become fully informed about making a temporary gun transfer, review Colorado gun laws, including C.R.S 18-12-112, or consult an attorney.Resources:Gun Safety and Your Health: A Proactive Guide to Protect You and Those around You by the American College of SurgeonsFirearm Suicide Prevention & Lethal Means Safety for VeteransFirearms and Suicide Prevention American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

As the warmth of summer envelopes us and nature bursts into full bloom, we are reminded of the beauty and inevitability of change. Just as the seasons transition from the chill of spring to the heat of summer, so too does technology seem to experience constant changes. For many older adults, these changes can seem daunting. However, by embracing these shifts, much like we do with the changing seasons, we can not only adapt but also thrive in this technologically driven era. Nature offers us countless examples of rapid change. Consider the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly, a process that is both remarkable and essential for the butterfly's survival, the sudden bloom of flowers in spring leading to the lush greenery of summer, or the emergence of the recent cicada broods.  Did you know that once a cicada nymph emerges from the ground it begins to molt within 15-30 minutes and within only an hour the newly emerged nymph has transformed into a fully formed adult. Talk about rapid change! These natural processes illustrate that change, while sometimes challenging, sudden, and rapid, is necessary for growth and adaptation. In much the same way, technology undergoes constant evolution and rapid change, presenting new opportunities and challenges for users of all ages. From the introduction of personal computers to the widespread adoption of smartphones and tablets, the digital landscape has transformed dramatically and rapidly in a relatively short period. The world of technology is truly evolving at an unprecedented pace. While these advancements may initially appear overwhelming, they also offer tremendous potential for learning, growth, and connection. According to a report by the Pew Research Center, the percentage of adults aged 65 and older who own a smartphone has increased from 18% in 2013 to 61% in 2021. This statistic highlights a significant shift in the adoption of new technologies among older generations. Yet, for many, the rapid pace of technological advancement can feel overwhelming. Despite the initial discomfort, there are numerous benefits to embracing these changes. For instance, smartphones and tablets offer a plethora of applications designed to simplify daily tasks, enhance communication with loved ones, and provide access to a wealth of information and entertainment. Learning to use these devices can significantly improve ones quality of life, offering greater independence and connectivity. The key to adapting to technological changes is to start small and build a foundational knowledge. Just as you wouldnt attempt to run a marathon without first learning to walk, its important to take incremental steps when familiarizing yourself with new technology. Begin with the Basics: One of the first steps in adapting to technological change is recognizing the value of building a foundation of knowledge. Much like the roots of a tree provide stability and nourishment, a basic understanding of technology can serve as a solid footing for further learning and exploration. Start with the fundamentals, such as familiarizing yourself with your existing devices and their functions. Learn how to turn them on and off, charge them and navigate their home screens. Learn how to navigate the internet, send emails, and use basic applications. As you become more comfortable, you can gradually expand your skills and explore new possibilities. Seek Out Resources: Many local libraries and community centers offer classes specifically designed to teach older adults how to use technology. Additionally, there are numerous online tutorials and user-friendly guides available as well as local companies that specialize in supporting older adults with their use of technology. Much like natures adaptive strategies, embracing a positive mindset towards technological change is crucial. Accept that learning something new takes time and patience. Celebrate small victories along the way, and dont be afraid to ask for help. According to a study published in the Journal of Medical Internet Research, older adults who received support and training were more likely to adopt and continue using new technologies. The benefits of embracing technology are manifold. Telemedicine, for example, has revolutionized healthcare, making it easier for older adults to consult with doctors from the comfort of their homes. According to the American Telemedicine Association, telehealth visits increased by 154% during the first quarter of 2020 compared to the same period in 2019, largely driven by the COVID-19 pandemic. This shift not only reduces the need for travel but also provides timely medical advice and monitoring. Similarly, smart home devices can enhance safety and convenience. Voice-activated assistants like Amazons Alexa or Google Home can set reminders for medications, control home lighting, and even call for help in emergencies. Learning to use these devices can greatly enhance ones sense of security and independence. Despite the clear advantages, there is still a significant digital divide among older adults. The same Pew Research Center report indicates that 34% of adults aged 65 and older do not use the internet. Bridging this gap is essential for ensuring that all seniors can benefit from technological advancements. Community initiatives play a vital role in this endeavor. Programs that offer free or subsidized devices, coupled with training and support, can make a significant difference. Additionally, family members can help by encouraging and assisting their older relatives in learning and using new technologies. Just as we prepare for and adapt to the changing seasons, we must also embrace the rapid changes in technology. By starting small, maintaining a positive mindset, and seeking out resources and support, older adults can build a solid foundation upon which to thrive in this digital age. Nature teaches us that change is not only inevitable but also essential for growth. Similarly, by embracing technological change, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities that can enhance our lives in meaningful ways. As the days grow longer and summer unfolds its warmth and vibrancy, let us welcome the changing tides of technology with the same spirit of adaptation and renewal. The possibilities are endless, and the adventure awaits!