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Dealing with death is never easy, regardless of your relation to the deceased. If youve been invited to a funeral, the person who invited you looks at you as someone they want around in their time of need whether you were friends with their loved one, or simply a friend to them.One of the reasons dealing with death so challenging is because of the discomfort of not knowing the right thing to say or do when offering condolences. The worst thing you can do is ignore it entirely. Doing nothing, or pretending it didnt happen, is poor etiquette when it comes to the passing of a family friend, colleague, or family member of a friend.  What to Say to the Family at a Funeral When attending a funeral, youll likely have multiple opportunities to speak to the family of the deceased, whether during a visitation, viewing, or reception. Feeling being unsure of what to say to the family, and the right time to speak to them, is among the main reasons many of us feel uncomfortable at a funeral. While theres no rule book, the visitation, whether held at a funeral home or the familys home, is a good opportunity to express your condolences. Its best to wait until the funeral service is over to greet the family, unless theyre greeting people before the service. If you arent close with the family, make sure to introduce yourself and explain your relationship to their deceased loved one. Keep your condolences brief, while sincere and heartfelt, as there are likely other people waiting to speak to the family as well. Knowing exactly what to say at a funeral can be the hardest part, but remember that simply speaking to the family is often as important as what you say. Speak from the heart and with kindness: (The deceased) will be greatly missed. Im sorry for your loss.Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. (The deceased) was a great person, and Ill miss them very much. (He/she) meant a lot to me and everyone else at (the work place.) (He/she) contributed a lot to the company and our team, and (the deceased) will be missed. Its also appropriate to share a happy story about the deceased, but make sure to keep this brief along with the rest of what you have to say to the family. What not to Say to the Family at a Funeral With some ideas of the right things to say at a funeral, also to be aware of some inappropriate remarks to say to family and friends of the deceased at a funeral. Keep in mind this is a very sensitive time for the loved ones of the deceased. Dont be judgmental, tell jokes, or tell that embarrassing story of something the deceased did in the office or among friends. Avoid the following statements: Youll get over it with time. Dont tell a husband or wife that theres plenty of fish in the sea, or any variation of youll meet someone else. Stay away from mentioning any negative interactions you or others may have had with the deceased. Avoid mentioning it if a certain family member isnt crying, or doesnt seem sad. Different people deal with death, especially of a loved one, in different ways. Dont ask how the person died. These questions can often lead to sensitive answers, and you want to be as considerate as possible of the family of the deceased. The main idea of what not to say at a funeral is to be as respectful as possible to the family of the deceased. Be kind, and avoid difficult topics or questions. Even if you didnt have the best relationship with the deceased or their family, its not the appropriate time to bring these up. Leave all your negative feelings of the deceased at home. How to Follow Up After a FuneralDepending on your relationship with the deceased, this section may or may not apply. In most cases, if youve just met the family, it may not be necessary to follow up after the funeral service. But if youre a family friend, employer, or had a close relationship with the deceased, keep the following things in mind for after the funeral service: Stay in touch with the family. Being there for them when they need someone to talk to or require help that the deceased could have provided is the best thing you can do. Make sure you let them know youre there when theyre ready. Remember birthdays and anniversaries of the death of the deceased. In the weeks following the death, offer to help with simple tasks such as cleaning, cooking, or doing chores around the house. If appropriate, and after discussing with the family, find out about support groups for bereaved parents or children, and set up a time for the family to discuss with the group leads. Send cards even up to six months after the death. Letting the family know youre still thinking about them and the deceased is one of the nicest gestures you can make. Praise the bereaved for even small accomplishments that indicate they are moving forward, even in their time of mourning. As mentioned earlier, people grieve in different ways. Depression is very common for those who have experienced the death of a loved one; encouraging and supporting them can be inspiring and motivating.If you have to ask whether a gesture is appropriate, it may not be. But, if youre a close friend or acquaintance of the family, these gestures may be something that can be deeply reassuring. Being there for those going through grief is the best thing you can do. ______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

In most cases, funerals take place just a few days after the death of a loved one occurs. But is this the proper funeral etiquette? Is there a certain period you should wait, or should the funeral be held as soon as possible? What determines the length of time between the death and a funeral, how quickly should the relatives be contacted, and the service be planned? Well discuss this all and provide an answer to the question of how long you should wait before arranging a funeral service in this post from the Neptune Society blog. How Long Does It Typically Take To Make Funeral Arrangements? Making the necessary funeral arrangements for a loved one can typically be accomplished within just 3 hours when working with an experienced and knowledgeable funeral home. By working with the funeral director, youll be able to find the best timeline to fit your and your familys needs. While planning arrangements, make sure to take advantage of service items purchased directly from the funeral home. This is a surefire way to expedite the process further, as these items are usually ready to see and purchase on-site at the funeral home. But, under the funeral rule, the family has the loved ones to purchase items or caskets from any provider of their choosing. Urns, caskets, and other necessary service items do not to be purchased through the funeral home. Choose whatever service items work best for you, your family, and the spirit of your loved one. What Is The Average Time Between a Death And A Funeral In The United States? On average, American funerals take place within one week or less from the death of a loved one. With help from a funeral home like the Neptune Society, a week is often enough time to make the necessary arrangements and contact the relatives who should be in attendance. With todays cutting-edge preservation methods, families have more time to prepare and get the funeral in order than they did just 50 years ago. This new technology allows families to make the necessary arrangements and pick a day for the funeral that makes sense for all parties involved. Thanks to modern preservation methods, funerals can be held up to two weeks after the date of death. If the body is cremated, the family can wait as long as theyd like to make the funeral perfect for honoring their loved ones. If your loved one is cremated, you should still aim to hold the funeral within a month of their death at the latest. Suppose burial or cremation is performed before the funeral. In that case, it can be shifted into a memorial service that is appropriate to hold at any later date when the deceaseds family feels comfortable. On What Days Are Funerals Typically Held? American funeral homes are often open seven days out of the week and allow services to be held on any day of the week. In the United States, Saturday is the most popular day for a funeral due to the 5-day work week and generally high availability among most people on Saturdays. Sundays tend to be the least busy day for funeral homes and funeral services in the United States. Is It Appropriate To Delay A Funeral? Funerals arent typically delayed due to the importance of the event. Most people will shift around prior obligations to attend the funeral of a loved one. But, if a loved one is coming from out of the state or country, funerals can be delayed. Other appropriate reasons for delay include that the death occurred out of the deceaseds home state or country, police investigations, weather events, and power outages, which are all things that are typically out of the familys control. If you need to delay the funeral of your loved one, cremation is the most appropriate method to follow. Most modern preservation techniques do not allow the deceased person to be presented beyond two weeks from the day of death. Need Help Planning A Funeral Service? Contact The Neptune Society At The Neptune Society, we work with families of the deceased to plan the funeral that best honors the spirit of their loved ones. Planning a funeral is incredibly stressful for anyone involved, and our team members understand this.However, we aim to make the funeral planning service as easy as possible so you can focus on remembering your loved one while we handle the heavy lifting. For help planning a funeral service in the United States, contact the Neptune Society today. ______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

