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Published on April 16, 2024 by The Validation Training Institute
As a member of the Validation Training Institute (VTI) Board, a mindfulness teacher, and an individual engaged in both the physical and mental aspects of aging, I find myself standing at the intersection of profound personal and professional insights. The journey of aging is not just a physical one characterized by the inevitable changes in stamina, muscle mass, and the appearance of wrinkles. At 52, these signs of aging are tangible reminders of the body’s natural progression. However, there is another aspect of aging that often lurks in the background, unnoticed until it forcefully demands attention—cognitive decline.
My connection to cognitive decline is both distant and intimate. While my own thoughts rarely wander to fears of disorientation or loss of mental acuity, the shadow of Alzheimer’s disease looms large in my family history. My mother’s aunt’s extreme cognitive decline serves as a stark reminder of the potential futures many of us may face. My mother’s fear of following in her aunt’s footsteps is a constant presence in her life, yet I find myself pondering—what if I do experience significant cognitive decline myself? Which parts of my consciousness will fade, becoming inaccessible to both me and those around me? How would I wish to be treated by my caregivers in such a scenario?
It is here that the Validation Method, developed by Naomi Feil, becomes not just a professional tool but a beacon of hope. Validation is a way of communicating with and understanding individuals experiencing cognitive decline. It emphasizes empathy, respect, and the dignity of the person, regardless of their cognitive state. This approach aligns closely with my values as a mindfulness teacher and my understanding of the human consciousness as explored in Jack Kornfield’s “The Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology.”
Kornfield’s exploration of consciousness in Buddhist psychology offers profound insights into the nature of our minds and beings. Consciousness, as described, is clear, timeless, and untouched by the transient thoughts and attachments that flit through our minds. This understanding underscores the importance of touch and eye contact, especially when speech and hearing may no longer serve as reliable bridges of connection. In the context of cognitive decline, these forms of non-verbal communication resonate with the core of our being, reaching the part of us that remains aware and responsive.
The essence of mindfulness—being fully present and compassionate with what is—parallels the Validation Method’s approach. Both practices honor the individual’s experience and the fundamental integrity of their consciousness. As a mindfulness teacher, my journey into Buddhist psychology deepens my appreciation for the nuanced ways in which we can connect with and support individuals experiencing cognitive decline. It reminds me that beneath the challenges of communication and memory, there exists a profound human awareness deserving of dignity and love.
In contemplating my own aging and potential future with cognitive decline, I am comforted by the knowledge and practice of Validation and mindfulness. These approaches not only provide a framework for compassionate caregiving but also remind us of the resilience and depth of the human spirit. They teach us that even as certain faculties may diminish, the essence of who we are—a consciousness that is clear, expansive, and fundamentally unblemished—remains.
Incorporating the Validation Method with the insights of Buddhist psychology, we can create a caregiving environment that respects and honors the fullness of the individual. As we navigate the complexities of aging, both as caregivers and as individuals facing our own journeys, let us do so with the wisdom, compassion, and mindfulness that every person deserves.
Through the exploration of these interconnected paths, we are invited to view aging and cognitive decline not as fearsome unknowns but as opportunities for deepening our practice of empathy and understanding. As we look forward to the years ahead, may we embrace the aging process with grace, supporting ourselves and others with the dignity and respect inherent in the Validation Method and the teachings of mindfulness and Buddhist psychology.
