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I was recently stunned to see a CDC finding cited in a Washington Post article that 4 out of 10 Americans say they have not found purpose in life. That is truly tragic since there is so much to be gained from a belief that one’s existence has meaning. Proponents point to lowering levels of the stress hormone cortisol, reduced inflammation, as well as actual extended life longevity. The Washington Post article, by Marta Zaraska, entitled “Boosting Our Sense of Meaning in Life is an Often Overlooked Longevity Ingredient,” cites a research study that proved that if a 90-year-old with a clear purpose in life develops Alzheimer’s disease, that person will probably keep functioning relatively well despite real pathological changes in the brain. As amazing as that sounds, I think we all have anecdotal evidence which supports these claims as well. For instance, 94 year old American singing legend, Tony Bennett, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2016. His wife reports that he continues to practice his ninety-minute musical set twice a week with his accompanist and do many things others his age cannot, despite changes in his demeanor.
Why does that happen? Why is it that some people seem to “roll with the punches” as Naomi Feil says, while others don’t?
Some years ago, we visited friends who had retired to a rather unique community near Jacksonville, Florida called Penney Farms. The land was originally acquired by the famous retailer J.C. Penney to create a low-cost retirement option for people who had served as different types of religious missionaries. These special people had spent their careers serving others less fortunate at the expense of their own material needs. Penney wanted them to live the last chapter of their lives among kindred spirits and feel valued. The guiding principle of Penney Farms is that residents (who no longer have to have been missionaries to qualify) would actively continue to serve each other with whatever skills they could bring to the community. Some people offer open workshops which teach a wide variety of practical repairs or artistry, others help assemble simple scooters which are donated to people living in Africa who have no mobility, while others assist with simple operations and maintenance of the grounds and property. Even serving meals or reading to people in the onsite infirmary are valued jobs which help defray costs. One older adult I met there had spent years caring for his very sick wife who had died not long after they moved to Penney Farms. He had lost the singular purpose of his life and withdrew into a deep depression. He was given a simple task: Every morning he would clear the path to the dining hall of leaves and debris. He knew his community counted on him because this was not busy work but essential to pride and safety. An added benefit was his daily encounters with almost all his neighbors and their cheerful greetings. His mood was lifted as time went on as he became more socially engaged. The Japanese have their own term, “ikigai”, or “life worth living” which ranges from having a paying job, to taking care of grandchildren, volunteering, or keeping one’s street clean and pretty.
People of all ages, but especially older adults, are looking for ways to feel valued and needed. Validation theory acknowledges the damage to brain function that happens normally with getting older. This is not a disease process but an aging process. Naomi Feil talks about ‘Oldheimer’s’ rather than ‘Alzheimer’s’ for very old people who are living with cognitive decline due to aging. Validation can be part of a comprehensive effort to engage these older adults, to show them respect, and acknowledge that they are still valued. All people are worthwhile and have the basic human need to be useful. These Validation principles guide our approach to older adults. Validation group sessions can lead to powerful bonding and more social interaction.
By: Fran Bulloff, VTI President
The Validation Training Institute (VTI) is a non-profit organization that advances knowledge, values, education and research rooted in the Validation method. The objective is to nurture respect, dignity and well-being in the lives of older adults experiencing age-related cognitive decline and their caregivers. Our vision for the future is that every older adult experiencing age-related cognitive decline, and their caregiver, can feel the joy and love of meaningful communication.
