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Support for Spouses of Cancer Patients: Insights from a
Five-Time Survivor’s Wife
Written by Kim Potts.
The spouse or partner, providing support for spouses of
cancer patients, holds one of the most crucial and challenging roles on the
cancer care team. As I have been dealing with my husband’s cancer for 21 of our
32 years of marriage, I have a lot of experience in this role. I still get
emotional when I hear the words “five-time cancer survivor” said about my
husband Bill. Five is a significant number and instantly reminds me of the
challenges we have faced and will face in the future.
Here are some things I can share based on my experience.
What NOT To Ask
My heart ached as I listened to our friends ask Bill
questions and provide unsolicited comments or advice about his cancer. For
example:
“What are your odds?” This
question is the absolute worst question to ask a cancer patient, as the odds
don’t count. Bill’s response to that question was always 100%. It was 100% that
he would either live or die.
“You will beat it because of
your positive attitude.” Bill and I have watched many cancer patients
with great attitudes die, rendering this comment inaccurate.
“Let me tell you about my
cancer!” Bill needs to focus only on his cancer, not someone else’s
cancer.
“Bill, you will beat the
cancer.” Bill knew there was no guarantee he would survive.
Recommending a doctor or
treatment center without being asked. The patient should be trusted to
make the right decision. Bill appreciates advice when he asks for it – but
unsolicited advice only creates angst.
Safety First
As a cold, flu, or COVID can kill him during and after
treatment, one of my roles has been to be the gatekeeper – ensuring anyone who
visited Bill was healthy. Patient safety is paramount. Those conversations had
to happen any time someone came to see Bill. Before I let them in the door of
our home, I had to ask how they were feeling. Bill often sat outside if a
plumber or electrician needed to come to our house.
Lead with Love
Bill has also found great comfort in friends’ visits, calls
and texts. He especially enjoys it when they call and ask him about the
favorite meal he is craving – then order it, pick it up and bring it over to
eat with him! We both love visiting with friends and not talking about cancer.
My spirits improve when I hear friends and family tell Bill, “Bill, I love
you.” He then tells them he loves them back. This show of love has been magical
for him. Bill finds the presence of family and friends comforting, even if
nothing is said.
As the burden of caring for a cancer patient is significant,
you must take care of yourself–physically, mentally and socially. I worried who
would take care of Bill if I got sick, so I eat well, get enough sleep and
exercise often. I spend time in devotion each evening. Through tennis and
volunteering, I have a robust group of friends. All of this helps me better
deal with the emotions of the cancer journey.
But I realize now that I tried to do too much. I did not
utilize outside resources like SYNERGY HomeCare to give me a break. I would have benefited
greatly from some time away from caring for Bill, for someone else to care for
Bill so I could care for myself. Even a half day off would have been
remarkable. So, as a spouse, get all the support you need. Outside resources
provide this support. Your partner needs you!
Kim Potts is married to Bill Potts, the author of “Up for
the Fight: How to Advocate For Yourself as You Battle Cancer, from a Five-Time
Survivor.” Kim is a successful business owner, tennis player, mom and best
friend to Bill. There is more on Kim and Bill at billcpotts.com.
Contact SYNERGY Homecare of Daphne for more information and a free assessment at 251-621-1900. They provide non-medical home care in Baldwin, Escambia and Mobile counties in Alabama.