When you experience a loss, people from all periods of your life will be there to help. Whether its old friends, family friends, or anybody else you didnt quite expect, youll want to write them a Thank you note for their assistance. The same goes for those that you knew would be there, like friends that are still around, or other family members. But, it goes without saying, if youve never written a note like this before, it can be tough to put your words to paper. Neptune Society is here to help you in your time of need by providing you with some tips on what to include in a sympathy thank you note, or funeral thank you card. What To Include In A Sympathy Or Funeral Thank You Card Writing a sympathy thank you note, or a funeral thank you card, may be easier than you think. The card and messaging doesnt have to be long its more ideal that its concise. Short and to the point is always more effective than long thank you notes. With all that youre currently experiencing, the last thing you should need to worry about is writing the perfect thank you card for someone whos assisted in the funeral of a loved one. Whats more important is to make this note or card personal. There are a number of reasons you may want to thank someone for help at a funeral. Whether this person provided food for the guests, sent flowers, or was simply there for you, its best to personalize the message accordingly. Not every card need to be personalized. Since most of the cards will be for simply attending the funeral or memorial serve, its fine to include similar phrases for each one. View some of the ideas below, and personalize where applicable. Thank you for attending (I, We) appreciate you attending (loved ones) funeral. Thank you for taking the time to come to (loved ones) funeral. It meant a lot to (us, me) to see you at (loved ones) funeral Thank you for sharing the celebration of (loved ones) life with (me, us). Follow-up (I, we) appreciate the effort you took in traveling such a distance to attend the funeral. The stories and memories you shared about (loved one) were one-of-a-kind. Your presence and words were a comfort for (me, the family) in this time. Your stories about (loved one) were special to us. You lifted our spirits with your words about (loved one). It meant a lot to us to hear how (loved one) touched the lives of others. You meant so much to (loved one) and I can tell (he/she/they) meant a lot to you. Celebrating the life of (loved one) would not have been completed without you. Closing line Your presence meant the world to (me/the family). Your support made a huge difference during this difficult time. Thank you for your words of support. Your kindness/support means more than words can possibly express. (I, the family) will always remember your kindness. You were a true friend to (loved one) and will always be an important part of the family. Now that youve got a few ideas about what to write in your thank you note, you can choose the best way to express your gratitude in just a few lines. Remember, the people on your list for thank you notes are there for a reason. They supported you and your family during a tough time, and they care. Before you go, check out some more general tips on writing your thank you notes.Dont Worry If Time Has Passed Since The Funeral: While its best to get your notes in the mail as soon as possible, people will totally understand if it takes a couple of months. Ask For Help If You Need It: After the funeral, there may be more people to thank than you initially thought. Dont be afraid to ask friends or family members for help. Include Other Family Members In The Signature: If youre sending a thank you note on behalf of the family, signing the card as The family of (loved one) allows the sender to express the gratitude of the whole family. If youre the only one whos been assisted, just sign your own name. Break Up Your List to Make it Manageable: Tackling the entire list at once can be overwhelming. Breaking the work up into manageable chunks or pieces can make it easier to get started, and get it done. Include Your Full Name And The Name Of Your Loved One In The Letter: Be sure to include your last name when thanking those who arent a close friend (for example, the office or workplace of your loved one). This is especially important if youre a bit late on sending out your acknowledgements. Short but Meaningful is the Goal: Creating a simple 1-3 sentence thank you note is the main goal here, and you want to make sure it comes from the heart. Additionally, if you choose to print your notes as opposed to hand-writing them, make sure to include a bit of personalization with a brief note and a signature. Writing A Sympathy Note Doesnt Have To Be Hard Youve dealt with enough turmoil in the past couple of months if youve recently experienced the death of a loved one. This blog post is intended to assist those that are writing a sympathy note for attendance of a funeral and have never done it before. At Neptune Society, we aim to be as helpful as possible, in all aspects, when you experience the death of a loved one. We hope this blog post was of assistance to you in your time of need. ______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

When a loved one passes away, its common for their remains to be cremated and shipped to the surviving members of the family or friends. In some cases, these remains are not shipped with an urn. When this occurs, many people opt to purchase an urn separate from where their loved one was cremated.But dealing with something as sensitive as the remains of a loved one can be a daunting and stressful task, and understandably so. In order to relieve unneeded stress during a time of grieving, weve provided some tips on transferring cremated remains into an urn, courtesy of the Neptune Society.Things to Consider Before StartingMake Sure You Have the Right-Sized UrnWhen filling an urn with the remains of a loved one, its critical that the one youve chosen is the proper size. The rule of thumb is that each pound prior to cremation is equal to a cubic inch of ashes. For example, when selecting an urn for somebody who weighed 160 pounds, you will need an urn with a capacity of 160 cubic inches or larger.Leave It to the Professionals If NeededDealing with the remains of a loved one can be an emotionally trying experience. It goes without saying that many of us would be uncomfortable performing the task of transferring cremated remains into an urn. If you feel that its too much to handle, it might be best to reach out to a local funeral home or cremation center for assistance. Many cremation centers and funeral homes are happy to assist those who are in a time of grieving.What Youll NeedHeres a brief list of items you should have readily accessible when transferring cremated remains into an urn:Newspaper, small tarp, or other clean and flat surface to be laid under the urn to catch any ashes that may spill. Ensure that this surface can be used to easily place the remaining ashes into the urn.Another piece of newspaper, or appropriately sized funnel for ensuring a smooth transfer from the box to the urn.Optional mask and gloves. Cremated remains are non-toxic, but they do include very fine particles that may make wearing a mask and gloves appropriate for some.Scissors for cutting the internal packing within the original box.Sealant or glue if you plan on sealing the urn.How to Transfer the RemainsLay out your newspaper or other clean surface on a flat and stable working area. This is where the urn will be placed.If you choose to do so, apply your face mask and gloves.Place your urn on the covered surface with the funnel youre using within reach.Remove the lid from the urn and ensure the lid and inside are clean and clear of any obstructions or shipping materials.Carefully open the temporary container (plastic or cardboard box), and remove the internal bag containing the ashes.Depending on if youre transferring the whole container of remains into the urn, there are two options for the next step:If you are transferring the whole bag of remains into the urn, simply place the bag into the urn. You may need to maneuver the bag, or slightly open it to release air so it fully fits within the urn.If youre emptying the ashes into the urn, place your funnel inside the urn. Next, cut across a corner of the bag that contains the remains, and slowly pour the remains into the funnel. As the urn fills, ensure you slightly raise the funnel to create room for the remaining ashes. If any spills, lift the urn and place the funnel back in to pour the spilled ashes from the newspaper or small tarp into the urn.Once youve placed the bag, or emptied the ashes, into the urn, its time to close the urn. Screw in the thread, or ensure that the urn is completely closed. If youre sealing the urn, make sure to clean the lip of the urn thoroughly before applying glue or other sealants. Then place several small dots around the base of the lid, as well as the outside of the opening. Quickly place the lid on top, and screw it in tightly to ensure a proper seal. Wipe away any excess glue before it dries.Final Notes Regarding Transferring Cremated Remains into an UrnThis post explains how to transfer cremated remains into a standard urn. While there are many other urns on the market, such as water urns or tree urns, the process of transferring remains into an urn is mostly the same. If you have any questions regarding a specific urn youve purchased, it might be best to reach out to the manufacturer before transferring remains.If the option is available, its best to leave the process of transferring cremated remains into an urn to a professional. Those who work in funeral homes or cremation centers have experience with handling remains, and it can help avoid both the emotional toll and the possibility of accidents or mistakes.Neptune Society is Here for You When a Loved One PassesAt Neptune Society, we aim to make the after-life process as easy as possible for the deceaseds loved ones. We know how stressful it can be to lose a parent, sibling, or friend, and want to help you make the process as smooth as possible. For questions regarding cremation or the other after-life services we offer, reach out to us online or give us a call today.______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

Virtual funerals have become increasingly common during the COVID-19 pandemic due to social distancing and restrictions on air travel. They are similar to traditional in-person funerals but are live-streamed on platforms such as Facebook, Skype, and Zoom. These platforms make it possible for anyone worldwide to view a funeral from their computer, smartphone, or tablet. For information on how to host a virtual funeral, please read our article: How to Host a Virtual Funeral.But while the idea of a virtual funeral may sound somewhat informal and casual, there are still rules of etiquette when attending a funeral. These rules apply no matter where you are, whether you are just across town or across the country. Here are twelve tips on what to do, and more importantly, what not to do during a virtual funeral: 1. RSVP Be sure to inform the host if you can attend the funeral this is a polite gesture that can help simplify the process for the host so that they are not waiting on a guest who has no intention of showing up. They can also keep better track of their attendance list. 2. Download the Software for the Designated Streaming Platform To help prevent technical difficulties that can cause interruptions during the service, download the platform in advance and ensure it is functioning correctly on your device. You may need to create a new account to access the platform.If you are not tech-savvy, you can ask for assistance from the host or someone you know who is familiar with streaming platforms. If you are tech-savvy, offer to assist other attendees who may be having issues installing the platform or viewing the live stream. 3. Arrive On TimeAs with in-person funerals, you should show up to a virtual funeral at the designated time, but it is advisable to log onto your streaming platform a few minutes early if you experience any technical difficulties. 4. Turn On Your CameraAllowing the host and other attendees to see you is your personal choice, but it is recommended to turn on your camera to show you and any other attendees with you. This indicates that you are present during the services and that you are paying attention. In addition, it is recommended to log in early to test your camera to make sure that the quality of your video is decent. 5. Mute Your MicrophoneMicrophones for computers, smartphones, and other devices can be highly sensitive and may pick up disruptive and distracting sounds. Until you are sure that you are in a quiet environment free of barking dogs, crying babies, and other factors, mute your microphone. Feel free to practice muting and unmute your microphone before the service. If you are unable to avoid background noise, download the Krisp app. Krisp is an app that removes background noise and echoes from meetings so that everyone can hear your voice clearly.6. Dress AppropriatelyYou should aim to dress as you would for an in-person funeral. Even though you are at home, this is not the time to wear pajamas or casual clothing such as hoodies or sweatshirts. Wearing appropriate funeral clothes communicates respect and thoughtfulness.For tips on how to dress for a funeral, read our guide on How to Dress Appropriately for a Funeral. 7. Dont Eat or Try to MultitaskYou should focus your attention on the funeral and avoid eating or other activities unrelated to the funeral. 8. Be Mindful of Children and PetsSmall children and pets may become distracting during a virtual funeral, and in that case, you should make arrangements to ensure that they will not disrupt the services. For example, if your children or pets become restless during a virtual funeral, relocate them to a different room until the service is over. 9. Be Prepared to Make a SpeechIntroducing yourself and explaining your relationship to the deceased or their loved ones is a polite gesture that can help break the ice. If you have a speech prepared, practice beforehand and make sure that your microphone is working correctly. It is not uncommon for microphones to have connection problems, such as the audio cutting out. In that case, most platforms also have a group chat function to communicate with the host and other guests. 10. Announce Your DepartureOnce the service has finished, take the time to say youre proper goodbyes by letting the host and other guests know that you are leaving the service. Waving goodbye is also a simple, thoughtful gesture that adds a personal element to an event that feels rather impersonal. 11. Follow-Up Contacting the family to extend your condolences and commenting on the service is encouraged, especially if you did not speak during the funeral. You may also be able to send your condolences digitally, via an online memorial or online obituary. If you an unsure of how to express your condolences, please read our Step by Step Guide on Writing a Sympathy Card.12. Embrace the Grieving ProcessVirtual funerals are still funerals and depending on your relationship to the deceased, you may feel a considerable amount of sadness and other emotions before, during, or after the service. Grief can even be delayed, so dont be surprised if you experience a sudden rush of emotions days or even weeks after a funeral service. Reach out to family and friends to help process your emotions, and do your best to take care of yourself during this difficult time. This is especially crucial if you are social distancing. If you would like to find out how to help others who are grieving, refer to our article: How to Help Friends Through Loss A Virtual Funeral is Still a FuneralAlthough virtual funerals may feel less impersonal than a traditional in-person event, virtual funerals still require the same attitudes of respect and reverence for the deceased and their loved ones. Many have had to adapt to hosting virtual funerals for their loved ones because they had no other choice.So, while you have been invited to attend a funeral from the comfort of your own home, be mindful of why you have been invited and the purpose of the event. Virtual funerals are just one effect of the new normal we have experienced around the globe due to the COVID-19 pandemic. But while we may be physically apart, we can still find ways to come together during this trying time.______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) or contact us online today to learn more.