Why Having a Healthcare Advocate Can Make a Difference in Your Medical Journey. Navigating the healthcare system can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially when dealing with a new diagnosis, managing a chronic condition, or making important decisions about medical treatment. Between scheduling appointments, understanding medical terminology, communicating with multiple healthcare providers, and keeping track of treatment plans, patients and their families can quickly become frustrated or confused. This is where a healthcare advocate can make a meaningful difference. A healthcare advocate serves as a knowledgeable support person who helps patients navigate the healthcare system, understand their medical options, communicate with healthcare professionals, and make informed decisions about their care. Whether someone is facing a serious diagnosis, preparing for surgery, managing a long-term illness, or simply trying to understand their treatment options, having an advocate can provide valuable guidance and reassurance throughout the medical journey. What Is a Healthcare Advocate? A healthcare advocate is someone who helps patients understand and navigate the often-complicated healthcare system. Their role is to support patients by helping them access information, communicate with medical professionals, coordinate care, and better understand their healthcare choices. Healthcare advocates may assist with a variety of needs, including: Helping patients understand medical diagnoses and treatment recommendations. Preparing questions for upcoming doctor appointments. Helping patients communicate concerns and symptoms to healthcare providers. Coordinating appointments with multiple specialists. Reviewing treatment options and helping patients understand the information provided by their medical team. Helping patients obtain and organize medical records. Supporting patients who are considering a second medical opinion. Helping families understand available healthcare resources and services. A healthcare advocate does not replace a physician or make medical decisions for the patient. Instead, they help patients become more informed, confident, and involved in their own healthcare decisions. Understanding Your Diagnosis and Treatment Options Receiving a medical diagnosis can be an emotional and confusing experience. Patients may leave a doctor's appointment with more questions than answers, especially when they are unfamiliar with medical terminology or are trying to process unexpected news. A healthcare advocate can help patients better understand the information they receive from their healthcare providers. For example, after receiving a diagnosis of cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or another serious medical condition, a patient may need to understand several aspects of their care, including treatment options, potential side effects, follow-up appointments, and lifestyle changes. An advocate can help organize this information, identify questions that need clarification, and encourage patients to discuss their concerns directly with their physicians. Having someone help explain complicated healthcare information can make it easier for patients and families to understand their situation and feel more prepared for the decisions ahead. Improving Communication Between Patients and Doctors Good communication between patients and healthcare providers is essential for effective healthcare. However, patients sometimes feel intimidated, rushed, or unsure about how to express their concerns during medical appointments. They may forget important questions, struggle to describe their symptoms, or leave without fully understanding their physician's recommendations. A healthcare advocate can help bridge this communication gap. Before an appointment, an advocate may help patients prepare a list of questions, organize medical information, and identify concerns they want to discuss. During an appointment, when authorized and welcomed by the patient and provider, an advocate may attend to help take notes, ask questions, and make sure important information is understood. After the appointment, an advocate can help patients review their notes, understand the next steps, and identify any follow-up questions. This additional support can be particularly helpful for older adults, individuals managing complex medical conditions, and patients who feel overwhelmed by the amount of information they receive. Coordinating Care Among Multiple Healthcare Providers Many patients receive care from several different healthcare professionals. Someone managing a chronic illness, for example, may see a primary care physician, cardiologist, neurologist, endocrinologist, or other specialists. Although each provider plays an important role, coordinating appointments, medical records, treatment recommendations, and follow-up instructions can become challenging. A healthcare advocate can help patients stay organized and navigate these different aspects of their care. Care coordination may include: Helping schedule appointments with specialists. Keeping track of upcoming medical visits and follow-up care. Organizing medical records and test results. Helping patients communicate information between healthcare providers. Identifying questions about conflicting or unclear treatment recommendations. Helping patients understand referrals and recommended next steps. When patients have multiple medical providers, having someone help organize their healthcare information can make the process less stressful and help reduce the likelihood of important details being overlooked. Helping Patients Make Informed Healthcare Decisions Medical decisions can have a significant impact on a person's health, independence, finances, and quality of life. Patients may be asked to consider medications, surgical procedures, treatment plans, rehabilitation services, or other medical interventions. Making these decisions can be difficult, particularly when patients are facing unfamiliar medical conditions or complicated treatment choices. A healthcare advocate helps patients understand the information available so they can have more productive conversations with their medical providers. An