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Are you in a situation where you can’t rely on family for help with senior care? Conversations about senior care tend to assume that the senior's children will need to assist their parents as they age. But this isn't always an option. Many need to plan for care without relying on family at all.


Thankfully, aging on one's own is entirely possible. Senior care systems are increasingly recognizing this pattern and helping to support independent aging. 


When you're aging on your own, planning becomes crucial. You'll need to put systems in place as early as possible, and refine your plans as things change. In this article, we will provide tips to guide you along that path, the types of senior care facilities you might consider moving into, in the event that aging in place is no longer an option.



Why some seniors don't rely on family for future care


There are many reasons that people don't rely on family members for future care. It can be as simple as not having any children or close relatives. Other times, they might have close relatives, but those relatives might not be able to help - perhaps because they live out of state or even in another country, or due to other overwhelming responsibilities.


Some seniors might simply want to do things on their own, reducing the burden on their loved ones. This can be the best option in the event of any estranged or otherwise difficult relationships.



Risks of not planning ahead


Without planning ahead, you run the risk of having to make big decisions in the midst of a crisis. In those instances, your resources, attention, and options are often limited, and you might not get the solution you want.


There are also situations where you simply can't make decisions for yourself, such as being in a coma or having late-stage dementia. In those cases, someone needs to make decisions on your behalf. Without the right paperwork, the person and decisions might not be what you hope for at all.


In practice, a lack of planning could leave you in assisted living when you'd rather age at home, or mean that you're kept alive with interventions that you never would have chosen.


The following three sections highlight the main approaches to take when planning ahead for your own senior care.



Set up legal decision-making documents


Certain legal documents are used to express your wishes and ensure that the right people are making decisions for you.


Crucial documents include


- A living will, detailing your health care wishes. This includes information about comfort care, resuscitation, and life-sustaining treatments (such as feeding tubes).

- A health care power of attorney (POA), which gives the nominated person the authority to make decisions for you in specific circumstances. Your living will guides these decisions.

- Financial and legal POA. These are similar to a health care POA but for financial and legal matters.

- Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) release forms. These forms can speed up your health care agent's access to medical information and make it easier for someone to help you with health care decisions.



Plan for housing and care needs


The various options for housing and senior care can seem overwhelming at first. However, research and planning now can make a world of difference later, in the event that care needs become significant. Here are the main options to consider when planning where to live as you age: 


Aging in place


Many older adults wish to continue living in their own homes as they age. Being fully independent is possible for some, but can become difficult as physical abilities, cognition, and overall health decline. Aging in place may require you to rely on outside support, such as: 


- Home care.

- Home health care.

- Meal prep assistance or delivery.

- Local community assistance programs.

- Home modifications for safety.


It's also important to stay connected socially when living independently. This is crucial for well-being, and means that there's someone around to notice any declines in health that you might miss.


However, even with this support, aging in place can become an unrealistic option for some. It's worth considering other options early, as well as looking for signs that it's time to move to a senior care facility.



Independent living


Independent living communities, as the name implies, are designed for seniors who don't need daily hands-on care but want a simpler, more supportive lifestyle. They often include private apartments or cottages, along with such features as dining options, housekeeping, transportation, social activities, and maintenance-free living. Some are stand-alone communities, while others are part of larger senior living campuses that also offer assisted living, memory care, or nursing care.


Independent living can work if you want more convenience, more opportunities for connection, and fewer responsibilities at home while still maintaining a high level of independence. Planning ahead gives you time to compare communities, think about what services and amenities matter to you most, and decide whether a stand-alone setting or a larger community with higher levels of care would be a better fit in the long term.


Assisted living


Assisted living provides support with activities of daily living, such as eating and bathing.


These types of communities have other benefits, as well, including engagement and connection, prepared meals, transportation, planned activities, and various amenities. In fact, most things you could possibly need are close at hand, which can make a huge difference in the daily life of a senior.


Planning ahead gives you the chance to research communities, decide which ones you might like, and talk to them about the future.


Skilled nursing


Skilled nursing provides a higher level of support for seniors who require ongoing medical supervision, as well as help with daily living. In addition to assistance with tasks like bathing, getting dressed, and moving around, they also have licensed staff available to help manage more complex health needs.


A skilled nursing setting may be necessary if you have serious medical concerns, substantial physical limitations, or a condition that most likely requires close monitoring over time. Planning ahead gives you a chance to learn exactly how skilled nursing differs from other senior care options, consider just what level of medical support you might need in the future, and identify communities that would be a reasonable fit for you if that level of support ever becomes necessary.


Continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs)


CCRCs provide a spectrum of care ranging from independent living to nursing care, so you can simply move within the community as your needs change. The end result is smaller transitions, a familiar environment, and increased financial predictability.


This option is quite expensive, however, and it's best to enter them while you're still healthy. As such, they're not the best choice for everyone.



Questions to ask yourself about future care


While the differences between senior care environments are important to consider, you should also consider what matters to you. Here are some questions to ask as you plan for the future:


- Do you have a health condition that might limit your ability to care for yourself in the future?

- Are there significant health conditions that run in your family? If so, how might these affect your independence?

- How important is aging at home to you?

- Could you find connection and peace in a community of other people your age?

- What happens if you're diagnosed with dementia? When would you consider memory care?



Organize your finances


Not relying on family when planning for senior care means you might need to rely more heavily on paid services, making aging more expensive. Furthermore, long-term non-medical care comes with limited financial support.


Many of the costs must be paid privately, through a combination of personal savings, investments, pensions, and proceeds from asset sales. Medicaid and veteran's benefits are sometimes relevant if you fit the criteria, and long-term care insurance can also be helpful. However, the latter needs to be purchased early, before any significant diagnoses have been made.


Here are some important tips for keeping your finances organized while planning for senior care.


- Store important documents in a single place, and update them regularly.

- Take time to understand the lowest income you're likely to have in the future. This information is crucial for developing a realistic strategy.

- Talk to a financial advisor and an elder law attorney to determine the best use of your assets.

- Develop a budget that both meets your current needs and allows you to save for the future.

- Review spending and future plans regularly. Doing so is crucial, as markets change and your needs may change as well.



Oasis can help you plan for future senior care needs


Planning for senior care without relying on family support can feel like a lot to bear by yourself, but with the right legal documents, proper financial planning, and a thoughtful approach to future housing and care, you can make a path that gives you more stability, choice, and peace of mind.


Oasis Senior Advisors Carrollton-Frisco can help you think through your options and prepare for what comes next. Whether you're exploring independent or assisted living, or memory or nursing care, Oasis can help you understand the differences between these options, narrow down the right fit, and make a plan that supports your goals for the future. Contact your local advisor, Holly DeLisi, at (682) 375-9604 to learn more.


The rules and requirements of senior care facilities vary based on company policies and state regulations. The contents of this article represent common guidelines, but may differ from a particular facility's policies or requirements. Oasis can also help you learn about the regulations in your state.


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