Ellen Latham, the visionary founder of Orangetheory Fitness, has a remarkable story of resilience and determination that continues to inspire fitness enthusiasts worldwide. In a recent interview, Latham opened up about her journey, revealing how she turned career setbacks into a multimillion-dollar fitness empire. Her success story highlights the power of perseverance, adaptability, and a strong belief in ones abilities.Lathams journey began when she faced a significant career challengeshe was unexpectedly let go from her job as a physiologist at a prestigious spa. This setback could have been devastating, but Latham chose to channel her energy into creating something new. Drawing on her expertise in fitness and physiology, she began hosting Pilates classes in her spare bedroom. This modest start would eventually blossom into the foundation of Orangetheory Fitness.The concept behind Orangetheory emerged from Lathams deep understanding of the science of exercise. She developed a heart rate-based interval training system designed to optimize calorie burn and boost overall fitness. The program combines cardiovascular and strength training exercises with heart rate monitoring to ensure participants stay within a target "orange zone," where their metabolism remains elevated even after their workout ends. This unique method has been key to the brand's success, appealing to fitness enthusiasts seeking measurable results.Despite the challenges of building a business, Latham's unwavering dedication kept her motivated. She partnered with fitness professionals and business experts to expand Orangetheory into a global franchise. Today, Orangetheory boasts over 1,500 studios worldwide and continues to grow rapidly. Latham's ability to innovate and respond to market trends has been instrumental in this expansion.In addition to her entrepreneurial achievements, Latham has been an advocate for empowering women in business and fitness. She frequently shares her insights on overcoming obstacles and finding success, encouraging others to pursue their passions fearlessly. Her story resonates with individuals from all walks of life, demonstrating that setbacks can be stepping stones to greater achievements.Lathams advice for those facing professional or personal hurdles emphasizes the importance of persistence and adaptability. She highlights the value of focusing on what you can control, building on your strengths, and embracing new opportunities. This mindset, combined with her innovative fitness model, has solidified her legacy in the health and wellness industry.Orangetheory Fitness has earned a loyal following due to its science-backed approach and welcoming community. Members appreciate the structured yet flexible workout format, which allows individuals of all fitness levels to participate. The brand's focus on results-driven exercise continues to attract thousands of new members each year, solidifying its reputation as a leader in the fitness industry.In summary, Ellen Lathams inspiring journey from professional setback to entrepreneurial success is a testament to the power of resilience and innovation. Her story encourages individuals to embrace challenges, focus on their strengths, and pursue their dreams with confidence. Orangetheory Fitness remains a powerful example of how dedication, creativity, and a passion for helping others can transform an idea into a global phenomenon.
Spring cleaning represents more than just an annual tradition - it's an opportunity to create a safer, healthier, and more organized living environment while preserving cherished memories and precious belongings. As we age, our homes become more than just living spaces; they become repositories of life experiences and comfort zones that deserve thoughtful care and maintenance. This comprehensive resource helps seniors and their caregivers approach spring cleaning systematically, ensuring both safety and effectiveness while respecting the emotional connection we have with our homes. Whether you plan to tackle the cleaning yourself, work with family members, or coordinate with professional caregivers, this step-by-step approach will help you achieve a refreshed living space withouth feeling overwhelmed. Senior Spring-Cleaning: Tips and StrategiesCreate a manageable schedule: A well-planned schedule is the foundation of successful spring cleaning. Breaking tasks into smaller chunks makes the process less daunting and helps prevent physical and mental fatigue. Think of it as a gradual transformation rather than a rushed overhaul. Instead of tackling everything at once, break down your spring cleaning into smaller, manageable tasks spread across several weeks. This approach prevents exhaustion and makes the process more enjoyable. Some ideas:Start by assessing your home, noting areas that need attention and creating a room-by-room checklist.Schedule specific tasks for different days, allowing plenty of rest between sessions.Build flexibility into the schedule for unexpected events or days when energy levels might be lower.Plan more demanding tasks when family members or caregivers can help.Set priorities: Not all cleaning tasks carry the same weight or urgency. By identifying and focusing on the most important areas first, you can ensure that essential spaces are addressed, even if you need to spread the work over a longer period. Your everyday comfort and safety should guide these choices. Begin with areas that impact daily life and safety the most, such as:High-traffic areas like the kitchen and main living spaces.Spaces where clutter tends to accumulate.Areas that might pose fall safety risks, such as cluttered stairs, hallways, or poorly lit rooms.Seasonal items that need to be rotated or reviewed.Consider a Room-by-Room Cleaning ApproachDivide tasks between you and your helpers to make each rooms cleaning process manageable and safe. This collaborative approach ensures thorough cleaning while respecting physical limitations and preserving independence. Each person contributes according to their abilities and comfort level. Here are some ideas on how to approach this.Kitchen: The heart of every home deserves special attention during spring cleaning. Since the kitchen is used daily for food preparation and often serves as a gathering place, kitchen safety and maintaining cleanliness and organization are crucial for both health and