advocate may help patients: Understand the purpose of recommended treatments. Prepare questions about potential risks and benefits. Discuss alternative treatment approaches with their physicians. Understand what to expect during recovery. Explore whether a second medical opinion may be appropriate. Consider how different treatment options may affect daily life and personal goals. The goal is not to tell patients which treatment to choose. Instead, it is to make sure they have the information and support needed to participate in decisions about their healthcare. Ultimately, medical decisions should reflect the patient's needs, values, preferences, and conversations with qualified healthcare professionals. The Importance of a Second Medical Opinion When facing a serious or complicated diagnosis, patients may benefit from seeking a second medical opinion. Getting another professional perspective can help confirm a diagnosis, provide additional information about treatment options, or identify alternative approaches. However, knowing when and how to seek another opinion can be confusing. A healthcare advocate can help patients understand the process and prepare for a second opinion appointment. This may involve organizing medical records, collecting test results, identifying specialists, and preparing questions about the diagnosis and recommended treatment. Having additional information can help patients feel more confident about the decisions they make and better understand the options available to them. Seeking a second opinion does not mean a patient distrusts their current physician. It is simply another way to become informed and make thoughtful decisions about their health. Providing Support for Family Members and Caregivers A serious medical condition affects more than just the individual receiving care. Family members and caregivers often become involved in managing appointments, understanding treatment recommendations, communicating with physicians, and providing emotional support. These responsibilities can become overwhelming, especially when family members are balancing caregiving with their own personal and professional obligations. A healthcare advocate can help ease some of this burden by providing guidance and organizational support. With the patient's permission, an advocate can help family members understand the care plan, keep track of upcoming appointments, organize medical information, and identify questions that need to be addressed. This support can be particularly valuable when adult children are helping aging parents navigate healthcare decisions or when families live in different locations. Having an additional knowledgeable person involved can help families feel more supported while keeping the patient's preferences and needs at the center of care. When Should You Consider Hiring a Healthcare Advocate? There is no single time when everyone needs a healthcare advocate. Some people benefit from assistance during a major medical event, while others appreciate having ongoing support as they manage complicated healthcare needs. You may want to consider working with a healthcare advocate if: You have recently received a serious or unexpected medical diagnosis. You are managing multiple chronic health conditions. You have difficulty understanding medical terminology or treatment recommendations. You see several specialists and need help coordinating your care. You are preparing for surgery or a complicated medical procedure. You want assistance obtaining a second medical opinion. You feel rushed or uncomfortable during medical appointments. You are helping an aging parent or loved one navigate the healthcare system. You want someone to help organize medical records, appointments, and treatment information. Even patients who are generally comfortable managing their healthcare may benefit from having an advocate during particularly complicated or stressful medical situations. How to Choose the Right Healthcare Advocate Choosing a healthcare advocate is an important decision. You want someone who understands the healthcare system, communicates effectively, respects your preferences, and has your best interests in mind. When considering an advocate, look for someone who: Has experience navigating healthcare systems and working with patients. Communicates clearly and listens carefully to your concerns. Understands the importance of patient choice and confidentiality. Can help organize medical information and coordinate care. Is willing to explain complicated information in an understandable way. Respects your relationship with your physicians and other healthcare providers. Provides personalized guidance based on your individual needs. It is also important to understand what services are included, how the advocate works with healthcare providers, and whether services are available in person, remotely, or both. A good healthcare advocate should help you feel informed, respected, and empowered rather than pressured into making decisions. Take an Active Role in Your Healthcare Journey Your health is one of your most valuable assets, and you deserve to feel informed and supported when making decisions about your medical care. Unfortunately, navigating the healthcare system is not always easy. Complicated diagnoses, multiple specialists, confusing medical information, and difficult treatment decisions can leave patients feeling uncertain about what to do next. A healthcare advocate can help make the process more manageable by providing guidance, improving communication, organizing healthcare information, and helping patients understand their options. Most importantly, having an advocate can help patients become more confident participants in their own healthcare journey. You do not have to navigate complicated medical situations alone. With the right support, you can ask better questions, understand your choices, and work more effectively with your healthcare team. If you or someone you love is feeling overwhelmed by the healthcare system, consider reaching out to Vital Voice Healthcare Navigation. Having a knowledgeable advocate by your side can make a meaningful difference in understanding your care and moving forward with greater confidence.
