How to Say Goodbye When Leaving a Home You Love

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Oct 20, 2023

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Florida - Sarasota, Bradenton & Charlotte Counties

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Moving is never easy – especially when you’re leaving a home that you love. Whether it was where you grew up, where you raised your kids or just a place where great memories were made, it can be difficult to make the decision to move because of the grief you might feel. But moving is an inevitable part of life, and we want to make it easier for you. Here are some ways that you can cope with your move and give your beloved home the send-off it deserves.

1) Reframe Your Move

Many homeowners associate leaving their home with leaving the life they created there. They believe that once they move, the good memories and happy life that their home gave them will be stripped away. While it’s easy to feel emotionally attached to your home, it’s important to remember that at its core, a house is just a building where memories can be made. It’s the people who actually make the memories there! So instead of viewing your move as leaving your life, view it as leaving a place. You can also rest assured that since you’ve made great memories before, you have the ability to continue doing so wherever you go next!

2) Take Pieces of the Home with You

You might be leaving the place you love, but that doesn’t mean you have to leave every memory of it behind. By taking small mementos and photos to remind you of the time spent in your home, you can always remember it and look back on it fondly.

You’ve probably taken tons of photos in your home, and taking these pictures with you is one easy way to hold onto the memories you created there. Whether you have digital or printed photos, you can organize them by creating a photo album that includes all the pictures you’ve taken in your home over the years. On the cover, you can put a picture of the front of your house, its address and the years you lived there. If you want to personalize the album even more, you can also write commentary on specific pictures in the album, like when they were taken and the context behind them.

While we’re on the topic of photos, taking pictures of the property right before you move will ensure that you always remember the rooms and pieces that you love. Take a picture of every room, with or without furniture, to remember the structure of the house. If there was a certain part of the house you spent a lot of time in or a design element you appreciated, snap extra photos of those. You can never take too many photos; you’ll only regret the ones you didn’t take!

In some cases, you might be able to take physical reminders of the home with you, like a pretty flower from your garden or a rock in your yard. By adding these small mementos to your new home, you’ll always have a piece of your old home.

3) Have a Farewell Party

Like we mentioned earlier, the memories you make in your home are only possible because of the people you make them with. Because of that, when you’re leaving a house that you love, you’re likely also leaving people you love. A farewell party is a great way to celebrate your home one last time alongside everyone who made it such a hard place to leave. This party can be anything from inviting a small group of friends over for dinner one night to getting your whole neighborhood involved in a fun social event at your home. 

To add a sentimental touch to the event, consider making a photo collage or video documenting some of the best memories in your home and play it at the party. You can even ask your guests to share some of their favorite memories that they’ve made with you in your home to celebrate it further. Whatever you decide to do, saying a formal “farewell” to your home can be helpful in getting closure before your move.

4) Welcome the Buyers

If you love your home, you want to feel confident that your buyers will love it, too. By taking an extra step to make them feel comfortable in their new environment, you’ll set them up to make as many happy memories as you did. One way to do this is by buying them a housewarming gift. If you’ve gotten to know your buyers, you can give them a personalized gift to make the home feel like their own; a monogrammed doormat or mailing labels with their names and address are a couple of examples.

Another way to welcome your buyers into your home is by creating a neighborhood guide. The purpose of this guide is to give your buyers tips on navigating the area and recommendations for places like restaurants and shopping centers that they can explore. Having a personalized guide is sure to make your buyers feel like they’re at home and can be especially helpful for getting them through the first few weeks of chaos when they move in.

We understand that moving out of a home that you love can be difficult. At HomeSmart, we’re dedicated to helping you through every step of the moving process so that you don’t have to go through your move alone. Our agents are not only expertly trained in the tools and technology necessary to execute a successful transaction, but they also truly care about their clients. If you’re looking for an agent who will stand by you through your next move, connect with a HomeSmart agent today!