Your parents are getting older. You know that, and youve come to terms with it (or at least youre trying). And once they can no longer take care of themselves, your relationship with them drastically changes, and you are obligated to step in to take care of their affairs.Many people experience emotional trauma and financial difficulties when a parent passes away. This is why it is essential to plan what to do when a parent dies. This blog post will provide you with a checklist covering the primary things you need to do after your loved one has passed away.1. Notify Family Members and FriendsIt is imperative to notify family members and close friends of the passing of your parent as soon as possible.Notifying them immediately will help you navigate the difficult time following your parents death. They can help you organize a funeral and take care of any necessary affairs. Friends and family can also give you the emotional support you will need while coping with your parents death.They can also help you manage the legal and financial affairs left behind by your deceased parent. This will either be something as simple as contacting a power company to tell them that the parent is no longer living, filing tax returns, or another challenging task that can easily fall through the cracks.2. Give Yourself Time To GrieveRegardless of the nature of your relationship with your parent, it is important to give yourself time to grieve. It is perfectly natural and healthy for you to be affected emotionally both positively and negatively when something like this happens. As their child, you have a unique perspective of your parent. Dont be afraid to feel sad, angry, or even guilty about what you could have done differently.You may even want to avoid social situations to have some alone time during this time. Its ok to take time off of work or school if you need to, and most importantly: its ok to cry.And although you may feel the need to be alone to process your emotions, this is also a time to reach out to others for support. For example, ask family members and friends to provide transportation if needed, take care of  pets, clean out the deceased parents house, or to simply keep you company and listen. We have provided some links to organizations that offer free grief support for those who have lost a parent:Grief AnonymousVITAS HealthcareGrieving.comThe Neptune Society also offers the 12 Weeks of Peace, a free online bereavement program that provides helpful resources, tips, and information for those in mourning.3. Find a Trustworthy Funeral Service The death of a parent is one of the most traumatic experiences in life, whether it is an expected or sudden loss. When you are faced with this type of loss, there are many things to consider after the event has occurred.First and foremost, its important to take care of yourself. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family can help you get through the initial shock of your loss.When you are ready to take care of necessary arrangements, it is important to find a funeral provider. Since 1973, the Neptune Society has provided at-need services for those whose loved ones have passed away suddenly. We also offer preplanned cremation services so that you can make funeral arrangements in advance.The Neptune Society offers the following benefits and services:Guidance through the process of planning a memorial service and funeral with personalized services and experienced staffImmediate need servicesFlexible payment plans for preplanned cremation servicesA vast selection of quality, affordable urnsVeteran cremation services4. Make Copies of EverythingMaking copies of important documents can help the process of managing your parents affairs after they have passed away. For example, youll likely need two copies of both the death certificate and the will anytime something official has to be done. The original documents should be stored safely by an executor or loved one until everything has been settled. But since many of these documents will contain sensitive personal information, the copies should be treated with as much care as the originals.  Many funeral homes also provide copies of death certificates and other important documents as part of their services. 5. Contact Your Parents Doctor and Ask for a Copy of Their Medical RecordsAfter a nursing home or hospice has given the deceaseds belongings back to their family, you may be granted access to all of your parents medical information.Contact the office of your parents primary doctor or other medical services they used before they passed away, as they may possess vital health records that can be useful during this process. You must contact them regarding this issue, in case the records are misplaced. 6. Obtain Copies of Death Certificates If youre in charge of the affairs of a loved one who has died, youll need death certificates. It is recommended to obtain at least ten copies of a loved ones death certificate if you are in charge of handling their affairs. Death certificates are required if you need to claim your parents property or benefits, such as:Life insurance benefitsSocial security benefitsBank and retirement accountsVeteran benefitsHow to Get a Death Certificate The funeral home, cremation organization, or another party will prepare and file the death certificate. Preparing the certificate involves gathering personal information from family members and obtaining the signature of a doctor, medical examiner, or coroner. Depending on state law, the process will be completed within a timeframe of three to ten days.What Information is Included in a Death Certificate?A death certificate provides vital information about the deceased person. This information includes:Full nameCurrent addressFull or partial social security numberBirthdate and place of birthFathers name and place of birthMothers name and place of birthEducationMarital status and name of their surviving spouseVeteran discharge number or claim numberCause of deathThe date the death occurredThe area the death occurredThe time the death occurredIf your parent was a veteran, you also need to locate their DD-214 if they wished to be buried at a national cemetery. For more information on claiming veteran burial benefits, please read our article Military Discharge Form DD214: How to Claim Veterans Benefits.7. Collect Any Life Insurance Policies or Other Assets Held by the DeceasedContact the Social Security Administration in the event of your parents death to collect any remaining social security benefits. You can also contact creditors that may have life insurance policies in place to pay off balances owed.It is crucial to identify any life insurance policy your parent might have had, typically through work or purchased on their own. Once you locate this life insurance policy, contact the life insurance company and begin the claims process.Possible death benefits include life insurance policies, 401(k)s, or pensions from a former employer. Navigating life insurance benefits and annuities can be very complicated. Therefore, before proceeding with a life insurance claim, it is recommended to seek the advice of a life insurance professional.How to Prevent Identity TheftIf anyone recently asked for information or identification of you or your parents (online, by phone, email, or in-person), they may be attempting to commit identity theft.Always be cautious when giving out personal information. Keep an eye on all bank accounts and credit cards for unauthorized charges, and monitor credit reports for suspicious new lines of credit under your parents name. If you suspect that your parents identity