Love in the Time of Memory Care Guided by the Five Love Languages

Moving a loved one with dementia into a memory care community can be an emotional and challenging experience for both the individual and their family. Adjusting to a new environment, routine, and group of caregivers takes time, but there are ways families can help make the transition feel more comfortable and familiar. From having important conversations before the move to staying involved afterward, small steps can make a meaningful difference.Supporting Your Loved One Through the Transition to Memory CareHave a Conversation Before the MoveBefore a transition to memory care, it may be beneficial to have a conversation about the move with your loved one. Start by sitting down with them one-on-one in a calm and quiet space when you feel the time is right. Explain what they can expect from their move and new day-to-day in a simple, reassuring way and give them the opportunity to express any thoughts or concerns. Also try to involve them in decisions where possible.Make Their New Space Feel Like HomeYou dont want to move your loved one into a space that feels unfamiliar and cold. Not every piece of furniture or decor has to be brand new either. They want to feel comfortable and at home, and there are plenty of ways to do that for them. During the move, bring familiar furniture with them, their beloved photographs, knick-knacks, artwork, and other meaningful items.Another way to make their space feel like home is to incorporate familiar scents or items that remind them of home. Familiarity can be especially comforting for individuals with dementia, as recognizable belongings, surroundings, and even scents can give them a sense of security in an unfamiliar environment.You can also maintain that sense of familiarity by implementing their everyday routines into new daily life. Whether its enjoying morning coffee, listening to their favorite music, or enjoying daily walks, these familiar routines can help make the new environment feel a little more like home. Routines help to promote independence and reduce stress for individuals with dementia.Stay InvolvedStaying involved after a move provides a variety of emotional and situational benefits for both you and your loved one. For your loved one, seeing a familiar face regularly will help reduce feelings of anxiety and unease. Additionally, regular visits will help them feel valued, comforted, and connected to the people they know and love.For you, visiting your loved one and their community will allow you to build a relationship with staff. This can allow you to get to know the people who take care of your loved one day to day as well as share your own insight into your loved ones unique personality, habits, preferences, and history. You also will be able to get regular updates on how your loved one is doing and adjusting and receive updates on changes to their care plan.Your visits dont have to be lengthy, but ensure that youre getting the most out of them. You can participate in activities or community events or just drop in whenever youd like. Bring photos, your loved ones favorite snacks, or something you can do together like a game or craft.Give Them Time to AdjustA new environment, daily routine, and unfamiliar faces can feel overwhelming for someone with dementia. It may take time for them to become comfortable with their new surroundings and to recognize the people around them. If you experience a particularly difficult transition initially, its important to keep in mind that it doesnt mean you made the wrong decision. There may be good days and difficult days as your loved one adjusts, and thats okay.Let the Care Team HelpYou dont have to navigate a transition alone.From Executive Directors and nursing staff to the culinary and activities teams, your loved ones care team is there to support you both throughout the transition. The team will learn your loved ones preferences, routines, unique personality, and needs in order to make their experience lively and comfortable. Additionally, you should share any information with the care team that you think is relevant, whether its what comforts your loved one, what they enjoy, or what might cause frustration or discomfort with them. You can also check in with the staff whenever you feel the need.At Northland Heights, our team takes the time to get to know each resident as an individual and wants each resident to feel comfortable, valued, and at home every day.Give Yourself GraceLastly, as a caregiver and family member, its vital to give yourself some grace in the process.Its normal to experience guilt, sadness, or uncertainty during a transition to memory care. It can be difficult to let someone else take on some of the responsibilities of taking care of your loved one, and because of that your role may look different now. Choosing memory care for your loved one doesnt mean that youve stopped caring. Youre still a huge source of comfort, familiarity, and connection for them.If youre struggling with feelings of guilt as a caregiver, remember youre not alone. Learn more about caregiver guilt and overcoming these feelings in our recent blog post.Adjustment Takes TimeTransitioning to memory care is a big change, and its completely normal for both you and your loved one to take time to adjust.Its crucial to remember that you dont have to navigate any of it alone. By creating a familiar environment, staying involved, maintaining routines, and keeping in the loop with your loved ones care team, you can make the process feel more comfortable and reassuring. There may be challenges, but with time, patience, and support, your loved one can begin to feel comfortable, connected, and at home in their new community.

