Have the Talk of a Lifetime

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Sep 29, 2021

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How to start the conversation that's often difficult to address.

Through meaningful memorialization that is, taking time to reflect on the unique life of a loved one and remember the difference they made families and friends take an important step in the journey toward healing after death.

People talk about many things with their loved ones: from day-to-day details to big events. Sharing stories with those who matter most isnt just important today; it will be especially significant when its time to commemorate a life. Wiscombe Memorial is proud to announce its participation in Have the Talk of a Lifetime, a national effort to encourage families to have conversations about life and what matters most. These discussions can help families make important decisions about how they wish to remember and honor the lives of their loved ones.

Individuals and their families have more options than ever before for memorializing their loved one at the end of life. From simple to very elaborate, there are a variety of ways a family can honor their loved one in a personal and meaningful way.

Memorialization is so much more than it used to be. It can reflect a persons life story their values, interests and experiences and be transformative, healing and comforting. Meaningful memorialization starts when loved ones talk about what matters most: memories made, lessons learned and how they hope to be remembered.

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