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Sometimes you have no choice on when you need to sell your home a job transfer, you saw another home you really want to buy, or you have an unexpected life change.  Selling in the off season such as summer isnt ideal but it can be done, and its imperative its done the right way to get the best results.And, believe it or not, not everyone is on vacation in the summer!  In fact, some buyers have more flexible schedules. There are also plenty of buyers that are just getting their search started and those who didnt find the right house or got outbid during the busy Spring selling season.  Summer really can be a good time to sell your home to one of these off-season buyers who dont want to wait until the Fall or next Spring. Here are our must-do tips for that summertime sale:Target the Right Buyers for Your NeighborhoodAs we mentioned above, there are certain buyers who keep looking over the summer. But there are also buyers who are relocating to Bradenton/Sarasota and have to move pronto. You need to target these different types of buyers, tapping into their needs and wants for a home.If youre in an urban Bradenton neighborhood, with more young and hip buyers, then your focus is on first-time buyers who have more flexibility and may not have a deadline. But, keep in mind, that the buyers still looking into summertime are serious buyers and are ready to find a home and put in an offer.Youll need to price your home right from the get-go, be generous with your terms (offer to pay for closing costs) and make your home a summer retreat for them.Also be flexible with the hours you show your home. With daylight lasting well past dinnertime, be open to later showings. Younger, first-time buyers will find this time more convenient during their work week. Make sure you take advantage of these daylight hours!For Lakewood Ranch or a suburban Sarasota home, your buyers may be tied to the school calendar and want to settle on a home quickly. You still want to price your home correctly to bring in the foot traffic, make it as move-in ready as possible (theyre looking for convenience and dont want to deal with projects), and showcase your home so it looks like a great place for their familys summer staycation.And again, be flexible with your showing hours. Daylight savings means families are on the go later into the evening, but they usually find a lull after dinnertime perfect time for them to see your home.Showcase Your Homes Summer BestNow is the time to make your home shine on the inside and the outside. Make your home bright and welcoming a summertime oasis!Curb appeal and backyard staging will draw buyers in. You want buyers to want to see your home and then envision themselves relaxing and living there. Outdoor living space can be a big selling point, even in the summer in Florida.Plan to spend a little bit on some outdoor dcor, whether its a bistro table and chairs on your deck; patio furniture with colorful throw pillows; or a lovely wooden bench and flowerpots near your walkway. This may be a great time to work with a stager so you dont have to buy many items yourself.Dont skimp on or blast the air conditioning. Dont make your home hot and stuffy so that buyers rush through your home. Or dont make it too cold, that buyers sprint through the rooms. Set your thermostat at a comfortable and cool temperature. If youve already moved, make sure you time it so that your home stays cool during possible showings. Buyers will love to get out of the heat!Brighten up your home. Consider switching out dark colored pillows, throw rugs, curtains, and other dcor to lighter colors.  Clean the windows, open the blinds, and keep the lights on. Even though it doesnt get dark until much later in the summer, you still want to light up the inside of your home.Maintain your yard and water, water, water. Mow your lawn, trim your bushes and trees. Sweep your deck or patio regularly.  The summer heat can make your lawn turn brown water that and all of your flowers in beds and pots.Be prepared for getting your family out of the house. If you have children, selling in the summer can be difficult because they arent in school and are at home, possibly all day long. Hopefully you can keep your home in order as much as possible and develop a good exit strategy for those times you need to show it. Preplan so you know if you need to have a sitter, set up a play date, sign up for a camp, or head out for a long dinner.Putting It All TogetherAs you can see, selling in the summertime doesnt have to be a negative. Youll have more daylight hours to showcase your home, youll see more serious buyers or those on a deadline themselves, and many homes can look their best inside and outside in the summer. All positive!But do keep in mind that summer is slower and there will be less traffic to your home than if you listed in the height of the springtime selling season. That can be a chaotic and rushed time, so the lazy days of summer is definitely a different market. You must keep it all in perspective.Every seller has their own personal specifics and deadline when it comes to selling, especially if you need to list your home in the summer. You MUST know your market and neighborhood so that you price your home right and also have an idea of what you should or shouldnt be doing when negotiating terms.Im here to help you with a summertime sale. I have a sales plan to get your home sold as quickly as possible for the most amount of money possible. Id love to tell you all about it.  Simply email me and we can set up a time to talk and see if selling in the summer is the right move for you.

