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It is upsetting to imagine the end of a loved one’s life, especially if the diagnosis is still fresh. Below are several tips to help you provide care and comfort for them in their final days.
As you read, be kind to yourself as you navigate this difficult process and take your time to absorb the information at your own pace.
Talking about death is difficult, but it’s crucial for both you and your loved one to process the diagnosis. Try to communicate openly about what your loved one is feeling and what they want to prioritize in their remaining days. You might consider involving a counselor or chaplain, as they can help guide these conversations.
According to the University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center, an important part of accepting a life-limiting diagnosis is to find joy in the final days.1 Help your loved one appreciate the richness that still exists, embrace time with family, and continue enjoying their hobbies for as long as possible.
It’s natural to want to say something helpful or inspiring, but it’s crucial to be aware of the weight that your words can carry. Avoid words that might minimize their experience or convey false optimism. Rather, choose phrases that express love and support while acknowledging the gravity of the situation.
Comforting words for a terminally ill family member, according to The Denver Hospice, can look something like this:
It’s difficult to predict what will happen, but you’ll want to have a conversation with your loved one’s doctor about some possibilities so you can prepare yourself. According to Marie Curie, a UK hospice provider and charity organization, a person’s symptoms will depend on their illness, general health, and any treatments they’ve undergone.3 You might notice a change in their appetite, behavior, energy level, or appearance. This may be upsetting to consider, but keep in mind your loved one can receive palliative care at home or in a hospital setting to manage most of their symptoms.
Discomfort during the final days of life can be caused by a variety of sources. While it’s possible your loved one may not have any pain at all, depending on their diagnosis, they may experience symptoms like breathing problems, muscle or joint stiffness, skin irritation, or digestive issues. Be aware of signs of discomfort, such as trouble sleeping, increased agitation, or crying. To help them feel as comfortable as possible, try these suggestions from the National Institute on Aging (NIA):
Toward the end of life, many people develop an existential search for meaning or reconciliation. According to the NIA, it can help to have family, friends, spiritual leaders, and other members of their social circle talk to them about the importance of their relationship, share fond memories, and attempt to resolve any disputes.4 If someone can’t visit, ask them to send a video or letter sharing their thoughts.
Emotional pain is very important to treat during this time. Your loved one may feel frightened and anxious about the unknown, or they may have specific fears or concerns. Consider contacting a counselor to provide an unbiased outlet for your loved one to discuss their feelings.
You can also try these methods to help moderate your loved one’s mental and emotional needs, as suggested by the NIA:
Practical tasks, like daily chores and errands, might be a source of stress or worry for your loved one. Lend them a hand by taking care of simple tasks they can no longer do on their own, such as picking up their mail, doing their laundry, and caring for pets.
Additionally, you’ll want to consider legal and financial matters that may arise later down the road, including your loved one’s advance directives. You can contact your local Area Agency on Aging, the Veteran’s Affairs office, or a lawyer for guidance.
Family members sometimes withdraw when a loved one receives a terminal illness because they don’t know how to help or they need time to grieve. Alternatively, your loved one may feel the need to withdraw while they process the news. You can help make their final chapter count by involving them in activities and conversations as much as possible. If they’re able, bring them along to lunches with friends, take them to the park, and encourage family and friends to visit often. Even if their mobility becomes limited, regular visits are still important, if not more so.
Together, explore what has given their life meaning and purpose over the years. Spend time reminiscing on their life pre-diagnosis, reminding them of how they’ve impacted certain people, their accomplishments, and places they’ve traveled. Help them cross items off their bucket list if they can, dig up cherished photo albums and home videos, and find joy in each day. Remember, they’re still living, and that’s worth celebrating.
To take care of someone else, you will need to take care of yourself. Family caregivers can practice self-care by investing in friendships, practicing a positive inner voice, listening to music, and caring for their overall well-being. Additionally, it may be wise to call your primary care provider to make sure you’re in good enough condition to care for someone else. They may also be able to tell you what types of support are available if you need it. They may be able to receive support for palliative care or hospice care at home where their environment is comfortable and familiar.