has been stolen, call the Social Security Administration at 800-772-1213 immediately. For more information on how to protect your loved ones identity after they pass away, please visit idwatchdog.com8. Close Bank Accounts Once you have located your parents bank account, notify the bank that the owner has passed away. You may need to present a death certificate or similar documentation to prove association to the bank account owner.Once you have located your parents bank account, close it as soon as possible. You might also cancel video streaming, newspaper delivery, and magazine subscriptions. If your parents had a safe deposit box, contact the bank where it is located and ask whether you need the authorization to access its contents.You will likely need documentation that confirms your association with one or both of your parents to gain access. Depending on how long ago your parent opened the account, it might be necessary to provide a death certificate, power of attorney, or court records. If valuables are inside the safe deposit box, you may want to speak with an estate lawyer to discuss your rights and how best to proceed.9. Cancel Credit CardsCanceling a credit card when processing a death can be overwhelming. You may even forget about closing these accounts or just not think it is that important. However, if your parent was the only one working and died suddenly without life insurance to pay off any unpaid debts, unpaid bills on credit cards could be stuck in their name for several years before being resolved.Make sure these accounts get closed the same day as the death so you can move on with more pressing matters before attending to things such as canceling a credit card. You want to cancel these ASAP and remove any temptation for someone to interfere with their finances after they have passed away, and remove any unnecessary stress from your plate while processing a loss of a loved one.10. Transfer Titles to Any Property or Vehicles When a parent dies, its easy to forget about estate planning or think you can leave it later. But if your parents owned property with someone else like a spouse, partner, sibling, or child then estate planning becomes complicated. To make sure all their estate assets are transferred smoothly and according to their wishes after they die, please review the following checklist:1. Find your parents title to any property they own. This can be a house, condo, burial plot, vehicle(s), or anything else that has an owner and an address where the asset is located.2. Pull a credit report for your parents name and address. If the home is co-owned, you also need to pull a credit report for any additional owner(s) who will keep ownership of the property after your parent dies.3. Make sure there are no court orders against transferring the title of any assets that were jointly owned.4. Contact any joint tenants who will not receive full ownership of the asset after your parent dies due to outstanding debt or dispute between joint owners.5. If your parent had a bank account, make sure all outstanding checks have cleared, and any automatic deposits or withdrawals stopped before transferring it or closing it out.Documents Required to Transfer Ownership of PropertyWhether its a vehicle or real estate property, youll need to transfer the legal ownership of your parents estate assets. You can do so by visiting your local DMV or County Recorders Office with the following documents:Death certificate(s) A completed Transfer on Death Designation of Beneficiary (or TOD -DB) for securities (stocks, bonds, and mutual funds), if applicableThe most recent version of the estate plan (the will)Legal estate planning documents include trusts, powers of attorney, and living wills. This protects both your parents estate assets and their wishes for end-of-life care. You can find more information about estate planning tools here: Wills & Trusts: Frequently Asked Questions About Common Estate Planning Tools.11. Notify LendersIf your parents held mortgages, auto loans, or had credit cards with balances, youll need to let the financial institution know of their passing.The following actions may help financial institutions with this process:Update beneficiary designations to ensure that they reflect who is entitled to inherit the account, including whether your parents have set up trusts for their children.Obtain a copy of the death certificate.Contact your parents creditors to advise them of your parents death and ask for written confirmation that it does not matter if you are contacted because the account is owned by another party (such as an estate or child).Collect any available information about debts owed, such as monthly statements or payment records12. Stop Any Automatic WithdrawalsAnytime your parents pay bills automatically through online accounts like PayPal, please cancel those transactions. Bills go unpaid, and overdraft fees accrue if this is not done correctly. You also can contact utility companies and any other service provider that they paid regularly (like AAA, insurance companies for cars and home coverage, etc.) to stop billing as well.13. Distribute Remaining Assets According to Your Loved Ones Will or Estate PlanThe probate process can be complex, especially if your loved one did not leave a will stating where or how they want their assets to be distributed. Preplanning final arrangements can help create a smoother probate process and save you the stress of dealing with probate court.If there is no will, you must distribute assets following state law. It is recommended to create a living will, so that your parents final wishes can be finalized before their passing.If you have any questions about what to do when a parent dies, please consult an attorney who specializes in estate planning. They can help guide you through this process. Need Help Planning a Funeral Service? Contact The Neptune SocietyIt is not uncommon for people to feel lost and overwhelmed when they lose a parent, especially if the death was sudden. It can be even more challenging to deal with when you are faced with legal and financial issues following their passing. The Neptune Society has provided affordable preplanned and at-need cremation services for millions of families across the nation. If you are interested in learning more about our funeral home services, please dont hesitate to call us today.______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

Cremation is steadily growing in popularity for a variety of reasons. Not only is it eco-friendly and less costly than traditional burial, but cremation is also highly customizable to meet your needs. Family members may live in different locations, and it can be challenging to make funeral arrangements. Cremation offers flexibility in planning. You can opt for an intimate ceremony prior to cremation and a larger memorial service later on so that out-of-town friends and family have a chance to attend.If youve chosen cremation, you may be wondering what you can do with the cremation ashes. You have multiple options. You can host a formal scattering service, have a touching sendoff in a place that was special to your loved one, or keep the ashes so your loved one remains close. Here is a review of what you can do with your loved ones ashes.Scattering ashesScattering your loved ones ashes is a beautiful way to get closure and healing as you grieve. Many people opt for scattering ashes in a place that was meaningful to their loved ones. The locations are unlimited. Examples include a scenic mountaintop, a lucky fishing hole, or a favorite hiking trail. Whether you are choosing to scatter the ashes at