8 TIPS TO KEEP CALM AND CLOSE THE CHAPTER

Your Mom loved living in Sarasota.  She was active and had many lovely friends with whom she played bridge, golfed, and enjoyed cocktail hour.  That made your heart sing knowing she was joyful and taken care of even though you were only able to travel from up north to visit her a couple of times a year.But then this unexpected life event happened.  She graduated rehab with flying colors and has been comfortably situated in an Assisted Living Community. It all happened so fast. Just last month she hit 3 over par and enjoyed a gin and tonic to celebrate!  Now comes the hard part.  The doc says she wont be able to live on her own again, and it doesnt make sense to retain the house she once lived in.  You cant ask Mildred or Marge, her best golfing buds, to do what comes next.  Its up to you and your siblings, and where do you begin?Below are eight tips to help you handle your moms personal possessions and real estate from a long-distance perspective now that she is comfortable in her new Sarasota Assisted Living Community.Plan Your Work, Work Your PlanSpend some time thinking about whats next.  What needs to be done, and who will be handling it.  The worst thing you can do is jump into the action phase without seeing the entire big picture. Some things to consider up front:TimeHow much time will you need to gather, organize, pack, choose, decide, ship, and move her belongings?How much time can you get off work to travel to Sarasota, handle the move, spruce up the property, and put the house on the market and coordinate the sale? LogisticsWhen do you start?Should you fly down to SRQ, or drive?How many times will you need to make the trip?Which siblings are going to help?Can you coordinate schedules so everyone can work together?DecisionsWhat personal possessions will Mom want in her new home?Who gets which heirloom?Do you ship these precious pieces, or store them?Should you advertise and host an estate sale, or donate?Mom lived in the house for 18 years. It definitely needs some cleaning and possibly a bit of updating in order to sell it. Who will handle THAT?Choose To Work With A Local And Experienced PartnerTackling the project of cleaning out a home and readying it for market is a daunting task.  Overseeing the project from 800 miles north of Sarasota is a complete game-changer.   Being an out-of-state personal representative or designated beloved family member is no easy task.There is a variety of wonderful senior services in Sarasota, and you can call on them for help.  Just to start, youll need cleaners, movers (& boxes), painters (& possibly other contractors), packers, shippers, donation charities, a dumpster rental, a Realtor, and a stager.  This is on top of coordinating with doctors, the assisted living facility, insurance adjusters, Medicare, or Medicaid, and OR: You might choose a local project manager who will serve as your liaison to coordinate the on-site logistics of removing the personal belongings, prepping, and selling the real property for top dollar.   This is my specialty, and I would first meet with you at the house, discuss the objectives and goals, give you time to remove your personal mementos, and then youd hand over the key.  From there wed agree on a master game plan, and Id follow it to a T with good communications along the way.  You head back north to your other responsibilities, and Ill get your job done here in Sarasota.    Research The Area Regarding Home Values And TrendsIf youre working with a quality Realtor, shell know the area and will give you solid area information about market trends and home values that will guide you on deciding on list price.  Of course, its always good to stay up on it yourself to be assured that her guidance is spot on.Dont Let Your Emotions Make Your DecisionsKnowing life has taken a left turn for Mom is hard to swallow. The empty house and especially the belongings within it can have a lifetime of fond memories associated with them.   Its important to feel the emotions that come up, but dont let your emotions drive you into making decisions too quickly, keeping too many personal belongings that could cost you too much money to store and transport, or lull you into choosing to wait too long and racking up utility, maintenance and holding costs on the property that you werent prepared to pay.Be Diligent, But Dont RushBalancing the emotions of life changes with making rational and prudent decisions is the name of the game.  Each morning, you may wake up feeling that there are too many decisions to make and tasks to attend to, but keep in mind that everything doesnt need to be completed in this moment.  Give yourself a break. Take one small step at a time and, at the same time, dont let overwhelm paralyze you.Weigh The Value Of Spending Time Or Spending MoneyNow that youve done a thorough analysis of the big picture, you realize the magnitude of what needs to get done while maintaining a life balance back home.  Its worth considering which you have more of at this point: time or money?  You might be an at-home DIYer and feel perfectly comfortable handling each piece of this project yourself.  But youre also being reminded of the work projects and kids soccer games at home that need your time and attention as well.Consider the value of handing off the project management work to someone who has resources at her fingertips, lives locally, and who can give you a weekly phone or email update on the progress of the project.  That might just be the ticket to help you sleep at night, and you might be pleasantly surprised that it doesnt cost that much more.Consider The Tax Or Medicaid Program Implications Of Selling Your Familys Real EstateBe sure to consult with your tax advisor and/or your Medicaid Application Consultant regarding how the sale of your Moms property could affect your financial picture.  You might find that, at least for a short period, it would be more advantageous to keep the property and lease it to a long-term tenant.  Your project manager should be able to help you with this aspect of the project as well.Remember to Breathe & Breathe Often.Through it all, you may find yourself so wrapped up in the whats next that one small, but critical, detail slipped through the cracks.  Stop, take a deep breath, and slow the pace.  Always remember that breathing is your friend, and taking occasional deep breaths does wonders for mitigating the stressful feelings that tend to overwhelm.Bonus tip: The last task you might want to take time to do before you head back north is to invite Marge, Mildred and your Moms golfing buddies over for a gin & tonic and thank them for their friendship.  Im sure your Mom will love to see each of them in her new living arrangements now and again.  Leave contact information for both you and Mom and head home knowing how proud your Mom would be with the details youd attended to.  And of course, remember to breathe.