It takes strength to ask for help, but it’s often necessary. Remember, you’re not alone in this. If you’re caring for a loved one with a terminal illness, there are plenty of community resources available to you. At HomeWell, we help reduce that strain by providing meaningful in-home care services that work in tandem with your loved one’s existing healthcare services.
To learn more and find help, schedule a consultation with HomeWell today. If you’re interested in more tips about family caregiving, be sure to check out our downloadable Trusted Tips and Guides. Here, you can access a wide range of helpful insights about caring for your aging loved one’s health, quality of life, and more.
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For low-income Collier County residents who are working but uninsured, access to the medications they need is not as easy as going to a regular chain pharmacy to pick them up. Thats where the Neighborhood Health Clinics expanded non-narcotic medication room comes in, giving patients managing chronic conditions including hypertension and diabetes timely access to medications at no cost. The 1,850-square-foot medication room, located at the clinic on Goodlette-Frank Road near Central Avenue, was built at a cost of $500,000 and is named for the late Stacy Forman, a Naples philanthropist who donated funding for the expansion.Keith Maples, CEO of Neighborhood Health Clinic, said the expanded medications facility enhances the clinics ability to serve patients faster and more efficiently. On a typical day, a patient can walk in and when they walk out, theyre walking out with thousands of dollars worth of medication that, if it were outside of the Clinic, they would not be able to fill those prescriptions because it would be outside of what they could afford, Maples said. He said the expanded space, equipped with updated technology and increased storage capacity, allows for a larger inventory of non-narcotic medications that enables the Clinic to fill prescriptions immediately to minimize delays in treatment. In 2024, the Clinic distributed $6.5 million in retail value of medications thanks to partnerships with Americares, Direct Relief, Dispensary of Hope and other pharmaceutical companies. The expansion allows us to work even more with our pharmaceutical partners to basically procure all of the medications necessary for our patients, Maples said. He said that many patients arriving at the Clinic for the first time have not previously received medical care for the condition needing treatment and may have vastly elevated blood pressure or blood sugar levels, for example. When they walk through the doors, theyre at such a heightened level that were trying to bring it back to a controlled number to where its manageable for them, Maples said. If their A1Cs are through the roof, their [blood] sugars are through the roof, were trying to get them back to an established number that helps them feel better. Well never cure them of all those illnesses, but well maintain that health for them, so they feel better and have a better quality of life.Clinic grows to meet patient demand The nonprofit Neighborhood Health Clinic was established in 1999 by Dr. Bill and Nancy Lascheid to provide medical care to low-income, working but uninsured Collier County adults. Their daughter, Leslie Lascheid, now serves as president of the organization. In 2024 the clinic saw more than 12,000 patient visits and delivered more than 30,000 patient procedures, Maples said, with all medications, primary care, specialty care, surgeries and outpatient procedures provided free of charge to patients.All funding is through philanthropy, as the Clinic does not receive any city, county, state or federal funding including Medicaid or Medicare. Over the years the clinic has expanded as the patient load has increased. The original 11,000-square-foot facility more than doubled in size with the completion of the Armstrong Medical Specialties Building in 2021, which expanded the campus to 23,000 square feet. The addition of the Van Domelen Education and Wellness Building, also in 2021, took the total to its current 32,000 square feet, and when the Bill and Candy Raveis Pathology Building is completed this summer, the total campus will be at 43,000 square feet, according to Marcie Berland, the Clinics director of development. Maples said the Clinic has expanded strategically over the years to meet the medical needs of patients many of whom work in hospitality, service or construction industries in Collier County and the growing volume of patient visits. When weve expanded, we didnt do it just to do it, he said. We based it on what were the patient needs and what do we need in-house on a daily basis to deliver the care, providing the opportunity for a patient to walk in the door, get all the care they need and not have to go to another location somewhere else, or come for another appointment. Because when our patients miss days of work, thats food on the table and the roof over their heads. Its not like if I call in sick: I get a sick day and still get paid. He said the campus expansions allow most procedures including lab work to be done in-house, creating opportunities for sustainable, uninterrupted patient care. When that patient walks through the doors, I never want them to wonder where theyre going to get their care or how theyre getting to their next appointment, Maples said. Many of our patients get rides here, or they walk or ride their bikes, because very few own cars that they can drive in. And while the Clinic does have a full-time paid staff of 14 and five part-time staff, no medical professionals are paid to deliver care, Maples said. More than 250 physicians, 50 dentists, 100 nurses and 300 non-medical personnel deliver care and provide patient education on a volunteer basis.