sea, on family property or in a favorite location, youll need to be mindful of the laws in your area.Where can you legally scatter ashes?There are local, state and federal laws that regulate the scattering of ashes. To avoid any problems, you should research the laws for the location where the scattering ceremony will occur. For example, you can scatter your loved ones ashes at sea, but you must report it to the Environmental Protection Agency. A special permit is required if youd like to scatter ashes in a national park. If you plan to scatter ashes on private property that you dont own, be sure to check with the owner first.Designated scattering gardens are another option for families who want to scatter ashes but dont have a location in mind. Since a scattering garden is owned by the crematory or cemetery, you dont have to worry about permitting or laws its already been handled.UrnsAn urn is a storage container for ashes. You can use a temporary urn to hold the ashes prior to scattering or a permanent urn that keeps your loved ones ashes for years to come. A wide variety of designs are available so you can customize the urn to perfectly suit your loved ones personality. You may choose to display the urn at home or at a columbarium a special niche at a cemetery property for urns. Some of the different options include:Religious urn: Faith may have been an important part of your loved ones life. Displaying your loved ones religious affiliation, a religious urn may be engraved or embossed with symbols of faith or scriptures that reflect their beliefs.Hobby, sport or military service urn: An urn can incorporate experiences and interests that shaped your loved ones life. You can personalize the urn to demonstrate their love of sewing, hunting, sports, or the branch of military in which they served.Clock urn: These urns are not only functional timepieces but are a charming way to display your loved ones ashes. Clock urns can be placed on a shelf or mantle as a way to always remember your loved one.Decorative urn: Urns can be made from a variety of materialsglass, wood, stone, metal and more. Your loved ones ashes can be placed in an urn that serves as a distinctive work of art.Teddy bear urn: Teddy bear urns let you keep ashes in a stuffed bear that can be cuddled or displayed. This may be an option to comfort a child who is grieving the loss of their loved one.Cremation jewelry for ashesJewelry can be customized to hold ashes and is a wonderful way to have your loved one kept near. In addition to lockets or other jewelry that is designed to hold ashes, diamonds can be created from the ashes. Once made, the diamond can be set in a truly individualized piece that can be passed along for generations.Other cremation ashes ideasWhile many people choose to scatter ashes or keep them in an urn, there are many other unique ways to honor your loved one if they are cremated. Here are several ideas:Neptune Memorial Reef: The Neptune Memorial Reef is an artificial reef located about 3.25 miles off the Florida coast. Designed to look like the lost city of Atlantis, the reef is home to specialty urns that hold ashes, creating a new habitat for sea life.Memorial tattoo: Did you know that ashes can be refined and made into tattoo ink? Ritual or commemorative tattoos with your loved ones ashes is a sentimental and meaningful way to remember their life.Hourglass: Watching an hourglass can be both mesmerizing and calming. Hourglasses can be customized to hold ashes so you have a functional memento that can help you maintain a connection with your loved one.Vinyl records: If your loved one was a music lover, you can actually have their ashes made into a vinyl record. When created using professional processes, the vinyl functions as a standard record and can include recordings of memories, speeches, special songs or stories about your loved one.The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

The coronavirus pandemic has fundamentally changed how we live, but perhaps even more heartbreaking, how we are able to grieve. Social distancing has prevented holding funerals or otherwise gathering to mourn the loss of our loved ones, and even a comforting touch or hug isnt safe.Other rituals have been disrupted as well. Jewish and Muslim religions state that there must be a disposition of a persons remains within 24 hours after death, but in many places this is not possible; there are delays as funeral homes, cemeteries and crematories struggle to keep up with the high number of COVD-19 deaths.We mourn the loss of loved ones, and also our many ways of saying goodbye: the Jewish tradition of sitting shiva, the week-long period in which friends and family visit those in mourning to offer condolences and provide comfort that dates back to biblical times; the Irish wake, simultaneously joyful and sad, when people share songs, drinks, and stories about the departed; the Islamic ritual washing of the deceaseds body; and countless others.Not being able to perform rituals [is] devastating for people, said psychologist Noe Kasali, director of the Bethesda Counseling Center. It prolongs their suffering.One family member expressed how unsettling the inability to gather in mourning his fathers passing is: It feels unreal, like it didnt happen.In response, funeral providers, communities, and families are finding alternative ways to be together to honor loved ones who have died.Technology is playing a big part. Mourners are gathering virtually via Zoom and Skype, the free video/audio communications platforms. Families are filming funerals live on Facebook, which allows not only loved ones to take part virtually, but also opens the experience to condolences from many in the shared experience of isolation. Some funeral homes are livestreaming services, so friends and family far away can participate.In a first-person story on cheddar.com, Max Godnick described a funeral held on Zoom for his grandmother, who passed away after complications from COVID-19, as the most meaningful, spiritual, intimate, and inspiring funeral Ive ever been to. The moment encapsulated the best of social media playing out in real-time. I was provided a window into my familys global network of love and support separated by distance but brought together by a single purpose and Zoom grid view.Just like so many other families around the world right now, mine learned just how hard it is to lose a loved one without being able to see them, be with them, or say goodbye in their final days, Godnick said.Others are creating new ways of honoring those theyve lost. In County Kerry, Ireland, neighbors lined the mile-long road from the church to the graveyard to say goodbye to their friend Betty Ryan, careful to maintain safe distance between one another. A beautiful tribute and great example of community spirit, one observer said.Closer to home, in Louisville, KY, a family held a drive-by funeral procession. One by one, cars stopped in front of the home of John Renn Jr. and tossed flowers, held signs at the car windows, and smiled and waved at the family.What a time were living in right now, said Renns nephew, Rick Obst. Everybody needs a hug, but throwing tragedy on top of it? These kinds of celebrations have to be done and can be done. Were trying to set an example, hopefully, of how we can do this the best way and still stay safe from the coronavirus.Many families who may have been debating whether to choose burial or cremation for a loved one are now choosing cremation already the choice of more than half in the US. This gives the option of scheduling a memorial service at a later date; also, in a tightened