Hey there! Do you already have your holiday decorations put away, or will your Christmas tree be up until February? To be honest, I can be either person, depending on the year. This year, Ive been a little slow to pack up my garlands and lights, but thats ok. Organization doesnt mean being perfect all the time.The holiday season can bring fun and joy, but it can also bring chaos to the systems in your home. Theres a proliferation of stuff -- cards, packages, gifts of all kinds, decorations, wrapping paper, social engagements, emotions. After all the partying is over, we can be left with a feeling of overwhelm. As a professional organizer, here are my tips for how to handle all of the stuff that came into your house over the holidays and bring (a little more) peace to your home and heart: Decide what to keepThis is really the first (and most critical) thing to do as soon as youre ready to move on from the holidays. Take a look at everything that came into your house during the season and keep only what you truly want to have. I dont recommend keeping anything you dont love, need, or want, even if it was a gift (more on that below). If you shove that ugly sweater in a closet, forget about it, and discover it two years later, youll still have to make the same decisions about what to do with it. Decide what to do as soon as you can. Find a home for everything youre keeping (and put it there right away). If you are keeping a newer/different version of something you already own (for example, you got a nicer coffee maker for Christmas), consider donating or discarding your old item. In other words, follow the one-in, one-out rule if its appropriate.Let go of unwanted gifts Something I hear all of the time from clients is I dont really like this, but it was a gift and I feel guilty about giving it away.I know that gifts can be tricky. I think honoring the intention of the gift given to us is actually more important than holding onto the actual physical object. Usually, someone gives you a gift to show you that they care about you or because they hope youll enjoy it, not because they expect you to become the permanent caretaker of that object. (And if someone gives you a gift receipt, they dont mind if you return it dont feel guilty!)So how do I handle gifts I dont love? I go out of my way to thank the giver in a way thats sincere. I dont tell someone I loved a particular gift if I didnt, but I do thank them for thinking of me and for their generosity. If I dont want or cant use a gift, I pass it on to someone who can enjoy it more than me. That may mean donating it to a charity, giving it away through my local Buy Nothing group, or regifting to someone who I know would appreciate it. Sort the trash and recyclingYou probably ended up with lots of boxes after Black Friday. Go through any extra packaging and recycle, throw away, or give away what you cant use immediately. My clients often have a ton of empty boxes they are saving for someday, but those boxes can take up a lot of space (and its likely that more will come into your home soon). Getting them out is one of the easiest ways you can make your home feel less cluttered immediately. If you have boxes in good condition, you can post them on your local Buy Nothing or neighborhood social media group for someone who is moving. Take another look at your holiday cardsBefore you shove them into a box, look at each card individually. Is this specific card something that will be meaningful to you in a year? 10 years? If its not, appreciate the person who sent it to you and recycle the card. If it truly is a keepsake, save it in an album or memory box. Evaluate your holiday decorMany of my clients struggle with accumulating and storing holiday decor. I recommend thinking about any decor you didnt put out this year will you put it out next year, or are you over it? Do you have more than you can use? Set aside anything you no longer love or want to donate next fall before the holidays (generally, thrift shops do not have space to store out-of-season items for long periods of time). And make sure to carefully store the items you do love and so you can enjoy them next year
As we age, staying socially connected can become just as important as staying physically active. Friendships, family relationships, community involvement, and regular social activities can bring joy and purpose to everyday life.Retirement and other life changes can sometimes reduce opportunities for social interaction. Children may live farther away, friends may move or pass away, and health or mobility changes may make it harder to participate in activities outside the home.For these reasons, finding meaningful ways to stay connected is an important part of healthy aging. Social connection can support emotional well-being, encourage an active lifestyle, and help seniors continue to feel a strong sense of belonging.Social Connection Can Help Reduce LonelinessLoneliness can affect anyone, but older adults may experience changes in their social networks as they age. Spending too much time alone can leave a senior feeling disconnected from family, friends, and the community around them.Regular social interaction provides opportunities to talk, laugh, share experiences, and simply enjoy another person's company.Even simple activities such as having coffee with a friend, eating a meal with others, attending a group activity, or taking a walk together can help a senior feel more connected.Friendships Give Seniors a Sense of BelongingFriendships remain important throughout life. Having people to talk with and share experiences with can provide comfort and