Gifts for Grandma, Grandpa, or Aging ParentsIts no secret that shopping for gifts for grandma, grandpa, or an older parent, can be difficult. A life well lived also means theyve probably acquired everything they need for their day-to-day tasks. Do they really need another stock pot, blanket, or screwdriver? Probably not. And those kinds of gifts are BORING with a capital B. Why not find something thats new AND solves a problem?How do you buy a gift for a senior who already has everything?The trick is to find a present that adds value and independence to their life. As we age, things that we took for granted in our youth become much harder as the years pass on.One such example that many seniors struggle with is the simple task of clipping fingernails. The standard fingernail clipper hasnt changed for over 70 years. Its small and requires a surprising amount of vision and dexterity.Now imagine youre a senior with advancing arthritis or decreasing vision and what used to be a simple task is now a lot more difficult. Maybe you have MS or Parkinsons and fine motor dexterity is an everyday challenge. Or perhaps youre fully capable of clipping your own nails, but want additional convenience. Or maybe youre a caregiver and clipping fingernails is low on your priority list. Any way you look at it, theres no right or wrong reason to want a bit of independence.In fact, there are over 50 million people in the US alone who have limited dexterity, strength, or vision. And tens of millions more who dislike the messy and annoying process of clipping fingernails. If your parent or grandparent needs help, theyre certainly not alone.Get them something that makes their life easier.Introducing the ClipDifferent Pro: the easiest-to-use nail clipper on the planet. Its easily one of the best gifts for grandma, grandpa, or an aging parent.The ClipDifferent Pro is a revolutionary, first-of-its-kind, automatic fingernail clipper that safely trims fingernails with the simple touch of a button. Its effortless, safe, leaves no mess, and is built to last.It includes FREE SHIPPING and a FULL GUARANTEE!It uses a bit of science, a bit of magic, and a few top-secret components that elevate the act of fingernail clipping from boring to holy cow!.Put simply, the ClipDifferent Pro utilizes a high-capacity, rechargeable NiMH battery to power a finely-tuned, patent-pending trimming mechanism manufactured with surgical grade stainless steel, to create the most seamless, clean, and nearly effortless fingernail clipping experience youve ever had. Dont Just Take Our Word For It Heres What Others Are Saying The ClipDifferent Pro is so simple and easy to use! Rollie Rodgers (Korean War Veteran and Living with Parkinsons) It gives me one more way to be independent. Rick Zeidler (Vision Loss) Ive won the war but its these day-to-day battles that we have to deal with. Rick Ebner (Living with MS) I think anyone will find the Pro fabulousespecially those who have challenges with fine motor skills. Geno Mucciacciaro (Disabled Veteran with Neurological and Central Nervous System Issues) Once you see the Pro work, its hard to go back to the old way of clipping your nails. Butch Donohue (Amputee/Limb Loss) Every home needs to have one of these! Tamara S. (Home Health Care Advisor) I need to buy one of these for my husband! Velma Hagar Ristaino (Author, Inspirational Speaker)
Recently, I tuned in to an NPR program that was discussing the concept of 'aging in place,' inspired by an insightful article in the Sun Times. As the host engaged in a conversation with her two guests, I was intrigued as they explored various aspects of traditional aging in place concepts, from the installation of safety equipment like shower grab bars to employing plug-in LED lights in hallways and on stairways to prevent falls. They emphasized the importance of having a communication plan for emergencies, ensuring that those choosing to age in their homes have a way to reach out to loved ones or first responders if the need arises. The discussion also touched on how to determine the correct timing for seeking additional assistance from in-home care companies, which offer services ranging from personal care and bathing to meal preparation, laundry, grocery shopping, and light housekeeping. My sister owns one of these types of companies, Wisdom Eldercare, which serves clients throughout the greater Chicagoland area, so I have direct experience with the remarkable level of care and services she and her caregivers provide to their clients. Undoubtedly, these types of services play a crucial role in supporting individuals who wish to maintain their independence at home. While the conversation covered these essential considerations, it surprised me that neither the host nor the guests mentioned the significance of embracing and understanding technology to assist in the aging-in-place journey even once. Although I attempted to bring this perspective into the conversation through a call-in, I unfortunately wasn't selected to participate in the conversation. Since I couldnt bring the technology component of aging in place to that conversation, I'd like to share some of my thoughts and insights on leveraging technology for successful aging in place here. In recent years, the term 'Smart device' has become increasingly prevalent, reflecting a lucrative market where companies aim to capitalize on producing 'smart' products. Everywhere you turn, be it on TV, radio, or the internet, you encounter references to Smart Speakers, Smart Assistants, Smart TVs, Smart Watches, Smart Lights, Smart Doorbells, Smartphones, and more. At its core, a 'Smart' device is simply one that can connect to the internet. The importance lies in their capacity to assist, and I want to highlight a few ways in which they can enhance the aging-in-place experience. Smart Speakers are a category of smart devices that I find to be among the easiest to incorporate into your home, offering a wide range of features that prove immensely beneficial for aging in place. Companies like Apple, Amazon, and Google have introduced Smart Speakers such as Apple HomePod, Amazon Echo, and Google Nest devices, each equipped with their own Digital Assistants Siri and Alexa for example. These devices can answer queries, from simple ones like checking the weather to assisting with more complex tasks like controlling lights, locking, or unlocking doors, accessing security cameras, and even instructing a robot vacuum to clean the kitchen. For Smart Assistants, via Smart Speakers, to interact effectively, the other connected devices with which they are communicating and controlling must also be 'Smart.' Incorporating Smart LED lights, door locks, cameras, and even robot vacuums into your home offers a seamless integration of additional Smart Devices. Picture someone ringing your doorbell, and with a simple voice command through a Smart Speaker, you can engage in a conversation with them, see the visitor, and even unlock the doorall made possible through the wonders of Smart Devices. Or imagine a scenario where your dog has knocked over their bowl of kibble and hundreds of tiny pieces of dog food are scattered all over the kitchen floor. With one simple voice command to your Smart Speaker, you can instruct your robot vacuum to clean it up eliminating the need to get out the broom and dustpan. As we consider the various elements contributing to successful aging in place, let's not overlook the tremendous potential of technology. Integrating Smart Devices into your home can empower you, providing a level of convenience, safety, and independence that complements the more traditional measures previously discussed. Embracing technology ensures that you not only adapt to the changing times but also thrive in them, creating a blend of modern innovation alongside the desire for a comfortable and secure home environment. And, as we navigate the ever-evolving landscape of technology, let us not forget the profound impact it can have on our livesushering in a new era where the golden years are not just lived but lived exceptionally well, thanks to the synergy of thoughtful planning, caregiving, and cutting-edge innovation.