WHERE TO BEGIN WHEN SELLING MOMS SARASOTA HOUSE

Im the fourth of five kids in my family.  By most accounts that would be considered a large family. At one time we were living in seven places from The Netherlands to Hawaii, and five locations in between. There came a time, however, when everyone felt drawn to re-congregate.  Eventually we found our family all in the same state again.Another oddity of our family was that both my parents (and my brother) asked me to serve as executor.  I considered it an honor to be asked and didnt know enough to protest!  Neither parent had vast estates, but living in the same area as they did made my job so much easier.Here in Florida, many seniors have family who still live up north somewhere other than Florida.  So, for them, choosing an executor means either choosing a local friend or relative (over 18 and never been convicted of a felony), or if they want a specific person to serve as executor from out of state, that person must be a blood relative or someone theyve officially adopted. Going through probate is the time it takes to settle the decedents estate, and/or proving the persons will.   Living out of state makes the whole process even more difficult and time consuming.If theres no real property to sell, then this informal administration process is referred to as Disposition of Personal Property Without Administration.  If theres no Will in Florida, then an individual will file an application with the court asking to be appointed as personal representative of the estate. The person serving in this capacity has the same duties as he or she would where there is a Will, but there may be more court supervision.An executors duties include gathering the decedents assets, paying valid claims against the estate, and then disbursing remaining assets to the heirs according to the terms of the Will.  Performing these duties long-distance is indeed easier today than in the past, but its always a great idea to have local advocates to work with, especially if theres real estate involved.   Choose a local attorney, financial planner, and real estate agent who are each well-versed in Florida probate.  Their guidance will be invaluable, especially if youre unfamiliar with the laws of the state and the probate process.I considered it a great honor to be asked to serve as Executor (in Florida the role is referred to as Personal Representative). However, once in the midst of the responsibilities, one does have a tendency to question ones sanity.  Nonetheless, to honor the deceased loved-one, one sees the job through to completion.Keep in mind that Mom could be faced with a life event that puts her in a position where she wont be returning to the house and you not only need to sell the home, but you have to find a suitable new living environment for her.Check back for future blogs that will discuss the daunting job of disposing of the physical belongings that a parent has left behind, or finding that new Florida community where she can thrive.Over the time Ive been providing our Closing The Book Program for Out-of-State Executors, Ive met a number of quality Attorneys, Wealth Advisors and CPAs whove answered important questions for me.  Id be happy to share their contact information with you.  You can reach me at Jude@JudeCreamer.com or 404.610.2907.Jude Creamer, Broker Associate, HomeSmart, specializing in facilitating successful real estate transactions for people in life transitions.

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