companionship.Senior living communities can provide opportunities to develop new friendships while maintaining existing relationships. Shared meals, social gatherings, clubs, classes, and recreational activities give residents natural opportunities to meet people with similar interests.Making new friends can help a senior feel that they are part of a community rather than living in isolation.Social Activities Can Provide a Sense of PurposeHaving something to look forward to can make a meaningful difference in a person's daily life. Social activities give seniors opportunities to participate, contribute, and remain involved.For example, a senior might: Volunteer in the community Participate in a hobby group Attend an educational class Help organize an activity Join an exercise or walking group Enjoy music, games, or crafts with others Participate in community events These activities can provide structure while encouraging seniors to continue exploring their interests.Staying Connected Can Encourage Physical ActivitySocial interaction and physical activity often go hand in hand. Seniors may be more motivated to take a walk, attend an exercise class, or participate in an outdoor activity when they know friends will be joining them.Being active with others can make exercise more enjoyable and less like a chore.Regular movement is an important part of maintaining strength, balance, mobility, and independence as we age. Social activities that incorporate movement can provide both physical and social benefits.Social Engagement Keeps the Mind ActiveConversations, games, classes, hobbies, and other social activities can provide opportunities for seniors to think, learn, communicate, and solve problems.Trying something new or participating in a discussion with others can help keep everyday life interesting and mentally stimulating.Lifelong learning can also be an enjoyable way for older adults to meet people while exploring new interests or continuing to develop existing ones.Family Connections Remain ImportantWhile friendships and community involvement are valuable, family relationships can also provide an important source of social connection.Regular phone calls, video chats, visits, shared meals, and family activities can help seniors maintain close relationships with children, grandchildren, siblings, and other loved ones.When family members live nearby, visiting in person can be especially meaningful. When distance makes regular visits difficult, technology can help families stay connected between visits.Senior Living Communities Can Create Opportunities for ConnectionOne benefit of a senior living community is the opportunity to live among other people in a similar stage of life.Instead of having to arrange every social interaction, seniors may have activities and opportunities for connection close to home. Dining areas, common spaces, walking paths, fitness programs, educational opportunities, clubs, and community events can make socializing a natural part of daily life.Residents can choose the level of participation that feels right for them. Some may enjoy a busy schedule filled with activities, while others may prefer smaller gatherings and quiet conversations with friends.Staying Connected Can Help Seniors Maintain IndependenceSocial connection is also part of maintaining an active and fulfilling lifestyle. Seniors who remain engaged with others may be more likely to continue participating in hobbies, community activities, exercise, and other interests.Having friends and neighbors nearby can also provide an informal support network. Someone may notice when a friend isn't feeling well, offer encouragement, or simply check in after a difficult day.This sense of community can be especially valuable as circumstances change.It's Never Too Late to Build New RelationshipsSome seniors may hesitate to meet new people after moving to a new community or experiencing major changes in their lives. It can take time to feel comfortable in a new environment.Starting small can help. Saying hello to a neighbor, joining one activity, having a meal with others, or attending a class based on a personal interest can be a good first step.Over time, these small interactions can develop into meaningful friendships.How Families Can Encourage Social ConnectionFamily members can play an important role in helping an older loved one remain socially active.Consider encouraging a senior to: Stay in regular contact with family and friends Participate in activities they enjoy Explore new hobbies Attend community events Volunteer when possible Join an exercise or walking group Try a class or educational program Consider a senior living community if living alone has become isolating Most importantly, listen to what the senior wants. Social connection should be meaningful to the individual rather than simply adding more activities to their schedule.A Connected Life Can Be a Fulfilling LifeGrowing older brings many opportunities to enjoy new experiences, relationships, hobbies, and interests. Staying socially connected can help seniors maintain a sense of belonging and purpose while making everyday life more enjoyable.Whether through family, friendships, volunteering, lifelong learning, hobbies, or a senior living community, there are many ways older adults can remain connected.At Landis Homes, opportunities for community, friendship, wellness, learning, and meaningful engagement can be an important part of the senior living experience. Finding the right environment can help older adults continue living an active and connected life while building relationships and enjoying each new chapter.