Engaging Activities for Seniors: Enriching Lives in Every WayAs we age, staying activeboth physically and mentallybecomes increasingly important. Not only do activities help maintain health and wellness, but they also provide opportunities for social interaction, personal growth, and sheer enjoyment. At Assisted Living Locators North Pittsburgh, we believe that every senior deserves a vibrant and fulfilling life, filled with activities that cater to their interests, abilities, and passions. Heres a look at some of the best activities for seniors that can help enhance their quality of life.1. Physical Activities: Keeping the Body StrongRegular physical activity is essential for maintaining mobility, strength, and overall health. Even gentle exercises can have profound benefits for seniors.Walking Groups: A daily walk, whether indoors or outdoors, can improve cardiovascular health, boost mood, and provide a great way to socialize.Chair Yoga: For those with limited mobility, chair yoga offers a low-impact way to increase flexibility, balance, and relaxation.Water Aerobics: Exercising in water reduces the impact on joints, making it ideal for seniors with arthritis or other joint issues.Tai Chi: This ancient practice promotes balance, reduces stress, and enhances mental focus, making it a wonderful activity for seniors.2. Cognitive Activities: Keeping the Mind SharpMental stimulation is crucial for cognitive health, and engaging the brain can help slow cognitive decline and keep the mind sharp.Puzzles and Games: Crosswords, Sudoku, and jigsaw puzzles are excellent for keeping the mind active and focused.Reading Groups: Book clubs or reading groups not only stimulate the mind but also provide a platform for social interaction and discussion.Art and Craft Workshops: Creative activities like painting, knitting, or pottery can boost cognitive function while allowing for self-expression.Brain Games: Board games like chess, Scrabble, and other strategy games offer both mental challenge and enjoyment.3. Social Activities: Building ConnectionsSocial interaction is vital for emotional well-being, helping seniors feel connected and reducing feelings of loneliness and isolation.Group Outings: Visits to museums, parks, or local events provide opportunities to explore the community and socialize with others.Bingo and Trivia Nights: These classic social activities are always a hit, bringing people together for some fun and friendly competition.Volunteer Opportunities: Giving back to the community through volunteering can provide a sense of purpose and connection.Themed Parties and Events: Seasonal celebrations, holiday parties, and themed events offer fun and festivity, creating cherished memories.4. Creative Activities: Unleashing Inner ArtistsCreative expression is a wonderful way for seniors to explore new talents or rediscover old hobbies.Painting and Drawing: Whether through structured classes or free sessions, art allows seniors to express themselves creatively.Music and Dance: Music can be incredibly therapeutic, and dancing, even in a seated position, can bring joy and physical movement.Writing Workshops: Seniors who enjoy writing can participate in workshops or journaling groups, where they can share their stories and memories.5. Spiritual and Emotional Activities: Nurturing the SoulSpiritual and emotional well-being are equally important, providing comfort and peace as seniors navigate the later stages of life.Meditation and Mindfulness: Guided meditation and mindfulness sessions help reduce stress and promote a sense of calm and well-being.Religious Services: For those with religious or spiritual beliefs, attending services or participating in faith-based groups can provide deep emotional fulfillment.Life Story Projects: Encouraging seniors to document their life stories through writing, scrapbooking, or video can be a deeply meaningful activity that honors their legacy.6. Educational Activities: Lifelong LearningIts never too late to learn something new! Educational activities can ignite curiosity and keep the mind engaged.Guest Lectures and Classes: Many independent living and assisted living communities offer lectures on various topics, from history to science to current events.Language Learning: Learning a new language or practicing an existing one can be both challenging and rewarding.Technology Classes: Helping seniors stay connected with technology, such as using smartphones, tablets, or social media, can open up new avenues for learning and communication.At Assisted Living Locators North Pittsburgh, we are committed to helping seniors lead active, engaged, and fulfilling lives. Whether through physical activity, creative expression, social interaction, or lifelong learning, we believe that every senior deserves the opportunity to pursue their passions and interests.If youre exploring senior living options for yourself or a loved one, we are here to guide you through every step of the process. Our expert advisors can help you find a community that offers a wide range of activities tailored to the needs and preferences of its residents. Together, we can ensure that the next chapter of life is filled with joy, connection, and enrichment.
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