economy, cost has become a bigger consideration, since cremation is about one-third the price of burial.Its important to find connection in whatever ways you can, said Megan Devine, a therapist, grief advocate, and author. Even starting a text thread with close friends to talk about the person youve lost can be helpful.Other alternative mourning rituals:Talk to people. Reach out to your social support network family and friends through phone calls, emails, and video platforms. While physically separated, staying connected, talking and sharing stories about your loved one, can help alleviate the feeling of being alone in your grief.Create and express. There are so many ways to pay a personal tribute to your loved one, and art is both healing and a release. Write about or to them, or journal about how youre feeling. Cook their favorite meal. Plant a tree or flowers in their memory. Read their favorite book, listen to their favorite music, or watch their favorite movie. On social media, you can create a Facebook or Instagram page dedicated to them, and invite others to contribute or share their memories as well. Do an art or music project that youll be able to share with loved ones when youre together.Plan a memorial service for later. In a time of uncertainty, it can be deeply healing to make plans for what youll do in the future, when youll again be surrounded by family and friends who will join you in honoring this special person. Rather than thinking of a tribute as being canceled, you can use this extra time to plan something special.Ask for help. If youre struggling, there are grief resources you can go to for support. The Dougy Center, Grief.com and Grief Resource Network offer groups and programs; you can also subscribe to the Neptune Societys free bereavement series, 12 Weeks of Peace.Most important, dont deny your grief. Even if, in the time following your loved ones death, you cant mourn and celebrate their life in the way you wish, acknowledge your feelings of loss and sadness. In the midst of this larger crisis, when you may be overwhelmed by fear and anxiety, its not healthy to minimize or dismiss how this personal loss is affecting you. Its okay to cry. We all grieve in different ways, so be true to your own feelings, and ask for the emotional support you need.______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.

When the loved one of a friend or family member passes away, it can be tough finding the right gift to let the surviving person and their family know that youre thinking about them during a difficult time. So whether youre overwhelmed with the recommendations youve found online or have no clue where to start, Neptune Society is here to help. In this post from the Neptune Society blog, well discuss some of the best and most appropriate gifts you can get for a grieving family. 1. Sympathy Cards When someone experiences a loss, sympathy cards are a classic gift to let them know they are on your mind. Whether this card includes intricate art or a heartfelt message, a sympathy card is an excellent choice for a gift for a grieving family. 2. FlowersTypically, flowers are a gift paired with something like a sympathy card when given as a gift for a grieving family. Flowers are a traditional gift for funerals and as a gift for those dealing with a loss, and this gift is a safe bet for a grieving family. Lilies, carnations, and roses are all traditional choices of flowers to provide a grieving person. 3. Meals & Groceries Providing a friend or family member with meals and groceries while theyre dealing with a loss is another popular choice and one that so many grieving people genuinely appreciate. This is especially true with a person dealing with the loss of a spouse or a child. Meals are times when family get together, and when a family member is gone, cooking and even eating can be difficult for those grieving. Things like meal kits or catering offerings are gift choices for grieving families that theyll remember and appreciate for years to come.Additionally, groceries like snacks, beverages, and items like pet food are all appropriate gifts for a grieving family. 4. Jewelry Many jewelry stores have a variety of personalized gifts to choose from, and these kinds of gifts are always meaningful to a grieving person. Things like angel wings or hearts with the initials of their loved one, or both them and their loved one (if a spouse) are things that the person dealing with loss will cherish for life. 5. Photos & Paintings Is there a picture of your grieving friend or family member and their deceased loved one that you know they love? Commissioning an artist to paint this photo or even blowing it up and having it framed are memorable gifts as they go through this rough period of their life. Those experiencing loss feel comfort in the pleasant memories they spent with their loved ones, and photos and paintings can be a glimpse into some of the best times ever spent with that person. Several artists online will happily paint a photo for your grieving friend or family member in a difficult period of their life. Alternatively, many office supply stores have whats needed to create a beautifully framed photo for your grieving friend or family member. 6. Sympathetic & Inspirational BooksThere are tons of books out there regarding dealing with the death of a loved one. From classic paper and hardback books to eBooks on platforms like Audible, sympathetic and inspirational books are some of the best gifts for those struggling with the loss of a loved one.Browse websites like Amazon or visit your local bookstore to find the best books to help those who are grieving. 7. Helpful & Thoughtful GiftsIn addition to delivering ready-to-eat meals and groceries for a person dealing with grief, cleaning services, dog walkers, babysitters, or anything else that could make day-to-day life easier for someone grieving can help them focus on healing.Its important to note that dealing with the death of a loved one is a lot of work. Phone calls, visitations from family, and planning of things like funerals are a constant struggle on top of dealing with the heartbreak of a deceased loved one. 8. Self Care Gifts Self-care is one of the first things that goes out the window when dealing with loss. This is especially true if that person is a parent to younger children, and theyre also helping their kids cope with the death of a loved one. Self-care gifts are a thoughtful way to remind those who are grieving that they need to take some time to care for themselves. Trips to the spa, bath time goods (gift baskets), and even a bottle of wine are all thoughtful self-care gifts to provide to someone dealing with grief. 9. Personal Time Gifts One of the most thoughtful things you can provide to a grieving person is your time. Do they need help organizing the funeral, feeding the kids, walking the dogs, or anything like that? If you dont have the money to get them a service to handle these things, offer to do it yourself. Things like helping clean up the living room or picking the kids up from school are small donations of your time that will mean the world to the person experiencing grief. Trust Neptune Society To Make The End Of Life Process As Easy As Possible At Neptune Society, weve helped countless families across the country through the end-of-life process for their loved ones. From funeral planning to cremation and beyond, well work with you to help make sure that your life is as stress-free as you deal with the death of a loved one. ______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family. Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more. 