Addington Place of Cape Coral is a welcoming senior living community providing supportive independent living, assisted living, and specialized Valeo memory care in Cape Coral, Florida. The community offers personalized services designed to support residents as their needs change while helping them maintain independence, comfort, and meaningful connections.Independent living residents enjoy a convenient, low-maintenance lifestyle with chef-inspired dining, scheduled transportation, social activities, wellness programs, housekeeping, and other supportive services. Assisted living provides additional help with everyday needs, including bathing, dressing, medication management, and personal care, while encouraging residents to remain active and involved in community life.For individuals living with Alzheimers disease or other forms of dementia, the Valeo memory care program provides structured routines, personalized support, and purposeful activities in a comfortable environment. Addington Place of Cape Coral also offers short-term stays, 24-hour nursing services, on-site therapy, landscaped courtyards, and a full calendar of enrichment programs.
Addington Place of Cape Coral offers supportive independent living, assisted living, and memory care services in Cape Coral, Florida. Voted Best Assisted Living by U.S. News & World Report for 2023-2024, our community provides an exciting and fulfilling lifestyle for seniors.Services: At Addington Place, youll find more than senior living services. Youll find community. Feel confident that our experienced senior care team is invested in your health and wellbeing. Enjoy a senior living community where its easy to fill your days with opportunities for fun and engagement. Our goal is to enrich the lives of those who call Atrium at Liberty Park home. We offer an array of programs and services that focus on whole-body wellness whether its creating an opportunity to socialize and make new friendships or participating in daily activities designed to strengthen your body and mind. For more information, visit the Lifestyle page.Lifestyle: Living at Atrium at Liberty Park is a fresh start to let go of responsibility and do more of what makes you happy. Relish in the simple pleasures and leave behind the burdens of owning and maintaining a home. We take care of everything, leaving you with more time for new friendships and hobbies, daily adventures, or maybe just more time to relax and be pampered.Memory Care: For residents with Alzheimers or other dementia, Atrium at Liberty Park is proud to feature MONTESSORI MOMENTS IN TIME memory care programming. We make every day feel special for your loved one with exceptional care and success-oriented programming that brings a sense of purpose and meaning to your loved one's experience at Atrium at Liberty Park.Contact us today to learn more about our community and how we can provide the tranquility and care your family deserves.
Addington Place of Cape Coral is a welcoming senior living community providing supportive independent living, assisted living, and specialized Valeo memory care in Cape Coral, Florida. The community offers personalized services designed to support residents as their needs change while helping them maintain independence, comfort, and meaningful connections.Independent living residents enjoy a convenient, low-maintenance lifestyle with chef-inspired dining, scheduled transportation, social activities, wellness programs, housekeeping, and other supportive services. Assisted living provides additional help with everyday needs, including bathing, dressing, medication management, and personal care, while encouraging residents to remain active and involved in community life.For individuals living with Alzheimers disease or other forms of dementia, the Valeo memory care program provides structured routines, personalized support, and purposeful activities in a comfortable environment. Addington Place of Cape Coral also offers short-term stays, 24-hour nursing services, on-site therapy, landscaped courtyards, and a full calendar of enrichment programs.