enjoyment. Focus on making this space both functional and accessible. Here is an example of how to divide up the tasks.Senior-appropriate tasks:Sort through pantry items and check expiration dates.Wipe down accessible countertops and cabinet fronts.Organize frequently used items for easy reach.Clean out refrigerator shelves at a comfortable height.Tasks for caregivers:Deep-clean upper cabinets and high shelves.Move and clean behind heavy appliances.Scrub floor corners and hard-to-reach areas.Clean oven and under-sink areas.Living areas: Living spaces are where we spend most of our waking hours, making them prime candidates for thorough spring cleaning. A well-maintained living area not only provides comfort but also helps prevent accidents and promotes relaxation. These rooms often contain treasured belongings that deserve careful attention during cleaning. Here is an example of how to divide up the tasks.Senior-appropriate tasks:Dust accessible surfaces and decorative items.Sort through magazines and papers.Organize remote controls and frequently used items.Review and organize photos and memorabilia.Tasks for caregivers:Move and clean under furniture.Vacuum or clean carpets thoroughly.Clean windows and high shelves.Rotate or flip mattresses.Safety and Organization Tips When CleaningSafety should always come first when tackling spring cleaning tasks. Here are some safety practices to keep in mind.Follow safe cleaning practices: Cleaning-related accidents can be prevented with proper precautions and smart choices about tools and techniques. Start with these essential safety practices to make cleaning easier and more effective:Use nontoxic, clearly labeled cleaning products.Keep cleaning supplies at waist level to avoid bending or reaching.Work in well-ventilated areas.Take frequent breaksat least 10-15 minutes every hour.Essential cleaning tools: Having the right tools at your disposal can make cleaning tasks significantly easier and safer. Modern cleaning tools are designed with ergonomics in mind, reducing strain and allowing you to maintain independence while cleaning. Investing in appropriate tools is an investment in both safety and efficiency.Use lightweight, ergonomic cleaning tools with extended handles.Find stable step stools with handrails for slight reaches.Source microfiber cloths that require minimal wringing.Consider investing in a rolling cart for cleaning supplies to avoid carrying heavy items.Decluttering Strategies To Consider When NeededIf your home has an overabundance of belongings, causing a potential safety hazard or preventing a full cleaning, it may be the right time to declutter. Here are some ideas for tackling the challenge.Sorting method: Decluttering can feel overwhelming without a clear system in place. So, to keep the process organized when sorting through belongings, consider using four clearly labeled boxes:Keep (items used regularly).Donate (items in good condition but rarely used).Store (seasonal or sentimental items).Discard (damaged or expired items).This practical sorting approach helps break down the decision-making process into manageable choices while ensuring nothing is overlooked.Making decisions about belongings: Letting go of possessions can be emotionally challenging, especially if items have sentimental value. A thoughtful, structured approach to these decisions can help balance emotional attachment with practical needs. Remember that keeping memories doesnt always require keeping physical items. Consider these questions when deciding what to keep:Has this item been used in the past year?Does it serve a specific purpose in daily life?Does it have significant sentimental value?Could someone else benefit from it more?Tips for Family Caregivers Assisting a Loved One With Spring CleaningWhether youve been asked to help your loved one who is aging in place, or it is your idea to tackle spring cleaning, use effective communication strategies to ensure your aging loved one knows you support their independence. Here are some tips to help you be effective and respectful.Utilize effective communication: When helping your loved one with spring cleaning, approach the task with sensitivity and clear communication. Your role is to support them in maintaining both a clean home and their sense of autonomy. Take time to establish mutual understanding before diving into tasks.Focus on tasks that feel comfortable and safe.Listen carefully when they share physical limitations or concerns and adjust your assistance accordingly.Work together to choose appropriate times for cleaning activities, being mindful of their energy level and daily routine.Show genuine appreciation for their input and participation in the process, reinforcing that their involvement matters.Support their independence: Remember that providing help doesnt mean taking over. Your goal is to support your loved one in making choices that maintain their autonomy while ensuring their home remains clean and safe. Finding the right balance helps create a sustainable cleaning routine for both of you.Encourage them to lead the way on tasks they feel comfortable and safe performing.Offer assistance with more challenging activities without being overly insistent.Acknowledge and celebrate their contributions to the cleaning process, no matter how small.Let them maintain control over decisions about their belongings and spaces; act as a supportive guide rather than taking charge.Goal Accomplished: A Refreshed Home for the Year AheadSpring cleaning as a senior aging in place or in conjunction with a family caregiver or professional caregiver should be more than just a seasonal taskits an opportunity to create positive change in the living environment. By taking a methodical, manageable approach, the living space can be transformed into a cleaner, safer, and more organized home that can be enjoyed throughout the year. Whether tackling one room or the whole house, your efforts to create a cleaner, safer space will be worth celebrating.How Right at Home Can HelpRight at Home helps seniors and their families navigate the aging journey. We offer a wide range of in-home care services. Our professional caregivers can provide anything from light housekeeping, medication reminders, and transportation to appointments to help with ambulation, grooming, and hygiene. To find out more, click on our listing below or call 205-874-9424.