Beyond the Surface: Naples Cancer Advisors Spotlight Melanoma During Awareness MonthMay 1, 20256 Min ReadBy Jillian Hunt, CNP Executive Director of Clinical Operations at Naples Cancer AdvisorsMay is Melanoma Awareness Month, and in sun-drenched Collier and Lee Counties, its more than a calendar observance. Its a call to action. The sunny environment increases exposure to ultraviolet (UV) rays, which are a significant risk factor for skin cancer, including melanoma. Understanding the risks and adopting preventive measures can help residents enjoy the sun safely while minimizing their skin cancer risk.At NCA, we specialize in delivering second opinions and expert oncology guidance at no cost to patients. Our team, including nationally recognized oncologist Dr. Philip Leming, believes that no one should face a cancer diagnosis alone. This month, we want to shine a light on reshaping melanoma prevention, detection, and awarenessso you can stay protected and proactive.Prevention: A Daily Practice, Not Just a Summer ChecklistMost people know the basics: use sunscreen, avoid tanning beds, cover up when outside. But melanoma doesnt just show up where the sun shines. It can develop under your fingernails, between your toes, even on your scalp or eyes. We educate patients to look everywhere, not just the obvious spots.One powerful (and often overlooked) fact: a single blistering sunburn in childhood doubles your lifetime risk of melanoma. Thats why prevention is a family affair. We urge parents to build sun safety habits early and keep them consistent all year.Detection: A Watchful Eye is The Best ToolThe front line of defense against skin cancer is early detection. Identifying skin changes especially changes in moles is the easiest way to catch skin cancer earlier.What is a mole?A mole is a benign (non-cancerous) growth on the skin that develops when melanocytes, the cells responsible for producing pigment, cluster together instead of being evenly distributed. Moles can be present from birth or develop later in life.ABCDEs of Moles and Melanoma Detection Asymmetry: One half of the mole doesnt match the other. Border irregularity: The edges of the mole are uneven, ragged, or notched. Color variation: The mole has multiple shades of brown, black, or other colors like red, white, or blue. Diameter: The mole is larger than 6 millimeters (about the size of a pencil eraser). Evolving: The mole has changed in size, shape, or color, or has new symptoms like itching, bleeding, or crusting.The ABCDEs are a helpful tool for self-examination and can prompt individuals to seek professional medical advice if any of these signs are present.Dermatologists remain the front line in detection and diagnosis. However, emerging technologies are offering exciting backup. Artificial intelligence skin scanners and total body imaging are improving the speed and accuracy of diagnosis.Whether its through advanced tools or a trained eye, one truth remains: catching melanoma early saves lives.The NCA Difference: Compassionate, Cost-Free Cancer GuidanceNaples Cancer Advisors was founded to be a bridge for patients who feel lost, overwhelmed, or unsure where to turn after a cancer diagnosis. We offer a second set of expert eyes, help explain treatment options, connect people to top-tier providers, and support them throughout their journey.Melanoma may be aggressive, but its also highly preventable and treatable when caught early. This May, we urge everyone in our community to schedule a skin check, learn your ABCDEs (Asymmetry, Border, Color, Diameter, Evolving), and take sun safety seriously.And if you ever need clarity or support after a diagnosis, Naples Cancer Advisors is herefree, local, and fully focused on you.Jillian Hunt, CNP BioJillian has been caring for cancer patients since 2004. In that time, she has set the benchmark for her patient-centric approach in Cincinnati, Southwest Florida, and beyond.Her professional journey began at Cincinnati Childrens Hospital Medical Center in 1999 on the hematology/oncology/bone marrow transplant unit and later the emergency department.After spending five years caring for children, Jillian found her passion in caring for the adult oncology patient. Starting as a