The Last Chapter: What to Expect, What to avoid, What to Smile About.

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Oct 18, 2018

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Wouldnt it be nice to just ride off into the sunset, and when that golden glow is laying on the horizon like a bridge, we just step onto it and walk right into Heaven?
Sounds perfect.

But life isnt so perfect, and it isnt easy either. But there are many good memories we can all tuck away and carry with us. And we can make the process a little easier on our families by being prepared. Sit with a pre-need specialist and work out the details the way you want. This will give you peace of mind. Next, have the talk with your kids, let them know what you expect. Knowing you are prepared will give them peace of mind.

Enjoy life.

By facing reality courageously, and making plans, an amazing thing happens: your now free to focus on other things, things that make you happy. We see people sigh a big sigh of relief when their plans are made. And we often see them take up new hobbies, spend more time with grandkids, even take a romantic vacation.

So, a few words of advice: Expect a lot of emotions as you get older but avoid dwelling on the negative. Be forgiving and be at peace. Look for something to smile about everyday. Be prepared and put it away.

Make somebody smile.

Relationships are our greatest treasure. Reach out to friends and family, send notes, make phone calls, drop by for visits, have dinner parties, go for walks with grandkids. Your legacy is going to be the moments you leave them. One family we served lost their father just before he turned 60. He had cancer, and as soon as he found out, he sold his business and spent everyday with his wife and kids, and the grandkids. He was prepared and wanted to make the most of the last 3 months of his time. His kids spoke at the funeral and said they were the best three months of their lives. They laughed. They cried. They couldnt stop smiling.

Make yours a happy ending.

Editors Note: This article was submitted by Spencer Larkin of Larkin Mortuary.

He may be reached at 801-363-5781

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