Interment of ashes refers to cremated remains being buried in the ground or placed in a columbarium. A columbarium  is a building specially designed to hold ashes. Interment is ideal for people who do not wish for their ashes to be scattered or displayed in the home.  There are also religious reasons for ashes to be interred. For example, Catholicism states that ashes should not be scattered, kept at home, or altered in any way. For Catholics, the interment of ashes is the only option once cremated by rules of their faith. Click here to learn more about how religions from around the world view cremation. Additionally, the interment of ashes is a popular option for those families that have filled their desired urns. Interment can allow families to distribute their loved ones ashes to a different location. In this post from the Neptune Society blog, well discuss everything there is to know about the interment of ashes. This post will outline possible locations, types of urns for the interment of ashes, and information regarding interment ceremonies. What Are Appropriate Places For Ashes To Be Interred? Deciding on the proper final resting place for the ashes of your loved one can be a difficult decision. Consider which regions were meaningful to your loved one, a location that could be considered an ideal final resting place. The location can be where they lived, where they raised their family or where they were born. You should attempt to respect their wishes for their final resting place.When it comes to where you can inter ashes, you have options: Columbarium Columbariums are buildings, typically found on the property of a cemetery, specifically designed for the interment of ashes. They are essentially mausoleums, but instead of storing caskets, they house cremated remains. Columbariums can accommodate multiple individuals and even entire families. Each urn has its own designated space, known as a niche.  These niches sometimes display the urns and feature custom engravings.  Cemetery You can bury ashes in a cemetery like a casket, so long as you use the proper urn type. As urns are much smaller than caskets, a single burial plot can accommodate multiple urns. Its essential to check with the cemetery before moving forward with burying multiple urns in a plot. Cemeteries may have guidelines that need to be respected. For example, when interring ashes in a cemetery, its common for the family to add a standard headstone, just like when burying a casket. Urn Garden They will have a specialized space reserved for urns at some cemeteries, known as an urn garden. These are much smaller plots when compared to typical burial plots, but the cemetery may have special rules regarding headstones and grave markers. Public Property When interring ashes on public property, like a national park, it may be possible to do so with written permission from the party responsible for the public area. However, a permit may be required and presented at the time of burial. The rules for burying ashes on public property are similar to those for scattering ashes on public property ask for permission first. Private Property  If you own a property, Its perfectly legal to bury an urn on it. But, keep in mind that if you decide to sell, youll need to dig up the urn and bring it with you or disclose the presence of human remains to the buyers. If looking to bury ashes on private property owned by another individual, always seek written permission before moving forward with the interment of ashes. Choosing The Right Urn For The Interment Of Ashes As there are many different kinds of urns, you have to ensure that the one youre using for the interment of ashes is appropriate for burial or interment. Some urns may degrade over time, so be sure that the urn is composed of durable materials.  Here are some kinds of urns that are appropriate for interment: Metal & Fine Stone Urns Metal and fine stone urns, like granite or marble urns, are ideal for ashes you desire to bury.  These are the most durable urns you can find. While they wont last forever in the ground, they will remain in place for numerous generations before finally degrading into the earth.  Biodegradable Urns Biodegradable urns are an increasingly popular option for those who are eco-conscious and would like to have a green funeral.The concept of a green funeral allows the deceased to return to the earth as quickly as possible. Green burials are ideal for people who love nature and care for the environment. Biodegradable urns are composed of bamboo, untreated wood, cardboard, and other environmentally friendly materials.  Decorative Urns Decorative urns are a great option for those who wish to have their urn displayed. Some columbariums are able to display urns while protecting them from the elements. Since the urn will be on display, a decorative urn that represents and expresses the deceased is an excellent tribute to who they were as a person. Urns that are protected in a columbarium can be made from a variety of materials such as porcelain and glass.  Check out our blog post on Specialty Urns to learn more about how you can honor your loved ones personality and passions in a unique and meaningful way. What About Interment Ceremonies? Ceremonies to accompany the interment of ashes are common, similar to traditional burials. Interment ceremonies are similar to graveside services, providing closure and offering family and friends an opportunity to say goodbye to their loved ones. Funeral Directors & The Interment Of Ashes Funeral directors can often help arrange the ceremony and the interment, including acquiring the location and plot for the interment or niche. In addition, you can expect funeral directors to have relationships with the local cemeteries to help the process along and make it seamless in this stressful time of your life. Plan The Service Accordingly Make sure to plan out how youd like the interment ceremony to go. Whether it will be a friend, family member, or religious leader conducting the ceremony, it must align with the deceaseds wishes and their family. You have the option to perform a eulogy for your loved ones or say a few kind words to express your feelings.  Planning an interment ceremony can be stressful, but it can be a beautiful memorial for the person who has passed away with proper preparation. However, suppose youre unsure how to prepare a cremation memorial. In that case, we have Cremation Memorial Service Ideas that will honor your loved ones memory with honor, dignity, and love. Looking For Assistance With Interring Ashes Of A Loved One? Trust Neptune Society At Neptune Society, we have helped countless Americans with the interment of ashes for their loved ones. Through our cremation services and relationships with local cemeteries and funeral homes, weve moved the process along smoothly for individuals experiencing the death of a close friend or family member. For more information, contact us online or give us a call today at 1-800-637-8863.______________________________________________________________________________________________The Neptune Society is the nations oldest and largest provider of affordable cremation services. Whether you have an immediate need or want to plan cremation services in advance, we are always available to assist you and your family.Call 1-800-NEPTUNE (800-637-8863) today or contact us online to learn more.