chemotherapy infusion nurse in private practice with Dr. Philip Leming at Cincinnati Hematology Oncology, she then pursued an advanced degree to offer a higher level of care to her cancer patients.Jillian has been an oncology nurse practitioner since 2011 and is passionate about patient care, education and staying current on research opportunities available for the patients she cares for.Jillian is a national speaker traveling to educate clinicians on the use and management of toxicities of medications that are used in cancer treatments. She has spoken at national nursing conferences and sits on several advisory boards. Jillian feels strongly about staying on the front lines to improve patient care and expert advice on cancer.Jillian was born and raised in Cincinnati and graduated from Lakota High School. She and her husband have five children. Outside of her love and passion for oncology, Jillian and her husband are licensed foster parents and have participated in global mission trips to serve orphaned children around the world.Naples Cancer Advisors239-846-2273 (CARE)3201 Tamiami Trail N, Suite 112, Naples, FL 34103
HomeWell Care Services is dedicated to providing exceptional non-medical home care that allows individuals to live independently and comfortably in their own homes. Whether you are aging in place, recovering from an illness, or managing a chronic condition, our compassionate caregivers and expert Care Managers are here to support you every step of the way.We offer a wide range of personalized care services, including Companion Care, Personal Care, and Specialty Care, tailored to meet your unique needs. Our flexible care options range from hourly visits to 24-hour and live-in care, ensuring you receive the right level of support at the right time.At HomeWell, we believe in the power of proactive care. Our Signature Programs, such as GoHomeWell and SureStep, are designed by experts to go beyond everyday assistance, promoting long-term health and well-being. With a focus on enhancing quality of life, we also provide specialized services, including Hospice and Palliative Care Support, Alzheimers and Dementia Care, and Respite Care for family caregivers.Our commitment extends to all members of our community, including veterans, couples, and adults under 65, offering tailored care solutions that meet diverse needs. We proudly serve families across [your service areas], bringing trusted care and true compassion to every home we visit.Experience the peace of mind that comes with knowing you or your loved one is in good hands. Contact HomeWell Care Services today to learn more about how we can help you live a happier, healthier life at home.
HomeWell Care Services is dedicated to providing exceptional non-medical home care that allows individuals to live independently and comfortably in their own homes. Whether you are aging in place, recovering from an illness, or managing a chronic condition, our compassionate caregivers and expert Care Managers are here to support you every step of the way.We offer a wide range of personalized care services, including Companion Care, Personal Care, and Specialty Care, tailored to meet your unique needs. Our flexible care options range from hourly visits to 24-hour and live-in care, ensuring you receive the right level of support at the right time.At HomeWell, we believe in the power of proactive care. Our Signature Programs, such as GoHomeWell and SureStep, are designed by experts to go beyond everyday assistance, promoting long-term health and well-being. With a focus on enhancing quality of life, we also provide specialized services, including Hospice and Palliative Care Support, Alzheimers and Dementia Care, and Respite Care for family caregivers.Our commitment extends to all members of our community, including veterans, couples, and adults under 65, offering tailored care solutions that meet diverse needs. We proudly serve families across [your service areas], bringing trusted care and true compassion to every home we visit.Experience the peace of mind that comes with knowing you or your loved one is in good hands. Contact HomeWell Care Services today to learn more about how we can help you live a happier, healthier life at home.