Passions Grow, Passions Bloom: Cultivating Wellness at Willow Valley Communities Among the most popular passions at Willow Valley Communities is gardening. And, Residents here have a wide variety of ways to indulge. Three generous gardens are situated across our sprawling 210-acre campus for Residents to use in a multitude of configurations of their choosing. Willow Valley Communities hardworking Grounds Team tills each garden in the spring and plows them in the fall, making them ready for Residents to dig right in. Whether Residents are experienced pros or novices, gardening is a wonderful way for them to get outside, enjoy nature and each other, and learn new things. Some Residents have been gardening for decades, while others have only started gardening after moving to Willow Valley Communities. In keeping with our Life Lived Forward philosophy, some Willow Valley Communities Residents take their love of gardening to deeper levels. For example, several Residents from across the country have achieved the distinction of Master Gardener. Master Gardeners are certified in their home state, and the program can take six months to a year to complete and includes a minimum of 40 hours of classroom training, a score of 80 percent on the final exam, and 50 hours of volunteer service. In another example, Residents Annabelle Simpson and Susan Kelly worked with the Penn State Extension of the Pennsylvania State University to have one of their gardens certified as an official Pennsylvania Pollinator-Friendly Garden. The stunning garden is well-known for attracting huge numbers of bees, butterflies, insects, and birds, helping our ecosystem to thrive. Residents are also able to partner their gardening skills with their desire to volunteer and give back to the Lancaster community. With the areas rich, fertile soil, and the extra special care and attention the plants receive, Residents often have an abundance of vegetables and donate them regularly. Throughout the growing season, the Solanco Neighborhood Ministries food bank receives a variety of beans, lettuce, kale, peas, carrots, eggplant, cucumbers, peppers, tomatoes, spinach, and much more from Willow Valley Communities Resident gardens. Additionally, every fall, a harvest of hundreds of pounds of sweet potatoes and butternut squash goes to the Lancaster County Food Hub, a community resource for free, nutritious food and gently used clothing. Some Residents maintain gardening plots every year just for this purpose.Annabelle Simpson and Susan Kelly Gardening time is couple time for Residents Mike and Susan Ziegler. Sue is an avid gardener, and Mike loves being outdoors supporting her gardening passion at Willow Valley Communities. They both love being together in nature, and Sue is amazed by how magical gardening can be. Its just a miracle when the seeds come up, she says. Resident Pat Mortensen challenges herself every year by growing something completely different. Once she enjoyed a robust harvest of King Tut Purple Peas, a very rare garden pea said to have been taken out of the tomb of King Tut! Resident and Master Gardener Angela Booker-White is originally from Virginia but has lived all over the country. Her interest in gardening grew as she read and learned more about it. In her plot at Spring Run, Angela grows all sorts of fruits, vegetables, and flowers and always tries something new. She has the most success with seeds she purchases from the dollar store! Angela has also learned how gardening can help during challenging times. She is grateful to her garden, as well as to her fellow Willow Valley Communities gardeners, for helping her during the difficult time of her husbands unexpected passing. Gardeners, and she doesnt know exactly who, would come and help by doing extra work around her plot. Residents just came in and helped, Angela says. Weeding, cutting, trimming, harvesting whatever work needed to be done. Thats the way Residents are here at Willow Valley Communities: very supportive. Resident Keith Yoder, who coordinates the Spring Run Garden, is not at all surprised by the variety of gardeners at Willow Valley Communities or by the reasons they enjoy the activity so much. He agrees that gardening is definitely a hobby that enhances well-being. Though hes known this himself for years, he refers to an article put out by CNBC that states how gardening can add years to your life. And life to your years, Keith adds. Gardening gets you into nature. Its good exercise for your body and your mind plus, you get to eat what you grow!

The Willow Valley Communities Day Spa is a destination for wellness and renewal. Its a critical component of the comprehensive Mind, Body, Spirit approach to wellness of Willow Valley Communities. The Day Spa offers many ways to soothe, calm, invigorate, or rejuvenate. A full range of professional services, all performed by our attentive and inviting staff, allows Residents to create their own regimen for personal well-being and beauty. These services include manicures and pedicures, skin care, facials, revitalizing peels, waxing, tanning, microdermabrasion, and body treatments with a wide range of different massage modalities, wraps, and scrubs. The Relaxation Room, with its beautiful waterfall and Himalayan Salt Wall, is a main feature of The Day Spa. It provides a peaceful and well-appointed environment in which to relax and offers a perfect and welcome respite between services. Himalayan salt rich in negative ions and essential nutrients and minerals offers numerous health benefits for our bodies, such as stress reduction, energy increases, and mood boosts at a biochemical level. Day Spa Manager Diamando Wallace says, Self-care is essential. Although manicures and pedicures are a well-deserved treat, they offer so much more to Residents sense of well-being. You can see the boost in a clients self-confidence as they walk out feeling refreshed.  Massages are one of the most popular services requested by Residents, and The Day Spa offers a wide menu of options, including hot stone and aromatherapy. Emily Ransing, Willow Valley Communities Day Spa Massage Therapist, says, Massage is meant to enhance your well-being physically and mentally. I frequently remind my clients that this is their time to focus on themselves to feel healthier. I do all I can to send each client home feeling better than when they arrived. A Willow Valley Communities Resident was asked about her massage as she was leaving The Day Spa one afternoon. She said, After a massage with Emily, your body is so relaxed that you can focus on the things that you often overlook the air is sweeter, the birds are more melodious, the day is brighter. You are better equipped to face the next days, whatever they may bring. As she walked out of the Cultural Center to her car, she added with a smile, Its also a way to take the tension out of your body although theres not much tension at Willow Valley Communities!