Seniors and Caregivers: Establish an Emergency Action PlanFor seniors and their caregivers, having a plan in place should an emergency strike can provide some peace of mind in a turbulent world. A crisis, such as illness, trauma, natural disaster, or any other unexpected adverse event, may one day require you to act quickly and decisively.Thinking and adapting can be particularly difficult when you are facing a high-stress situation. This is why disaster experts emphasize the importance of planning and practicing for various types of emergencies.For example, you might decide to run a fire drill in your own home. If your loved one lives in a residential facility, you want to ensure that the facility has suitable procedures in place. In an emergency, their staff members need to be able to provide adequate care for your loved one.If you do not have a disaster plan, its time to start creating one. If you have one, update it yearly and anytime there is a major change in your or your loved ones health care needs.Sharing Information on CaregivingHopefully, you would be able to continue to care for your loved one during and after a crisis. You should still ensure that other trusted individuals know how to care for your loved one, in case you are not with them. The more these helpers know about how to tend to your loved ones needs in emergency situations, the better.Start with writing a document to share with alternate caregivers. Involve the person who needs care as much as possible in this process. That way, you are making your loved one aware and allowing them to contribute. At the same time, it is also a great way to prompt conversations about what they might like to change in their current situation.The document should list your loved ones current needs, impairments, medications, and allergies. Describe what a typical day looks like for them, what provides comfort, and what foods they enjoy or avoid. Include crucial identifying information such as a current photo, date of birth, and Social Security number.A short biography informing providers of your loved ones interests, personality, and background can go a long way, especially if you are often their advocate or need to speak for them. Share this information with other family members, a family lawyer, their care facility, and anyone else who might help during a crisis.If you do not live with or near the person for whom you are creating the plan, think about who can help care for them until family arrives. Check which organizations or neighbors may supply necessities and check in on your loved one daily.In the Event of an EmergencyBe sure to keep any relevant medical information as well as your trusted contacts in an accessible place. Emergency responders, for example, you may look for your In Case of Emergency (ICE) contacts in your smartphone. Medical ID bracelets are essential for first responders as well.In addition, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) offers a Care Plan that you or your caregiver can print and fill out. In it, you can include detailed information on your medical care and emergency contacts. The CDC suggests storing the completed form in a waterproof bag with your insurance cards and photo ID.Consider creating a safety profile with Smart911 if it is available in your area. This free service will provide 911 dispatchers with details about your health needs or disability. In an emergency, this information could aid them in locating or assisting you. You can create profile for loved ones as well.Compile a disaster supplies kit; this may include your medications and any necessary medical supplies for your specific condition. Other items, like N95 masks, matches, and towels can prove useful in an emergency. Visit Ready.gov and the American Red Cross website for lists of recommended items and guides on preparedness.Planning for EvacuationThink ahead about how you would evacuate quickly and safely. Consider where you would go, how you would get there, and what you would need to bring.Does your chosen relocation site have adequate food, water, toiletries, and medication available? In times of emergency, keep in mind that you can check with the pharmacy before leaving, as many will provide early refills. Some major retailers also offer prescription delivery.Your plans should address specific seasons. For example, it may make sense to have summer plans that differ from winter ones, depending on where you live.Often, you or the senior needing care has medical needs requiring equipment, medicine, and attention. If they are not mobile, think about how you would relocate them in an emergency. Consider organizing some medical supplies in a bag or box to grab for a quick exit.Emergency relocation requires addressing the need to move all assistive medical devices and durable medical equipment. Remember batteries and chargers for all necessary devices.Try to avoid the need to evacuate quickly. A proactive early departure will help you stay calm and think more clearly. It may also help prevent potential difficulties like gas shortages and traffic jams.A Crisis Plan for Senior Citizens in a Residential FacilityYour