Should you take over Mom's checkbook?

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Heidi Brown Geriatric Care Management

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Nov 16, 2021

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Money matters are often intensely private. And no one wants to infringe on a family member's independence. Yet it is through (sometimes expensive) financial mishaps that you may learn of changes in your parent's memory and thinking

Signs of a problem:

  • Diseases that affect memory also tend to impair arithmetic skills and reasoning. That's why money trouble can suggest the onset of dementia. Be alert for the following changes:
  • Difficulty counting change or balancing a checkbook
  • Frequent late payment of bills
  • Confusion about banking transactions
  • Unusual or repetitive purchases
  • Accusations that others are stealing from them
  • Investing in sweepstakes or other "get rich quick" scheme

What to do?

Take action If you notice a problem, ask the doctor to begin screening for dementia. But don't wait to see if the symptoms progress before taking action. Offer to help in a way that saves face. For example, "Gosh, it looks like the utility bill is overdue. You've got so many other things to do. You deserve to take a break. There are some easy ways to take some of these chores off your plate." If your relative is agreeable to it, a number of safeguards are available. For example:

  • Set up auto deposit of Social Security and other retirement income
  • Arrange for overdraft protection at the bank
  • Initiate auto payment of bills and/or third-party notification if a bill is not paid
  • Hire a licensed and insured bill payer
  • Consider a joint bank account (with online access for you)

If your relative refuses help or is fiercely secretive, you may want to:

  • Consult with his or her doctor. A doctor's tests or stated clinical opinion may persuade your family member to accept assistance.
  • Consult with a lawyer. If your relative is dangerously undermining his or her financial well-being, guardianship may be necessary.

Worried about financial mishaps?
We at Heidi Brown Geriatric Care Management often observe that money matters are the first inkling that there may be a serious memory problem. As the greater Sarasota experts in family caregiving, we know how sensitive these issues can be.

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