plan for a senior living in a facility will look different than it would for one living in their home. Below are some recommendations to ensure aging loved ones in a facility will stay safe in a disaster:Review the facilitys backup generator, evacuation routes, and other basic precautions.Make sure the facility has your primary and alternative contact information.Request updates from health administration staff regarding changes in your loved ones emotional or physical state.Ask for medical records that document all care they are managing.Communicate frequently with your loved one in any way possible to ensure they are as safe as possible.Take detailed notes because it is easy to overlook or forget important details during times of high stress.Share as much information as possible with your loved one to reassure them that their health and safety are a priority.Start Small and SoonIt may feel overwhelming to consider all the steps involved in crisis planning and put it off until another day. Unfortunately, you never know when disaster might occur, so theres no time to lose.To start, jot down the most critical information and share it with your loved ones. You can always update your plan with more details later. These steps can provide organization, protection, and comfort in times of great uncertainty.This article shared by Ashley Day Special Needs & Elder Law. Ashley Day can be contacted at 251-277-3377
Welcome to SYNERGY HomeCare of Daphne Compassionate, Reliable, and Award-Winning Home CareCare That Moves You ForwardLife is always moving forward, and at SYNERGY HomeCare, we are committed to ensuring that you or your loved ones can move forward confidently, comfortably, and with the care needed to thrive. Whether its personal assistance, companionship, live-in care, or end-of-life comfort, we provide the extra support that makes all the difference. Our compassionate caregivers are here to enhance independence, dignity, and well-being.Call us today to explore the home care solutions that best fit your needs: 251-621-1900Why Choose SYNERGY HomeCare?Award-Winning Home CareSYNERGY HomeCare has been nationally recognized for outstanding client care, earning top rankings from Home Care Pulse, an independent satisfaction research firm. We are proud to set the standard in home care excellence.Flexible, Personalized CareOn Your TermsNo long-term contractsservices adapt to your changing needs.Available 24/7, from a few hours a day to full-time care.Caregivers matched based on personality, skills, and preferences.Immediate caregiver placement available based on your needs.Fully licensed, insured, and bonded caregivers for your peace of mind.Common Questions AnsweredCan I choose my caregiver and meet them in advance?Yes! We arrange meet-and-greet sessions so you feel comfortable with your caregiver. If you ever wish to change caregivers, we will accommodate your request until youre completely satisfied.Why should I choose SYNERGY HomeCare instead of hiring a private caregiver?Hiring privately makes you an employer, responsible for payroll taxes, insurance, and background checks. With SYNERGY HomeCare, we handle all of this for you, ensuring reliable coverage and peace of mindno missed shifts, no legal worries, just exceptional care.What services do you offer?We provide a comprehensive range of non-medical home care services, including:Personal Assistance (bathing, dressing, hygiene, mobility support)Companionship & Social EngagementAlzheimers & Dementia CareMeal Preparation & Feeding AssistanceMedication RemindersLight Housekeeping & LaundryErrands & Grocery ShoppingTransportation to AppointmentsExercise & Healthy Living SupportCare Coordination with Hospitals, Home Health, and Hospice24/7 Care & Family Respite SupportVeteransWe Honor Your Service with Exceptional Home CareAt SYNERGY HomeCare, we are honored to serve Veterans and their families. Many of our locations are VA-approved providers, making it easy to access home care benefits through the Veterans Affairs (VA) programs.How VA Benefits Can Help Cover Home CareIf you or your spouse need assistance with daily activities, memory care, or support for disability or illness, your VA benefits may help cover home care services. Eligible programs include:Homemaker and Home Health Aide Program Personal care services for eligible Veterans.Aid and Attendance Pension Additional financial assistance for Veterans, spouses, and surviving spouses.Program of Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers (PCAFC) Support for family caregivers, including respite care and stipends.Veteran-Directed Care (VDC) A self-directed care program for Veterans to choose their caregivers and manage their care.Let us help you navigate your VA benefits and access the home care services you deserve.Reliable, Flexible CareWhen You Need ItWhether you need companionship, assistance with daily tasks, or full-time care, SYNERGY HomeCare is here for you. We provide full support for fuller lives so you can live with dignity, independence, and confidence. Call us today for a FREE in-home assessment: 251-621-1900SYNERGY HomeCare Compassionate Care That Moves You Forward.